First dance songs that haven't been done to death
Not that I have anything against Etta Jame's "At Last" or Michael Buble's "Everything," — they're both perfect first dance songs — but I've heard them both WAY to many times at weddings. So, combining my database of musician friends (some of whom made the list), Shrie's music writing experience and Ariel's… whatever the hell Ariel listens to (which, I believe, includes everything from deep neo-soul to esoteric Euro dance pop), the OBB team has compiled a list of totally not overused first dance songs, from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely controversial!
Oldies but Goodies — along the same lines of "At Last"
- The Beach Boys "God Only Knows" (hear it)
- Shuggie Otis' "Strawberry Letter 23" (hear it)
- Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get it On" (hear it)
- Otis Redding's "That's How Strong My Love Is" (hear it)
- Van Morrison's "Sweet Thing" (hear it)
- The Zombies' "This Will Be Our Year" (hear it)
- The Kinks "Waterloo Sunset" (hear it)
- Toussaint McCall's "Nothing Takes The Place Of You" (hear it)
- Al Green's "Love and Happiness" (hear it)
Sexy Romantic
- (Ariel's) Me'Shell Ndegéocello's "Love Song #1" (hear it)
- Ben Folds' "The Luckiest" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" (hear it)
- Massive Attack's "One Love" (hear it)
- Mazzy Star's "Fade Into You" (hear it)
- Portishead's "All Mine" (hear it)
- Lou Reed's "Perfect Day" (hear it)
Wonky 'n Fun
- Adam Sandler's "I Wanna Grow Old With You" (hear it)
- The "Family Matters" theme song "As Days Go By" (hear it)
- Doris Day's "A Bushel And A Peck" (hear it)
- The Velvet Underground's "I'm Sticking with You" (hear it)
- The Band's "Cripple Creek" (hear it)
- Toto's "Africa" (hear it)
- Sam Hart's "Mario Kart Love Song" (hear it)
- Rick Roll those bitches!
Indie
- (Megan's) Pavement's "We Dance" (hear it)
- Jon Brion's "Here We Go" (hear it)
- Neko Case's "This Tornado Loves You" (hear it)
- Sufan Stevens' "The Dress Looks Nice On You" (hear it)
- Wilco "I'm the Man Who Loves You" (hear it)
- The Cure's "Friday I'm in Love" (hear it)
- Bright Eyes' "First Day of my Life" (hear it)
- Nick Drake's "Northern Sky" (hear it)
- The Pixie's "La La Love You" (hear it)
SUPER Indie
- Bird and the Bee "My Love" (hear it)
- Obi Best "Nothing Can Come Between Us" (you can get a free mp3 here)
- The Moldy Peaches' "Anyone Else but You" (hear it)
- The Mountain Goats' "No Children" (hear it) — yes, some people find this song controversial!
- Neutral Milk Hotel's "I Love How You Love Me" (hear it)
- She & Him's "I Was Made For You" (hear it)
- Captain Beefheart's "I'm Glad" (hear it)
Jazzin' — along the same lines of Michael Buble
- Sara Gazarek's "Makes Me Feel This Way" (hear it) or her version of "You Are My Sunshine" (hear it)
- Harry Connick Jr.'s "Come By Me" (hear it)
- Kurt Elling's "I Feel So Smoochie" (hear it)
- Jamie Cullum's "I Think, I Love" (hear it)
- Renee Olstead's " A Love That Will Last" (hear it)
Upbeat Swingin'
- (Shrie's) Chuck Barry's "You Never Can Tell" (hear it)
- Barry Louis Polisar's "All I Want Is You" (hear it)
- Sly & the Family Stone's "You Can Make It If You Try" (hear it)
- Huey "Piano" Smith's "Little Liza Jane" (hear it)
Laidback Easy-Peasy
- Mayer Hawthorne's "Make Her Mine" (hear it)
- Cat Power's version of "Sea of Love" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "Book of Love" (hear it)
- Air's "Playground Love" (hear it)
- The Fruit Bat's "When U Love Somebody" (hear it)
Dark and Romantic
- Judas Priest's "Angel" (hear it)
- Rammstein's "Ohne Dich" (hear it with English translation)
- Type O Negative's "Love You to Death" (hear it)
- Stone Temple Pilots' "Still Remains" (hear it)
- Incubus' "Monuments and Melodies" (hear it)
- Killswitch Engage's "My Curse" (hear it)
- HIM's "Join Me In Death" (hear it)
As in our last post for "Non-sappy father/daughter dance songs" if you've got any suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments.
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Sarah said
We might have a bit of a boogie to Dave Matthews Band – Shake Me Like a Monkey. It's cute and upbeat and the lyrics are quietly filthy. I love it ^_^
Lynnie said
We ate using a song I've never heard used before – but I'm surprised it has never been!
Billy Joel: you're my home
it's pretty perfect.
Amanda said
My pick and one that will hopefully get FH approval is "The Hazards of Love 4" by The Decemberists.
Alexis said
I never thought of doing that! FH and I both love "The Hazards of Love" and will definitely be putting this on the top list of possibilities.
Trish said
Arms by Seabear
Je T'aime, Je T'aimerai – Francis Cabrel
The Arms of A Woman – Ray LaMontage
Good call on the Bowie song from Labrynth… childhood obsession!!!!
Adrienne said
We're going to dance to "Drinking with You," by Jonathan Coulton. Nerd love ftw!
Nikoel said
Also, we love "Waterloo Sunset" but his name is Terry so it's like "Who the eff is Julie?!" hehehe.
brittanica said
Ours is gonna be a dual first dance.
-"Come What May" from Moulin Rouge (he sang it to me when we first started dating)
-"Twisting" by They Might Be Giants (the first time he knew he was in love w/ me was when he was messing around on a keyboard and accidentally played the first few notes. I recognized it and kinda squee'ed.)
Marissa said
We danced to "Come What May" as our first dance song and it was lovely. Are the lyrics not perfect?!
Gabrielle said
I love these suggestions. I have to two to add:
Maybe I'm Amazed- Paul McCartney
and my favorite even if it might come off sad. I think it is beautiful…
No One's Gonna Love You More- Band of Horses (so beautiful).
Amber said
THANK YOU for posting this!! I LOVE Band of Horses and couldn't find the right song. I have also had Cee Lo's version of "No One's Gonna Love You More" but it just wasn't quite right. The mix was perfect! I got chills!!
Sara Paints Hair said
We are getting married in an old theater & having a "movies" theme. Every song on our playlist is featured in a movie we like. For the first dance, I'm torn between "You Never Can Tell" with Pulp Fiction moves, OR "Hip to be Square" (a lá American Psycho). I think it would be funny and a blast to dance to, but I'm not sure if anyone will get the reference. Or if it's even danceable.
raina said
bob dylan – "lay lady lay"
the black keys – "i'll be your man"
chuck ragan – "above the flames"
chuck ragan – "do what you do"
david bowie – "soul love"
neil young – "comes a time"
billy bragg & wilco – "california stars"
joe strummer – "sleepwalk"
my morning jacket – "wordless chorus"
pixies – "here comes your man"
the cure – "love cats"
billy idol – "dancing with myself"
screeching weasel – "totally"
these are all my significant other and i's "songs", but would use bob dylan's "lay lady lay" as our first dance song. it's so pure and beautiful.
Adrienne said
"No One's Gonna Love You More- Band of Horses (so beautiful)"
This is the one we are playing for our first dance. My fiance loves Band of Horses, and we went and saw them in concert a couple years ago. Love the song.
Sara said
we were thinking of this song too! or well, at least anything by band of horses. my fiance got me into them, and when we saw them live we both just fell in love with the band.
Claire said
Wonderful list and wonderful suggestions! We had first day of my life- bright eyes. Our wedding band ( a local alt country band) did a cover version of it, so so perfect. We had also considered the iron and wine version of such great heights .
I walked down the aisle to do you realise by the flaming lips and while we signed the register we listened to JoyZipper a thousand christmases.
Oh and ps. If my husband didn't hate Mountain Goats with a deep seated and wild passion we would of only had Mountain Goats song
lulu said
Oooh!
The cover of "We've Got a World That Swings" by They Might Be Giants.
We're massive TMBG fans.
"I'd like to take you on this wild, wonderful venture, fly like a kite through space, no strings…"
Chloe said
OMG, i love this list just for the fact that it has my fav band Incubus in it lol. perfect song.
Natalie said
I love David Gray's "Be Mine" and Death Cabs " I'll follow you into the dark"
CrazyShi said
Oh My Word My fiance and I were just talking about songs we could do our first dance to/ walk down the aisle to and we hit a blank of sorts. And I log on here and TA DA Solutions lol Love it
Maggie said
For Gothy and Fun couples, Voltaire's – Stuck with you. Is a great song!
Pip said
Flowers in the Window by Travis.
Oh wow, look at you now, flowers in the window
It's such a lovely day, & Im glad you feel the same
You stand up, out in the crowd, you are one in a million & I love you so,
Lets watch the flowers grow.
*sigh*
kayla carnage said
We are totally doing "As the World Falls Down" from Labyrinth!! Maybe a BIT common, but I never gave a HOOT about my "future dream wedding" as a little girl EXCEPT I knew I needed hair s ridiculously large as my dress, and THIS SONG. Well, I've outgrown the hair and dress ideals, but I still want the song!!
"Come What May" from Moulin Rouge is a GREAT suggestion. It makes me choke up every time. We are playfully toying around with the idea of singing this to each other at the wedding but I don't know if I'll be able to pull it off. ^_^;; Nicole Kidman has some PIPES.
Marissa said
You can do it!
thecheesegirl said
I don't know if my honey and I are going to have dancing at our wedding, but even if we don't, I am going to find SOME way to work in Nothing Else Matters by Metallica — it's my favorite Metallica song, Metallica is one of his favorite bands, the lyrics are actually quite sweet, and, hey, it's even a waltz!
Brigitta said
Dave Matthews Band! 'You and me'
karen said
We danced to the Checkers version of The White Cliffs of Dover. Awesome doo-wop! So upbeat and optomistic, it was such a totally joyous first dance.
Jean said
I'm kinda amazed that some posters are using the Cure's Just Like Heaven as their song because to me that song has always been really subtly dark and very depressing, about a love that can't be had for some reason!
Love the suggestion of the Zombies' "This Will be Our Year". Best oldies band.
Carolyn said
we danced to Mason Jennings' 'Keepin' It Real' in part because we used to sing it to each other when we first got together. How can you not love a song that has a refrain like this:
Oh yes, my oh my, the earth shakes when you walk by
It's a fairy tale that we made true
I can't believe that i found you
And it's oh yes, my oh my
People turn and look when we walk by
It's a big fat love we feel in our hearts
We're keepin it, keepin it, keepin it real
T Dollybird said
I *love* Mason Jennings. I like the idea of "Darkness Between the Fireflies," because most couples have a past.
"you should know by now that someone's always been there, long before you. you're never gonna be the only one"
Lizzz said
Dogbowl – "Hot Day in Waco"
M. Ward's cover of "Let's Dance" (Slow and very pretty)
Depeche Mode – "Somebody"
Modest Mouse – "Sleepwalkin"
Smashing Pumpkins – "Take me down"
Television Personalities – "Smashing Time" (Quirky and fun)
Velvet Underground – "I love you"
Emee said
OH! Depeche Mode. Awesome. Can't believe nobody else said it! "Question of Lust" would be great too.
panda said
or "Somebody"