Why you should consider boudoir photos. Or, how I learned to stop worrying and love my body
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on June 29, 2010
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OBT member Ms. N wrote a wedding planning update in which she shared her experiences during her boudior photography shoot. Ariel and I loved its message so much that we thought we'd share it with you. -Megan
Let me preface this with two things…
- First, I have never been the type to want to be immortalized in my unmentionables (i.e., I never thought I would want to get photographed in my undies before). It wasn't something that I had been dying to do all my life.
- Second, I am a plus-size girl who is not altogether comfortable with her body and who consistently has some self-love issues.
That being said, let me tell you why you (yes, YOU) should consider boudoir photography…
The sexy Ms. N rockin' the boudoir shoot, shared with her permission
This past Saturday I had a boudoir shoot with Seattle Boudoir Photography [a previous obb sponsor] and it was honestly the most liberating experience of my life. I was nervous and apprehensive going into it. I've never been completely comfortable with my body, and even less so now that I am in my 30s and have stretch marks and scars and even some lovely VEINS that mark who I am and where I've been throughout the past 32 years. I kept having the thought in my head that these people who would see me half-naked would be completely grossed out and would be disappointed that they could not make me look decent in any photos.
Boy, was I wrong.
I got to spend 2 hours with amazing people who, very honestly and sincerely, thought that I looked beautiful, and did everything they could to make sure that I knew it. And not only KNEW it, but FELT it, too. Nobody ever once looked at me and said, "Oh, I sure wish you were thinner," or "Wow, those stretch marks really take away from this photo." What I heard instead was, "Oh, you have killer boobs!" and "You look so hot in that pose, for real!" I could NOT believe my ears. And really, that was all it took for me to suddenly realize this:
I'm freakin' HOT!
It doesn't matter about size or scars or weight or anything. What matters is how you FEEL. And I have never been more amazed at how comfortable I could be with myself.
So. If you can swing it, you should totally consider boudoir photography because:
- You get to be comfortable in your own body, even if you were already.
- Lots of people complimenting you and telling you how hot you look!
- Did I mention the wonders it does for your self-esteem?
- It's an excuse to buy really cute lingerie.
- Again — what better way to encourage self-love?
About Ms. N
Ms. N teaches high school special ed who lives with her fiance, two cats, a bunch of freshwater shrimp and some loaches, and have a yard full of really cool birds. And their wedding plans will most likely involve eloping to Los Vegas, a blue dress, a couple kickass parties and as little money and unnecessary expense as possible!
Carrie said
Ms. N,
I really can't thank you enough for this post. I didn't think seriously about bouidoir photography because of my size (though wished I could because it was such a cool idea). But after reading this, based almost entirely on our your story, I booked a shoot, which I did this past weekend. It was one of the best experiences of my life. I have never felt so sexy, so beautiful, and honestly never thought I could feel this good about myself. Before I went in worry about getting a good shot with all my rolls, but now, waiting for the pictures, I'm not even worried because I know my photographer got some truly fantastic photos. Thank you, thank you, thank you, because without you, I never would have done it, and I would never feel so confident and secure. This started as a gift for my fiance, but now is all about what the experience gave to ME, and only a little about what I'm giving to him.