First dance songs that haven't been done to death
Not that I have anything against Etta Jame's "At Last" or Michael Buble's "Everything," — they're both perfect first dance songs — but I've heard them both WAY to many times at weddings. So, combining my database of musician friends (some of whom made the list), Shrie's music writing experience and Ariel's… whatever the hell Ariel listens to (which, I believe, includes everything from deep neo-soul to esoteric Euro dance pop), the OBB team has compiled a list of totally not overused first dance songs, from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely controversial!
Oldies but Goodies — along the same lines of "At Last"
- The Beach Boys "God Only Knows" (hear it)
- Shuggie Otis' "Strawberry Letter 23" (hear it)
- Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get it On" (hear it)
- Otis Redding's "That's How Strong My Love Is" (hear it)
- Van Morrison's "Sweet Thing" (hear it)
- The Zombies' "This Will Be Our Year" (hear it)
- The Kinks "Waterloo Sunset" (hear it)
- Toussaint McCall's "Nothing Takes The Place Of You" (hear it)
- Al Green's "Love and Happiness" (hear it)
Sexy Romantic
- (Ariel's) Me'Shell Ndegéocello's "Love Song #1" (hear it)
- Ben Folds' "The Luckiest" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" (hear it)
- Massive Attack's "One Love" (hear it)
- Mazzy Star's "Fade Into You" (hear it)
- Portishead's "All Mine" (hear it)
- Lou Reed's "Perfect Day" (hear it)
Wonky 'n Fun
- Adam Sandler's "I Wanna Grow Old With You" (hear it)
- The "Family Matters" theme song "As Days Go By" (hear it)
- Doris Day's "A Bushel And A Peck" (hear it)
- The Velvet Underground's "I'm Sticking with You" (hear it)
- The Band's "Cripple Creek" (hear it)
- Toto's "Africa" (hear it)
- Sam Hart's "Mario Kart Love Song" (hear it)
- Rick Roll those bitches!
Indie
- (Megan's) Pavement's "We Dance" (hear it)
- Jon Brion's "Here We Go" (hear it)
- Neko Case's "This Tornado Loves You" (hear it)
- Sufan Stevens' "The Dress Looks Nice On You" (hear it)
- Wilco "I'm the Man Who Loves You" (hear it)
- The Cure's "Friday I'm in Love" (hear it)
- Bright Eyes' "First Day of my Life" (hear it)
- Nick Drake's "Northern Sky" (hear it)
- The Pixie's "La La Love You" (hear it)
SUPER Indie
- Bird and the Bee "My Love" (hear it)
- Obi Best "Nothing Can Come Between Us" (you can get a free mp3 here)
- The Moldy Peaches' "Anyone Else but You" (hear it)
- The Mountain Goats' "No Children" (hear it) — yes, some people find this song controversial!
- Neutral Milk Hotel's "I Love How You Love Me" (hear it)
- She & Him's "I Was Made For You" (hear it)
- Captain Beefheart's "I'm Glad" (hear it)
Jazzin' — along the same lines of Michael Buble
- Sara Gazarek's "Makes Me Feel This Way" (hear it) or her version of "You Are My Sunshine" (hear it)
- Harry Connick Jr.'s "Come By Me" (hear it)
- Kurt Elling's "I Feel So Smoochie" (hear it)
- Jamie Cullum's "I Think, I Love" (hear it)
- Renee Olstead's " A Love That Will Last" (hear it)
Upbeat Swingin'
- (Shrie's) Chuck Barry's "You Never Can Tell" (hear it)
- Barry Louis Polisar's "All I Want Is You" (hear it)
- Sly & the Family Stone's "You Can Make It If You Try" (hear it)
- Huey "Piano" Smith's "Little Liza Jane" (hear it)
Laidback Easy-Peasy
- Mayer Hawthorne's "Make Her Mine" (hear it)
- Cat Power's version of "Sea of Love" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "Book of Love" (hear it)
- Air's "Playground Love" (hear it)
- The Fruit Bat's "When U Love Somebody" (hear it)
Dark and Romantic
- Judas Priest's "Angel" (hear it)
- Rammstein's "Ohne Dich" (hear it with English translation)
- Type O Negative's "Love You to Death" (hear it)
- Stone Temple Pilots' "Still Remains" (hear it)
- Incubus' "Monuments and Melodies" (hear it)
- Killswitch Engage's "My Curse" (hear it)
- HIM's "Join Me In Death" (hear it)
As in our last post for "Non-sappy father/daughter dance songs" if you've got any suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments.
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Giggles said
We did "I'm Yours" from Jason Mraz. It followed us home so we decided it was our song. (hear it)
sm said
"I'll Catch You" by The Get Up Kids (hear it)
I love all these suggestions! So much fun!
jsc said
good one! i forgot about this one.
Alaura said
I think we've settled on the Deftone's cover of Sade's "No Ordinary Love"…partially because it's a sexy romantic song but partially because its a song that centers on a private joke of ours, so we'll probably laughing the entire time we're dancing. (hear it)
But here are some others that we have been considering:
Whole Wide World by Wreckless Eric (hear it)
Such Great Heights by The Postal Service (hear it)
Up To the Mountain by Patty Griffin (hear it)
Lover, You Should Have Come Over by Jeff Buckley (hear it)
Like a Stone by Audioslave (hear it)
Lintastic! said
oh man i LOVE the deftones and that cover makes me a happy girl!
Carly said
the Iron & Wine version of Such Great Heights is a nice slower version too! (hear it)
lduncz said
We're doing "Wild is the Wind" by David Bowie, loveeee it. Love that the Kinks got included in your lineup! Ray Davies is our hero
(hear it)
notemily said
I'm with MsFitz @38. If you're going to choose a Neko song, "This Tornado Loves You" isn't it. Maybe "That Teenage Feeling" (which begins "Now that we've met, we can only laugh at these regrets") (hear it) or perhaps "No Need to Cry." (hear it) Maybe "Honky Tonk Hiccups" if you're feeling silly! (hear it)
Count me in with those who are kind of horrified that anyone would use "No Children" as their wedding song. o_o
isidri said
Ours was "Love You Madly" by Cake. (hear it)
MaryCupcakes said
David Bowie's "As The World Falls Down" from the movie Labyrinth (hear it)
Tiffany said
I LOVE that song!!!!
Katie said
OMG, I love that you put Type O Negative on there. I just about shit bricks. JUST CLOSE THOSE EYES AND LET ME LOH-HOVE YOU TO DEAAAATH!
Lily said
I also like "Sacrament" (hear it) and "Close to the Flame" by HIM. (hear it)
Bird said
I wasn't even gonna join this conversation, but hey, it might help somebody…
Lucky–Jason Mraz & Colbie Caillat (hear it)
Whisper of Angels–Amici Forever (hear it)
Such Great Heights–Iron & Wine (hear it)
La Vie en Rose–Louis Armstrong (hear it)
Sway–Julie London (hear it)
Ice Cream–Sarah Mclachlan (hear it)
Songbird–Eva Cassidy (or her cover of Fields of Gold). (hear it)
Also, Frank Sinatra. I know some of it's totally overplayed, but there are a lot of forgotten gems.
Hah. Doing this made me realize how little sense most of me and my partner's songs make. Lovin' Arms would probably not figure into any sane person's wedding…
Holly said
For us it could only ever be one of these two songs…
(my idea…) "Always" by Zug Izland. For starters, I'm a Juggalo so this is a natural choice. But also, seriously, the lyrics couldn't be any more perfect from me to him.
or
(his idea…) "Heaven (Little by Little)" by Theory of a Deadman. Yes I know what the song is about, but I have chronic pain issues and was going through a tough time when I met my man, and he's always said that he wants to get rid of all my pain. We both get teary-eyed every time that song comes on our iPods. (hear it)
Kelly said
Our first dane song is Leonard Cohen's "Dance Me to The End of Love" (hear it) and the father/daughter is the Johnny Cash/Fiona Apple version of "Bridge Over Troubled Waters."
Kris said
Mz Fitz, "The Book of Love" is originally by Magnetic Fields – it was on 69 Love Songs in '99. Peter Gabriel's version didn't come out until about five years later, and is slightly better known 'cause it appeared on the almost-finale of "Scrubs."
We're using Magnetic Fields' version! Excited.
chichica said
@Leigh: we did Adele's cover too. It was perfect!
I've been in a musical rut, can't wait to check out some of these artists. Thanks!
Jas said
The following are songs that are being considered for our first dance. Not sure how to dance to some of them.
The Sacrament-HIM (hear it)
What I Really Want To Say-Steven Curtis Chapman (hear it)
Swing Life Away-Rise Against (hear it)
If All Else Fails-Matchbook Romance
Such Great Heights-The Postal Service (hear it)
Eight Days A Week-The Beatles
If I Ain’t Got You-Alicia Keys (hear it)
I Caught Fire (In Your Eyes)-The Used
Imagine Me Without You-Luis Fonsi (hear it)
In My Life-The Beatles
Head Over Feet-Alanis Morissette (hear it)
Suspention-Mae
I'm Like A Lawyer With The Way I'm Always Trying To Get You Off (Me & You)-Fall Out Boy (hear it)
Jo Newall said
Wow – I've just been going through this for my wedding. Started off with about three pages – here's my shortened list – bit of a mixed bag:
More than Words – Extreme (hear it)
The Luckiest – Ben Folds (hear it)
Don't You Think It's Time – Bob Evans (hear it)
We'll Grow Old Together – Lior
Forever – Ben Harper (hear it)
Gorecki – Lamb (hear it)
First Day of My Life – Bright Eyes (hear it)
You and Me – Matthew Barber
If Everything Fell Quiet – Reindeer Section (good parent dancing song too) (hear it)
Can't Take My Eyes off of You – Muse
Over the Rainbow – Israel K'AMADA'WIWOOLE (hear it)
Better When We're Together – Jack Johnson
You Give me Something – James Morrison
Unintended – Muse
Pefect Now – Sarah Blasko
Brighter than Sunshine – Aqualung
Sea of Love – Cat Power
At Last – Eva Cassidy
Come Away with Me – Norah Jones
Look After You – The Fray
Romeo and Juliet – Dire Straits
Juno Soundtrack
Enjoy
Stewedscrewedandtattooed said
I felt compelled to comment and say that you've got EXCEPTIONAL taste in music – it's like you've lifted a chunk out of our playlist!!!!
Lan said
@EstherB I love "I'll Cover You" and considered using it.
We're planning on dancing to Idina Menzel's "Gorgeous." She's a member of the OBC of RENT to boot. Maybe I could find a way to mash up the two.
Another meaningful love song by Idina Menzel is "So Beautiful."
For any gamer geek, the Final Fantasy game series have some great themes:
"Eyes on Me", "Melodies of Life", and "Suteki Da Ne."
Danielle said
"The Way I Am" – Ingrid Michaelson.
Sabrina said
Some awesome New Zealand love songs out there which might not have been heard a million times: Tiki Taane's "always on my mind", Hollie Smith's "by my side" and pretty much anything by Aaradhna are just a few!
Stewedscrewedandtattooed said
YESSSS! Love Tiki!!!!!!
rachael said
my husband and i used "into my arms" by nick cave. none of our older relatives had ever heard it, and i got so many compliments on it!
Meaghan said
I almost feel like I don't want to share this one because ever since I first heard this song I've known it's going to be ours whenever we get around to making it legal:
Valery Gore – Dancing. Hello, Canadian piano player/singer.
Also, the Yeah Yeah Yeahs Hysteric is up there for me.
Iron and Wine has a ton of amazing folky love-type songs that are not "Such Great Heights," if you're looking for something similar but are finding it a bit overdone (with good reason; it's a great song). (hear it)
Naked As We Came, the Sea and the Rhythm, Boy With a Coin… all equally wonderful.
Kelli said
I think that the best best Iron & Wine wedding song is "Each Coming Night." It is haunting and beautiful. We will definitely use it at some point in our wedding.
Angie said
We danced our first dance to "Better Together" by Jack Johnson, which is a nice, upbeat, swingy kind of song. That said, we also had a friend sing "Fly" by Sara Groves during the ceremony. It's absolutely gorgeous. However, Sara Groves is a contemporary Christian singer/songwriter, and we, too, are under-the-radar pagans, so we never would have known about it if it weren't for a discussion much like this on Indiebride two years ago.
(Shout out to Elana- let me know if you're interested in hearing about the ways we incorporated neo-pagan elements into the ceremony without alarming all the Catholics in my family.
Mel said
We had three contenders.
-If ever by Foo Fighters
-Sparks by Coldplay
-Bobcaygeon by The Tragically Hip
We ended up going for Sparks.
Shea said
Our song is Sparks by Coldplay. It is hauntingly beautiful! If you are a "Love Realist" check it out. If you think love is always happiness and rainbows- choose something else.
Jessica_Iowa said
We already have an 'our song' in 'Would you Go with Me?' by Josh Turner.
However thanks for all the new songs I get to explore this weekend!
Jessica_Iowa said
Also PS. I think that "Grow Old With Me" by John Lennon would be a great 1st dance song, if Derrik liked John Lennon.
Reenie said
a few more suggestions:
Brandi Carlile – The Story (We used this!)
Yellowcard – Dear Bobbie (we would have used this but it makes me bawl!)
Reliant K – Must Have Done Something Right (fun and upbeat)