Stacy & Mike's nerdy after-the-legal-wedding party #Real Weddings: Midwest US#brides in glasses#candy#diy cake#gender-blind wedding party#getting weddinged#handfasting#kansas#red dress#rock-paper-scissors#sci-fi#self-catered#the princess bride#uneven wedding party December 21 | Offbeat Editors Photos by David Harbert The offbeat bride: Stacy, student (and Tribe member) Her offbeat partner: Mike, imaging clerk for Aviva Location & date of wedding: Shelterhouse porch on Lake Shawnee, Topeka, KS — October 30, 2009 What made our wedding offbeat: Well, it was strange to some of our friends and family that we had a ceremony following our legal knot-tying. The handfasting I wrote the ceremony, which was basically a handfasting with Babylon 5 and The Princess Bride quotes thrown in. Mike and I threw rock/paper/scissors to determine who said their vows first. Our two friends who were ordained online weddinged us. I made our (cup)cake topper from perler beads. I also made all the chili and cupcakes. My mom lovingly made a ton of pumpkin pies and cheese bread. For favors, we did a candy buffet and used old glassware I had bought second-hand. Our wedding card box was made from a couple of cheap gift-wrap bags and made to look like Frankenstein. We didn't really have a theme or set colors. We just did whatever struck our fancy. Also, my mother was one of my bridesmaids. At first, she wasn't thrilled about the idea, but she finally started getting into her role. My mother is one of my best friends, even if she does drive me nuts occasionally. Her mom was a bridesmaid! Kids in mohawks = awesomeness! Our biggest challenge: I faced some unexpected hostility from friends about our decision to not change my name, as well as Mike having input on our wedding choices. I had expected our families to be more conservative than our friends, but that did not appear to be the case. They had nothing but love and support for us. We originally had a caterer, but they outsourced our wedding just before we put down a deposit! This did not fly with us, so my mother and I did most of the food. The biggest hiccup was when I woke up fairly ill on the big day. I got very little accomplished, which was a mixed blessing. It wasn't exactly what we had envisioned, but we also realized there are so many more important things, like each other. Rock. Paper. Scissors. (from right to left) My favorite moment: I had a few. Seeing my Mister all dressed up and him seeing me in the dress for the first time was pretty special. I really liked playing rock/paper/scissors to see who does the vows first. In fact, the whole ceremony was pretty nice. You could tell where our friends were sitting from the eruption of laughter during the reading of The Princess Bride quote. Also, our photographer David, made sure to get a picture of just me, my mom, and my dad, which hasn't happened since the divorce. In front of the ceremony location My advice for offbeat brides: Make sure you write out your game plan. I woke up sick as a dog the day of the wedding. I didn't get to the site until 2pm. Thankfully, Mike's groomslady is a marvel of organization and got everyone organized and running. I realized I should have had a written out list ready to go. Don't get me wrong, I had a list, but it was on the computer and I was sick enough not to think to tell Mike to find it. Also, go easy in the beginning! I got a little carried away with getting decorations early. I did end up using most of them, but it is definitely a better idea to scout around and come up with a solid game plan. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Dress: Maggie Sottero (though mine was used) Photos: David Harbert (include inquiry in friend request) Ties: Cyberoptix Tie Lab Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS The mysteries of the Offbeat Bride Tribe member application explained NEXT iPad commercial-themed Save the Date Toggle comments [ 7 ] You guys look amazing. Poo on people not liking you keeping your name. 3 agree Reply Sweet action! I a a total bum for having missed it. You still down for wedding-y expo-y thingy …. in January…? Right? Reply You should totally write your ceremony online, would love to see it, and see what princess bride quotes you used!! Reply And I'm curious to see what you used from B5! We had the Declaration of Principles in ours. =) Reply We're doing the exact same thing with the perler beads. Love it! Reply Ha! We did rock paper scissors to see who would go first with our vows too! I'm pretty sure he let me win so that I could go first. I'd told him I'd be a mess if I went after he did. Reply Hey guys! Thanks for the nice note. I had our ceremony on my OffBeat Tribe blog. For those that cannot access it, I put it on Google Documents. (Which I hope is okay to link to.) Here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WepN–KYeHjuQlg48zJtqpESFw_XIkDSJb3bOZYKXGQ/edit?hl=en Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.