Gay and lesbian-friendly wedding cake toppers

Unhappy truth: It's hard to find an abundance of gay-friendly and/or gender neutral wedding stuff. From advice, to porn, to products … our gender-bending, same-sex-loving friends constantly get the shaft. Recently, we got a request for advice on where to find same-sex cake toppers, so I thought I'd show you some of the ones I've found over the years…

Weddingstar is an interesting company. They're the ones that brought us some of the most barf-tastic and insulting cake toppers, but they're also one of only companies that make a bride-in-a-suit topper and sell their mini-people in separates, like this bride, and the more casual groom in grey. They also have offbeat toppers of color.

The "Sisters by Heart" figure from Willow Tree is as sweet as can be. "Sisters," huh? Yeah… okay. (wink wink)

This Ty Wilson porcelain statuette of two brides wearing dresses features four different ethnicities of brides that can be mixed and matched. Ty Wilson also makes the same version with the dual bouquet for dudes.

In fact, WeddingCollectibles.com is one of the only places that you can find wedding cake toppers that work for gay couples of color. Unless you go the custom route…

These two-bride cake toppers from GayWeddings.com are completely customizable, including the hair, eyes and skin color, height, clothes and even the pose.

Blingy goodness over here is not only sparkly-as-fuck, but it's one of the only alphabet-type cake toppers that doesn't assume you're both taking the same name. Swarovski ampersand FTW! (Say that three-times fast.)

For those of you who don't want to shell out tons of dough for a blingy ampersand, check out Hortense B. Hewitt's wedding cake letters where you can also purchase an ampersand and a heart.

Aw, gender-neutral love birds are in love!

Here's another casually ambiguous kissing couple, it reminds me a lot of this cake topper. But I like that this is multi-purpose — it's actually a salt and pepper shaker. To see more magnetic salt and pepper shakers that could be cake toppers, including many that are gender neutral, check out this post.

I thought for sure some of these skeletal cake toppers would be gender-neutral, I mean, they're skulls. But alas, they very clearly bride-y and groom-y. So I took my search over to Etsy for some Day of Dead (Gay of the Dead?) cake toppers. This one from Localovespirate comes in grooms and brides.

This one is romantic as hell. Seriously, it's even called the "romance" lesbian cake topper. It's hand-painted, including small Swarovski crystal wedding bands, and hair accents!

Something about this Nene Thomas Fairy Figurine reminded me of Anli and Laura's lesbian gamer geek wedding. Couple that lovely lady with this lovely lady and you have an amazing lesbian fantasy wedding cake topper.

Does anyone else out there have advice on where to find good gay-friendly wedding cake toppers? If so, leave 'em in the comments. And for more cake topper ideas check out these posts…

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Megan Finley is the Managing Editor for Offbeat Bride and the Associate Publisher for the Offbeat Empire. When she's not slaving away for the Empire, she's sharing her dork side on her own blog and on Twitter @meganfinley.

Comments (28)

On January 10th, 2011 at 1:24 PM
Sarah said

I love all the animal s&p shakers/cake toppers. I'm a sucker for adorable animals, what can I say? Besides "Who's a widdle CUDDLE WUDDLE FACE?!" that is.

And dude, guys, way to pamper us with 4 updates in a day. Careful, or we'll get used to this.

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On January 10th, 2011 at 2:23 PM
Cassie Sue said

I've seen LOTS of cute animal wedding toppers on etsy. I was thinking of getting those mainly because I hate how cheesy a lot of bride/groom wedding toppers are.

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On January 10th, 2011 at 3:23 PM
fichterleen said

hah, we actually considered the last of your suggestions for our fairy springfest wedding D because honestly, if it's hard trying to find lesbian cake toppers, it's nearly impossible to find lesbian FAIRY cake toppers. i love that "sisters by heart" one though. a lot.

we might just opt out of cake toppers completely, or make them ourselves.
i had a brief moment of wanting to use my highly adorable miniature my little pony figures.. until my fiancÃ©es look popped my bubble of excitement she's right, of course… but they would've rocked that cake.

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- On September 14th, 2011 at 8:59 AM
  Ann said
  
  My Little Ponies rock! I would love to see a cake with pony toppers!
  
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On January 10th, 2011 at 3:27 PM
Nelle said

We've been planning for ages to put our favorite rubber ducks on the cake (we've got a small collection). His is a black, devil pirate one, while mine is a little white one wearing a hat and scarf. Eerily enough, they sort of look like us!

http://www.squeakyducks.com/store/bigpirate.html

http://www.squeakyducks.com/st…ducks.html

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On January 10th, 2011 at 3:44 PM
Kayla said

We're using Simpsons figurines — we're a straight couple, but goddamn I hate those standard cheesy as a toastie cake toppers. And I'm a nerd.

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- On January 22nd, 2011 at 11:50 AM
  leelajuice said
  
  We're using Han and Leia action figures as our cake toppers! Action figure cake toppers ftw!
  
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On January 10th, 2011 at 7:13 PM
Aurora said

If you were doing cupcakes and into diy, I would suggest going to a toy store/model building store. They should have various models in various scales (army guys, people to hang out on model train landscapes, etc) that can be painted however you want. Gender neutral, maybe not so much. Customizable for race and sexual orientation? Totally.

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On January 10th, 2011 at 9:31 PM
Erin said

Awesome suggestions

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On January 10th, 2011 at 9:51 PM
Erin said

I think this one's my absolute favourite: http://www.weddingcollectibles…-3561.html

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On January 10th, 2011 at 10:41 PM
Topes said

..Actually my parents got me and my sister the sisters one when we were younger as a gift as a symbol of family unity.

but okay. haha

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On January 11th, 2011 at 4:39 AM
Rachel said

Melabo on etsy will make them for you.

http://www.etsy.com/shop/melabo?page=1

Though the last male ones she did seemed to be standing a bit far from each other, so I'd suggest asking if they could be closer:

http://www.etsy.com/transaction/40680393

She can take the heads from certain molds and put them on other bodies, so an easy mix and match! As for interracial, they're all the same color though once in a while she paints them.

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On January 11th, 2011 at 10:45 AM
J said

A guy-guy wedding I went to actually used toy soldiers as cake toppers. It was pretty cute.

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On January 11th, 2011 at 1:56 PM
Rizubunny said

This is why I love etsy. Here are a few that are awesome – and they are mostly *completely* customizable (gender, ethnicity, etc.):

http://www.etsy.com/listing/51…e-likeness (my favorite!!)

http://www.etsy.com/listing/25…-waterless

http://www.etsy.com/listing/34…d-sculpted

http://www.etsy.com/listing/50…two-grooms

http://www.etsy.com/listing/53…iowa-plate

http://www.etsy.com/listing/27…completely

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- On January 11th, 2011 at 8:10 PM
  Erin said
  
  Great finds, Rizubunny!
  
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On January 11th, 2011 at 5:26 PM
ASP said

Do you what else is hard to find? Gay-friendly wedding cards. If you are in Iowa City (where gay marriage is LEGAL woot woot!) go to http://www.rsvp-asap.com/.

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On January 12th, 2011 at 9:24 AM
aaa said

this post is awesome.

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On January 12th, 2011 at 9:52 AM
Megan said

That fairy figurine is beautiful! And you are soooooooo right about the initial thing being annoying, as not all couple take the same last name. I am, but it's only because I despise my biological father and can't wait to get rid of his name once and for all.

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On January 13th, 2011 at 8:49 PM
susan said

my mom actually got my fiancee & i that willow tree 'sisters at heart' figurine for christmas (she adorably did the whole 'i know you two arent sisters,..but i thought the two girls holding hands fit' cuteness)! i hadn't thought to use that as our cake topper…i think it would work perfectly and would be a sentimental touch!

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On January 14th, 2011 at 7:28 PM
Jen said

My nephew bought us smurfette brides. Pretty cool for a 13 year old.

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- On January 14th, 2011 at 8:45 PM
  Offbeat Intern said
  
  ZOMG! Smurfette? Best idea EVAR!!!
  
  - Becca
  
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On January 27th, 2011 at 10:26 PM
Casey said

So I am not at all affiliated with this store, I was looking for a cute valentines gift that my honeyy would like and I discovered some interesting same-sex couple cake topper. They are "more traditional" complete with a gazebos. Not everyone's style, but hey it is another option. Here is the link for the two grooms
http://www.mcphee.com/shop/pro…opper.html and here is the one for two brides http://www.mcphee.com/shop/pro…opper.html

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On January 29th, 2011 at 12:39 PM
Liz said

I found this on Etsy, SO CUTE!
http://www.etsy.com/listing/34…d-sculpted

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On February 8th, 2011 at 12:00 PM
jenny said

We customized some little cute dolls I found in a store for my friend's cake topper, they loved it:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/p…ennywenny/

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On September 12th, 2011 at 4:49 PM
Ebelyn said

I realize my comment is a little delayed at this point, but these cake toppers are great for same sex weddings:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/79…f-the-dead

http://www.etsy.com/listing/79…ake-topper

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On January 21st, 2012 at 6:13 PM
Tanya Bennett said

My girlfiend and I used the Died and Groomed mini living dead dolls. Whilest not two females it fitted in with our black and red themed and was such a different idea gender didnt facture in.

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On February 4th, 2012 at 9:37 PM
Justin said

Fiance and I are looking for something specific. Have seen and fallen in love with cake toppers that are 2 rings. Sadly, they are all for straight couples and one of the rings always comes with a "diamond" on top. Would totally be up for just ripping the "diamond" off, but I think that would probably leave an awkward mark. Anyone seen toppers of just two plain silver/titanium/platinum looking bands?

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On February 7th, 2012 at 3:51 PM
Casey said

Saw this website with a really varied collection of Gay and Lesbian friendly cake toppers, some I have not seen before and some I have. Hope this is a helpful resource!
http://www.weddingcollectibles…ppers.html

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