Janna & Nick's Motorcycle-themed, whimsical wedding celebration #Real Weddings: Western US#bay area#birdcage veil#brides in glasses#brides over 40#california#corset#crafty wedding#diy wedding#economical wedding#fluevogs#geeky#motorcycle#plus size#red dress#self-catered#simple wedding#the princess bride#wine ceremony November 22 | Offbeat Editors After seeing Janna's motorcycle sprocket bouquet (and, for some of us, learning what a sprocket is), we knew that we had to know all about this wedding and the creative, motorcylcle-loving (and, as it turns out, ex-wrestler and theater geek) couple behind it. Some of us (me) also have totally developed friend/mentor crushes on the bride. -Becca Photos by Gabriel Harber. Additional photography by Rhett Redelings. The offbeat bride: Janna, writer/graduate student (and Tribe member) Her offbeat partner: Nick, systems engineer Location & date of wedding: Mills Chapel at Mills College and Reinhardt Alumnae House, Oakland, CA — March 27, 2010 What made our wedding offbeat: As a bride of forty-one, an ex-wrestler with G.L.O.W., former theater geek, and over 80,000 miles on my motorcycle, an offbeat wedding was a given. Nick and I are low-key people, and a fancy, expensive wedding was not our style, despite it being the first marriage for both of us. Our guest list included conservatives and liberals, ex-strippers, pierced and tattooed folks, retired professors, Dickens Fair/Steampunk folk, lesbian couples with children, die-hard motorcyclists, and atheists, Pagans and conservative Jews. So I created three different wedding invitations! In the Bay Area, the red wedding dress is a new tradition. Mine was a custom corset-dress in burgundy silk brocade made by my dear friend of many years, Autumn, of Dark Garden. The cake topper was sculpted by an artist (mudcards) on Etsy, based on photos we sent her. We did not want a white cake with sugar flowers, so we asked Judy Durkee of Torino Baking to make a diamond plate cake with motorcycle sprockets. My ex-girlfriend's daughter was my flower girl. My ex and dear friend Lee Presson DJ'd Big Band music for the reception. I designed my bouquet using a motorcycle sprocket with a handle welded on the back and one large flower in the center. I, also, created a simple graphic of a sprocket, had it printed onto fabric by Spoonflower, and hemmed into a tablecloth. And for our honeymoon, we're riding our motorcycles from California all the way to the Arctic Circle in Alaska and back! Tell us about the ceremony: A friend of a friend, Alex Kelly, played Bach on the cello as people were seated, and then the wedding party came down the aisle to a piece Alex wrote himself. The non-denominational minister did the welcome then our friend Luke spoke. He included the Princess Bride quote I specifically requested and wove in some other references. Here is the entire transcript — it's truly wonderful. He, also, did a wine ceremony that I wrote. We each had a vial of a different wine varietal, and there was a blue goblet. Wine is often made of a single varietal, but a winemaker can make a beautiful blend of two or more wines. Both wines must be sound; you cannot salvage a bad wine by blending it with a good one. Often, the wines that go into this blend can stand alone, but when combined, the resulting wine is far greater than the sum of its parts. This is a lot like marriage. Each partner brings his or her unique and valuable qualities and abilities, and contributes them to something greater. (Here, Nick poured his wine into the goblet, I poured mine, and we each drank from it.) May the two of you be stronger in marriage than you were apart. Then the minister did the vows, we exchanged black ceramic wedding rings, were pronounced husband and wife, and went into a side room for a breather, before descending to a stream of bubbles (instead of rice or birdseed). Our biggest challenge: Money! We tried hard to keep the budget as low as humanly possible, while still feeding and entertaining 70 people. The bride's family was not able to contribute much at all, and the groom's family made a very nice contribution. We both paid for the rest of it ourselves. It's astonishing how quickly can spiral out of control, even while keeping things as inexpensive as we could. We did the entire wedding/reception/wedding night B&B for under $10,000 (counting wedding attire), and did it all without putting a single dollar on a credit card. I did a lot of DIY stuff. I was my own wedding planner, first off. I also designed two of the three invitations, the sprocket tablecloth and my sprocket bouquet, made the centerpieces, wedding favors, and some food for the reception. We bought sparkling wine on sale over New Year's. I was talked out of catering the reception myself. We found a caterer who did very nice food (vegetarian spring rolls, chicken satay, tofu green curry, Asian slaw, sesame noodles, white rice) and coffee with porcelain plates and metal utensils. I made hummus from scratch and iced tea, and Nick made crudités. For table decorations, we rented plain white tablecloths. I found small flowerpots painted with sunflowers at the local dollar store, put a lemon thyme plant in each one, then wired a single flower to a florist's post and set that into the center. Lovely, simple, and each one cost $5. My favorite moment: The best part of the whole day was the part of the wedding ceremony conducted by Nick's best friend from childhood, Luke. It was exquisitely written, with personalized details about Nick and me, and references to the Princess Bride and Battlestar Galactica. It was hysterically funny, moving and full of wisdom. Looking out into the chapel and seeing the joy, laughter and tears on everyone's faces. Our first dance — it was literally the first time we had ever danced together. Seeing the first meeting of my mother and my French "mother" from my foreign exchange year in Paris when I was sixteen. Seeing the guests appreciate our wedding favors: bottles of Napa Valley Cabernet with custom labels with grape clusters, our names and the date of the wedding. The toasts. My funniest moment: When a little girl ran out onto the dance area and started to dance all by herself by hiking her dress up above her waist and taking little steps. Then the DJ came around the table, hiked up his pants legs and "danced" with her. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? Having two people do the wedding ceremony. I thought that territoriality might come into play, but it worked out great. My advice for offbeat brides: If your "non-traditional" stuff is honest and heartfelt, even traditionally-minded people will relax and appreciate it. Ask friends and family for help, even if you feel weird about it. I found that most people truly wanted to pitch in and help, and felt honored to be able to participate and do something nice for the bride and groom. Beautiful mother of the bride. Do not get sucked in by Big Day Inflation: "Well, it's your wedding day, so you really don't want to just have a friend do your hair, do you, since you'll have the photos forEVER, so you really SHOULD pay someone for an expensive hair cut, color and style, oh and you aren't going to just wear Payless shoes, are you?…" Listen to what your family wants (even if it runs contrary to what you want) and see if you can accommodate some part of it. A marriage is mostly for the two of you, but the wedding is also for others. Find one thing that will make your mother happy, for example, and incorporate that. It will really go a long way. Don't cater your own wedding. Seriously. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Eloping might have been a lot cheaper, but it would have robbed all the people we love of an incredible experience that they will value for a long time. It would have also robbed us of that special thing that can happen when you do a ritual joining of selves in the presence of friends and family. There really is something to that. (Also, bring comfortable shoes to change into at the reception. I brought comfy plush motorcycle slippers and slipped them on when the agony of the high heels got too much. They were a big hit.) Sit back. Relax. Slip on your motorcycle slippers and check out the wedding porn. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Gabriel Harber Additional Photography: Rhett Redelings Dress: Dark Garden Cake: Torino Baking Ceremony music: Alex Kelly, cellist Catering: by Stella Nonna (Note: they do much more than what's on their website) Custom polymer clay cake topper: Mudcards Cool wedding invitations: Royal Steamline Custom printed fabric: Spoonflower Wedding dress shoes: Mini Dollface by Fluevog Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Wai-Ching dresses in their element NEXT Monday Montage: costumes, cakes and cute couples Show/Hide comments [ 11 ] I've been waiting on this one ever since I saw the sprocket bouquet. Hooray! It really sounds like a wonderful day. Reply Sounds like such a fun wedding! Got to love the red dress! I'm curious about the ceramic rings. They looked gorgeous on the photo I saw! Are they difficult to find? Congrats to the bride and groom! Reply The black ceramic wedding rings were very, very easy to find. I just Googled "black ceramic wedding band." Many sites sell them. Reply Okay, I have to say that I LOVE IT ALL!!!!! However, that picture of the brides mother is really stunning. She's beautiful, and that is just a really beautiful picture! Congratulations!! Reply Cute! My inner 80's child loves the fact the bride was a G.L.O.W. girl! I used to want to be one when I grew up when i was 9ish! Reply Such a beautiful wedding! LOVE love love that dress. Girl, you looked gorgeous in it! We have a similar financial situation, so it was great to see how well you made your money stretch. It really is an inspiration! Reply Due to space/content constraints, I was not able to mention some people who were not vendors but were of critical importance to our wedding and our lives. Specifically, my wonderful and generous friend Shemena, my amazing and beautiful matron of honor, her fabulous son Dylan, the ring-bearer, as well as her husband Scott and their baby Asa, for flying out from Wisconsin just for the wedding and to support me and Nick; Mark Heer (Nick's best man), his wife Cyndee Paulson-Heer and their son Dustin, for all their invaluable help and support; Diane Morgan, the wonderful and warm co-officiant and good friend of the Heers… Reply Important note: The photos that say Gabriel Harber Photography were taken by (of course) Gabriel Harber, our official photographer. We also had a gifted amateur photographer there, Rhett Redelings, and his photos were so amazing, we had to include them. Seven of the photos on this page are his (all the ones that have no electronic watermark). It's important that you all know this, so that there is no confusion about wedding photo style if you book Gabriel Harber for your wedding, as well as to give proper credit to the person who took those photos. Sorry about the confusion. Reply We'll be updating the photo credits shortly! Reply I love it, what a beautiful wedding. I love how well you personlized it to your taste. Love your dress, your bouquet was the best I've ever seen. Kudos and cheers, Sid Reply I love how you used sprockets! My fiance and I both ride and I couldn't figure out a way to incorporate our bikes that was subtle and relatively inexpensive – plus, we both ride Japanese bikes with nowhere near the selection of merch as there is for HDs. A sprocket (or maybe disc brake) pattern might fit the bill. Thanks for the awesome ideas Also, Princess Bride rocks! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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