Gay and lesbian-friendly wedding cake toppers

January 10 | meganfinley

Unhappy truth: It's hard to find an abundance of gay-friendly and/or gender neutral wedding stuff. From advice, to porn, to products … our gender-bending, same-sex-loving friends constantly get the shaft. Recently, we got a request for advice on where to find same-sex cake toppers, so I thought I'd show you some of the ones I've found over the years…

Weddingstar is an interesting company. They're the ones that brought us some of the most barf-tastic and insulting cake toppers, but they're also one of only companies that make a bride-in-a-suit topper and sell their mini-people in separates, like this bride, and the more casual groom in grey. They also have offbeat toppers of color.


The "Sisters by Heart" figure from Willow Tree is as sweet as can be. "Sisters," huh? Yeah… okay. (wink wink)

This Ty Wilson porcelain statuette of two brides wearing dresses features four different ethnicities of brides that can be mixed and matched. Ty Wilson also makes the same version with the dual bouquet for dudes.

In fact, WeddingCollectibles.com is one of the only places that you can find wedding cake toppers that work for gay couples of color. Unless you go the custom route…

These two-bride cake toppers from GayWeddings.com are completely customizable, including the hair, eyes and skin color, height, clothes and even the pose.

Blingy goodness over here is not only sparkly-as-fuck, but it's one of the only alphabet-type cake toppers that doesn't assume you're both taking the same name. Swarovski ampersand FTW! (Say that three-times fast.)

For those of you who don't want to shell out tons of dough for a blingy ampersand, check out Hortense B. Hewitt's wedding cake letters where you can also purchase an ampersand and a heart.

Aw, gender-neutral love birds are in love!

Here's another casually ambiguous kissing couple, it reminds me a lot of this cake topper. But I like that this is multi-purpose — it's actually a salt and pepper shaker. To see more magnetic salt and pepper shakers that could be cake toppers, including many that are gender neutral, check out this post.

I thought for sure some of these skeletal cake toppers would be gender-neutral, I mean, they're skulls. But alas, they very clearly bride-y and groom-y. So I took my search over to Etsy for some Day of Dead (Gay of the Dead?) cake toppers. This one from Localovespirate comes in grooms and brides.

This one is romantic as hell. Seriously, it's even called the "romance" lesbian cake topper. It's hand-painted, including small Swarovski crystal wedding bands, and hair accents!

Something about this Nene Thomas Fairy Figurine reminded me of Anli and Laura's lesbian gamer geek wedding. Couple that lovely lady with this lovely lady and you have an amazing lesbian fantasy wedding cake topper.

Does anyone else out there have advice on where to find good gay-friendly wedding cake toppers? If so, leave 'em in the comments. And for more cake topper ideas check out these posts…

  1. I love all the animal s&p shakers/cake toppers. I'm a sucker for adorable animals, what can I say? Besides "Who's a widdle CUDDLE WUDDLE FACE?!" that is.

    And dude, guys, way to pamper us with 4 updates in a day. Careful, or we'll get used to this. ;)

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    • love these! also check out http://www.gayketoppers.com for the discriminating cake topper for those who do not discriminate…. a universal caketopper designed and hand-crafted by a lesbian architect in pasadena, ca. the specular aluminum rings are packaged in a glass jar with a tea candle to allow transformation from cake topper or sculptural object into a tea light lantern (tea light included) – see website for transformation into lantern.

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  2. I've seen LOTS of cute animal wedding toppers on etsy. I was thinking of getting those mainly because I hate how cheesy a lot of bride/groom wedding toppers are.

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  3. hah, we actually considered the last of your suggestions for our fairy springfest wedding :DD because honestly, if it's hard trying to find lesbian cake toppers, it's nearly impossible to find lesbian FAIRY cake toppers. i love that "sisters by heart" one though. a lot.

    we might just opt out of cake toppers completely, or make them ourselves.
    i had a brief moment of wanting to use my highly adorable miniature my little pony figures.. until my fiancées look popped my bubble of excitement :( she's right, of course… but they would've rocked that cake.

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    • My Little Ponies rock! I would love to see a cake with pony toppers!

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  4. We're using Simpsons figurines — we're a straight couple, but goddamn I hate those standard cheesy as a toastie cake toppers. And I'm a nerd.

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    • We're using Han and Leia action figures as our cake toppers! Action figure cake toppers ftw!

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  5. If you were doing cupcakes and into diy, I would suggest going to a toy store/model building store. They should have various models in various scales (army guys, people to hang out on model train landscapes, etc) that can be painted however you want. Gender neutral, maybe not so much. Customizable for race and sexual orientation? Totally.

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  6. ..Actually my parents got me and my sister the sisters one when we were younger as a gift as a symbol of family unity.

    but okay. haha

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  7. A guy-guy wedding I went to actually used toy soldiers as cake toppers. It was pretty cute.

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  9. That fairy figurine is beautiful! And you are soooooooo right about the initial thing being annoying, as not all couple take the same last name. I am, but it's only because I despise my biological father and can't wait to get rid of his name once and for all.

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  10. my mom actually got my fiancee & i that willow tree 'sisters at heart' figurine for christmas (she adorably did the whole 'i know you two arent sisters,..but i thought the two girls holding hands fit' cuteness)! i hadn't thought to use that as our cake topper…i think it would work perfectly and would be a sentimental touch!

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  11. My nephew bought us smurfette brides. Pretty cool for a 13 year old.

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    • ZOMG! Smurfette? Best idea EVAR!!!

      – Becca

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  12. So I am not at all affiliated with this store, I was looking for a cute valentines gift that my honeyy would like and I discovered some interesting same-sex couple cake topper. They are "more traditional" complete with a gazebos. Not everyone's style, but hey it is another option. Here is the link for the two grooms
    http://www.mcphee.com/shop/products/Two-Grooms-Cake-Topper.html and here is the one for two brides http://www.mcphee.com/shop/products/Two-Brides-Cake-Topper.html

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  13. My girlfiend and I used the Died and Groomed mini living dead dolls. Whilest not two females it fitted in with our black and red themed and was such a different idea gender didnt facture in.

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  14. Fiance and I are looking for something specific. Have seen and fallen in love with cake toppers that are 2 rings. Sadly, they are all for straight couples and one of the rings always comes with a "diamond" on top. Would totally be up for just ripping the "diamond" off, but I think that would probably leave an awkward mark. Anyone seen toppers of just two plain silver/titanium/platinum looking bands?

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  15. I work at a photo lab and recently developed a customer's photos… He and his husband used two stuffed teddies dressed as grooms. It was adorable, and totally fitting because they were bears ;D love it!

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  16. I want to see a bride caketopper in a black tux for once, real smooth and classy like James Bond. *drool*

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  17. I'm trying to track down the perfect Alice and Mad Hatter for my soon-to-be wifey and I. I don't want the Disney version. I would be fine with the Tim Burton style, but I would prefer something styled after the original illustration. Any ideas?

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  18. Wouldn't it be a better idea to get those paintable figurines of anime & sci-fi characters. Not sure what they're generically called, but I find them on most geek dedicated sites. Also, how about asking a friend for a tiny figurines sculpted in clay or play-doh- that could be thier wedding gift to you or if you can do it, great!

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