To finish up plus size bride week we present to you, Natalie & Joe. This awesome couple had a small intimate ceremony in Oregon and their theme was inspired by the Incubus' song "Stellar." Gotta love it! -Coco
The offbeat bride: Natalie, Marketing and Administration (and OBT Member)
Her offbeat partner: Joe, Systems Administrator
Location & date of wedding: The Vista House on Crown Point, Oregon/Reception at The Old Church in downtown PDX — April 30, 2010
What made our wedding offbeat: We had both seen a lot of weddings, and we decided to strip ours of anything we didn't want- we had a forty person guest list, no dancing, dj, garter toss – then we said, "But what DO we like!" and that was where the fun began.
I took our theme from Incubus' song "Stellar"- and used antique star-maps to create an antique night atmosphere and give everything a mysterious feeling.
Everything we did was either DIY or custom made (and Joe helped with everything). We chose to write our ceremony from scratch, and have it performed in a circle. We had an uneven wedding party whose only dressing instructions were "Edward Gorey".
The wedding party held metal spheres that were wired on the inside with lights to look like stars. Our ceremony included a poem from Saul Williams and our vows included the word "bacon."
Joe and I made the programs, the wish tree, the centerpieces, wrapped votives, and the card lantern.
We served food before the ceremony, after the ceremony, and at the reception.
(We're foodies.) We chose to host an awesome dinner party rather than a traditional reception. We served southern comfort foods, had trivia cards on the tables, and had a photobooth set up, while we listened to everything from Johnny Cash to William Shatner. Basically we poured everything that was us into about four hours and it was the most satisfying thing either of us could have possible done!
Tell us about your ceremony: We rented The Vista House (that awesome circular building in the Columbia Gorge) via a recommendation I got on OBT! We seated our guests in a circle, gave them some great food, and performed an amazing ceremony.
We didn't handfast, or use any other traditional things except for the ring exchange. However I borrowed heavily from pagan ceremonies, down to the ringing of the bell at the beginning, to the placement of the wedding circle members. I designed everything to look "unique" to people not in the know, yet specific and meaningful to my guests who prescribe to the same religious ideas that we do.
Here is the poem the wedding circle members took turns reading right before our first kiss:
"Have you ever lost yourself in a kiss? I mean pure psychedelic inebriation. Not just lustful petting but transcendental metamorphosis when you became aware that the greatness of this being was breathing into you. Licking the sides and corners of your mouth, like sealing a thousand fleshy envelopes filled with the essence of your passionate being and then opened by the same mouth and delivered back to you, over and over again – the first kiss of the rest of your life. A kiss that confirms that the universe is aligned, that the world's greatest resource is love, and maybe even that God is a woman. With or without a belief in God, all kisses are metaphors decipherable by allocations of time, circumstance, and understanding"
— Saul Williams (Said the Shotgun to the Head)
Our biggest challenge: Both my Father and my Grandfather died during our year engagement, Joe's Grandfather was moved to a hospice (he died the day we got back from our honeymoon) and the economy hurt so many of our friends, family, and us.There were a lot of times during the planning I had to ask myself, "Is throwing a wedding right now even appropriate, with so much sadness in everyones' lives?" In the end we decided that we needed to start back on the path to happiness, and our theme was about "Carpe Noctem!"- seize the night. In a way we were making the last few hours of darkness a celebration, and knowing the sun would come up again and things would get better.
Wedding-wise, I was a little concerned about incorporating some non-traditional elements with certain guests, but we did it honestly, and gracefully. Everyone loved it.
My favorite moment: Even before the wedding, just knowing so many of our closest friends and relatives were coming was amazing, but seeing everyone around us while we performed the ceremony was so special.
Joe's vows completely blew me away- they were the only part of the ceremony we kept a surprise- and when he promised to always giving me a coat to keep me dry (something he did on our first date), I just teared up.
The Saul Williams poem (Have you ever lost yourself in a kiss?) the wedding circle read from was incredible and powerful. Afterward guests were in tears and said they had goosebumps. That made me so happy- we had practiced the ceremony and readings for months. Knowing it all just came together, it felt like we told the universe, "We're here and we're together!" It was magical.
At the reception, looking out onto the tables and seeing people eating, laughing, and enjoying the evening was also very special. Everything we had created looked amazing, the food was delicious. I just wanted to bottle that feeling and keep it forever.
My favorite moment: I read fairly heavy vows, and on the last line I added, "And I promise to make you bacon once a month," which was a great break of laughter during the ceremony.
During the reception we had set up a photobooth with a ton of silly props, and everyone had such a blast using it (and defiling the ceramic chicken)!
My advice for offbeat brides: In the beginning, I made a mental list of what would stress me out on the wedding day so I planned around easing that stress. I was freaked out about the ceremony, so we practiced- wedding circle members and all- once a month at my house.
I prioritized my projects and Joe helped me with everything. When two people were not enough we brought in more, and finally, when a project was beyond my scope, I found a talented vendor who could handle it.
Finally, there are so many great ideas out there, but you are never going to be able to use them all without it looking like a mess, or spending millions.
Figure out what is important to you and build on it. What mood would you like to create? What do you want to hear? What do you want to taste?
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
I really felt like the most amazing women in the world came together for our wedding!
- Photographer: Natural Aperture
- My dress: Love June Bridal
- My necklace: Etsy
- Catering & Rentals: Eat Your Heart Out
- The guy's cuff links: Etsy – Plastic Paradox & Bellamoda Artist
- Cake: Serious Cake
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!