First dance songs that haven't been done to death

Dancing between the rows
Photo by Melissa Doyle of Casting Memories

Not that I have anything against Etta Jame's "At Last" or Michael Buble's "Everything," — they're both perfect first dance songs — but I've heard them both WAY too many times at weddings. So, combining my database of musician friends (some of whom made the list) with the Offbeat Bride editorial team's tastes, we've compiled a list of totally not overused first dance songs… from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely controversial!

Oldies but Goodies — along the same lines of "At Last"

  • The Beach Boys "God Only Knows" (hear it)
  • Shuggie Otis' "Strawberry Letter 23" (hear it)
  • Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get it On" (hear it)
  • Otis Redding's "That's How Strong My Love Is" (hear it)
  • Van Morrison's "Sweet Thing" (hear it)
  • The Zombies' "This Will Be Our Year" (hear it)
  • The Kinks "Waterloo Sunset" (hear it)
  • Toussaint McCall's "Nothing Takes The Place Of You" (hear it)
  • Al Green's "Love and Happiness" (hear it)

Sexy Romantic

  • (Ariel's) Me'Shell Ndegéocello's "Love Song #1" (hear it)
  • Ben Folds' "The Luckiest" (hear it)
  • Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" (hear it)
  • Massive Attack's "One Love" (hear it)
  • Mazzy Star's "Fade Into You" (hear it)
  • Portishead's "All Mine" (hear it)
  • Lou Reed's "Perfect Day" (hear it)

Wonky 'n Fun

Indie

  • (Megan's) Pavement's "We Dance" (hear it)
  • Jon Brion's "Here We Go" (hear it)
  • Neko Case's "This Tornado Loves You" (hear it)
  • Sufan Stevens' "The Dress Looks Nice On You" (hear it)
  • Wilco "I'm the Man Who Loves You" (hear it)
  • The Cure's "Friday I'm in Love" (hear it)
  • Bright Eyes' "First Day of my Life" (hear it)
  • Nick Drake's "Northern Sky" (hear it)
  • The Pixie's "La La Love You" (hear it)

SUPER Indie

  • Bird and the Bee "My Love" (hear it)
  • Obi Best "Nothing Can Come Between Us" (you can get a free mp3 here)
  • The Moldy Peaches' "Anyone Else but You" (hear it)
  • The Mountain Goats' "No Children" (hear it) — yes, some people find this song controversial!
  • Jeff Mangum's "I Love How You Love Me" (hear it)
  • She & Him's "I Was Made For You" (hear it)
  • Captain Beefheart's "I'm Glad" (hear it)

Jazzin' — along the same lines of Michael Buble

  • Sara Gazarek's "Makes Me Feel This Way" (hear it) or her version of "You Are My Sunshine" (hear it)
  • Harry Connick Jr.'s "Come By Me" (hear it)
  • Kurt Elling's "I Feel So Smoochie" (hear it)
  • Jamie Cullum's "I Think, I Love" (hear it)
  • Renee Olstead's " A Love That Will Last" (hear it)

Upbeat Swingin'

  • (Shrie's) Chuck Barry's "You Never Can Tell" (hear it)
  • Barry Louis Polisar's "All I Want Is You" (hear it)
  • Sly & the Family Stone's "You Can Make It If You Try" (hear it)
  • Huey "Piano" Smith's "Little Liza Jane" (hear it)

Laidback Easy-Peasy

  • Mayer Hawthorne's "Make Her Mine" (hear it)
  • Cat Power's version of "Sea of Love" (hear it)
  • Peter Gabriel's "Book of Love" (hear it)
  • Air's "Playground Love" (hear it)
  • The Fruit Bat's "When U Love Somebody" (hear it)

Dark and Romantic

  • Judas Priest's "Angel" (hear it)
  • Rammstein's "Ohne Dich" (hear it with English translation)
  • Type O Negative's "Love You to Death" (hear it)
  • Stone Temple Pilots' "Still Remains" (hear it)
  • Incubus' "Monuments and Melodies" (hear it)
  • Killswitch Engage's "My Curse" (hear it)
  • HIM's "Join Me In Death" (hear it)

Oh, you want more?

  1. We danced to "Four Left Feet" by the Ditty Bops — sweet, folky & funky.

  2. Yes! Thanks for this!

    I think we're going to use Nick Cave "Into My Arms."

    I'm partial to the Get Up Kids "I'll Catch You" but it's a little long…

  3. "You Are My Las Vegas" by Columbus based band, Red Wanting Blue. Featuring ukulele, tuba, and trumpet a very cute toe-tapper.

  4. To chime in on Chuck Ragan, "Symmetry" is also a contender.

  5. @lduncz

    We are doing that same song! My FI is obsessed with Bowie, plus I just really love that song.

  6. We're terrible dancers, we only dance at home (mostly in the kitchen.) (Like idiots.) So if we do decide to dance to anything, I think it would have to be Her Space Holiday "Sleepy Tigers." It describes us perfectly and we can dance like the idiots we are. ;)

  7. we are planning to use "Can't Buy Me Love" by the Beatles because it totally describes our relationship (we are sooooo poor)

  8. I love love love "Never Let Down" by Andrew WK and my friend is going to cover it on Ukulele for us. Perfect!

  9. My fiance and I will be dancing to "Just Breath" by Pearl Jam this June. It is a song that he heard on the radio, and reminded him of how he felt about me. When he played it for me the first time, I had my arms around his shoulders and we were both crying while the music played.

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  10. We did Tim Minchin's "Drowned". It was silly and sentimental at the same time.

  11. oh my god….

    you put Type O Negative on that list.

    *sniffle*

    I really have come to the right place.

    <3 <3

    Actually.. despite the fact that a love of TON was one of the things that brought us together, we hadn't yet considered it for part of the wedding.

    How foolish of us. :)

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  12. We're not having a first dance…but "our" song is Dice by Finley Quaye and Beth Orton so we are walking in to the reception to that. Also we are having Starlight by Muse played on a string quartet during the ceremony.
    If an impromptu first dance eventuated then I like Jesus, etc by Wilco…so sweet!

  13. I LOVE this selection….we have an alternative to our ceremony entrance dance but not our first dance yet so this list is GREAT!!!!!!!!! ;-) C X

  14. going old school 'somekind of wonderful' the drifters and I want Hayes Carlls version of bob dylans 'paint my masterpiece'

  15. We haven't had a real conversation about this yet, but I'm thinking of making a pitch for "My Favourite Book" by Stars. The lyrics are so sweet. I also love "I Will Follow You Into the Dark" by Death Cab but think I'd end up a sobbing mess on the dance floor.

    My Favourite Book
    I was always late, you never afraid, that we could be falling
    All our friends would say, maybe we should wait, but they can't see what's coming
    And to this day, when everything breaks, you are the anchor that holds me

    And that is why we'll always make it

    How I know your face, all the ways you move, you come in, I can read you
    You're my favourite book
    All the things you say, the way you shift your eyes
    I never knew there was someone, to make me come alive

    When the days are long, and the thunder with the storm, can always get me crying
    You can make my bed, I'll fall into it, shattered but not lonely
    Because I never knew a home, until I found your hands, when I'm weathered
    You come to me, you're my best friend

    And that is why we'll always make it

    How I know your face, all the ways you move, you come in, I can read you
    You're my favourite book
    All the things you say, the way you shift your eyes
    I never knew there was someone, to make me come alive

    And when we're making love
    I'd give up everything up for your touch

    How I know your face, all the ways you move, you come in, I can read you
    You're my favourite book
    All the things you say, the way you shift your eyes
    I never knew there was someone, to make me come alive

    When you go to work all the day I wait
    For you to come home, recount our time, in our little place

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  16. First dance: The nerdy and adorable "Mario Kart Love Song" by Sam Hart

    Last Dance: Because of an early life obsession with Baz's R&J "Kissing You" by. Desiree

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  17. Ours is going to be a remake of "send me an angel" but ours is the metal version by thrice!

  18. I'm utterly amazed that NO instrumentals are on the list. Might I remedy that with suggesting some Percy Grainger? In particular, I like the viola version of "Arrival Platform Humlet" and perhaps an abbreviated version of "Hill Song Song No. 2". Ralph Vaughan Williams also has some some lovely instrumentals that would be good for first dances.

    If you can't choose between an instrumental and sung words, there's always Arirang, the classic Korean folk song. There are quite a number of beautiful instrumental arrangements and many sets of lyrics that deal with the nature of love. I actually discovered it through middle and high school band, and it remains one of my favorites to this day. I was originally thinking about dancing to "Iris" by the Goo Goo Dolls, but I'm not so sure now that I remembered "Arirang".

  19. My husband mentioned that he wanted to dance to "Julia" by the Beatles 2 days after we were engaged. Little did he know that was always a girly dream of mine to have someone sing, play or dance to that song with me. It was absolutely perfect when we did :-)

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  20. I lurve this post! I have been thinking about using Perfect Day or Van Morrison Crazy Love or Into The Mystic for our first dance, but now I am definately walking down the isle to Calico Skies! Thank you Lynda!
    also
    Seriously, It is NONE of any ones business why someone wants a certain song to be THEIR song. This blog is generally hate free and I don't think I have ever seen this much snarkiness over something that can be so meaningful to a couple!

  21. Alexi Murdoch- all of my days
    Ray lamontagne- hold you in my arms
    Lovers spit- broken social scene
    The weepies- somebody loved
    The blowers daughter- Damien rice
    Parachute- she is love
    I’ll follow you into the dark- death cab for cutie
    Swing life away- rise against
    Such great heights- iron and wine
    First day of my life- bright eyes
    Brett dennen- she’s mine
    The one who loves you the most- brett dennen
    Matt costa- sunshine
    Rogue wave- eyes
    When I go- slowclub
    Mates of states- for the actors
    Landon pigg- falling in love in a coffee shop
    Blood bank- bon iver
    Jose Gonzalez- heartbeats

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  22. Never, Never Gunna give you up- Barry White. PERFECT.

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  23. Some great ideas but if you want your family and guests to join in you'll need a song that everyone recognises and can dance to.
    Unfortunately some of the top ten wedding first dance songs here in the UK are actually too slow to dance to!

  24. "Here comes the sun," by The Beatles.

    I always thought it would make a perfect wedding dance song. It's not very long, so nothing drawn out, and easy to move to, even if you have two left feet.

    Of course, the best part are the lyrics, about getting through hard times and now things are looking up, and I associate it from being together.

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  25. I want to walk down the aisle to an instrumental version of "Lover's Spit." So beautiful.

  26. Our first dance last Sunday was Jackie Wilson's "Your love keeps lifting me higher and higher" – a family favorite and used in Ghostbusters :)

  27. We were tied between the following:

    "Iris" by the Goo Goo Dolls
    and
    "I Don't Wanna Miss A Thing" by Aerosmith

    We ended up using "Iris" as our first song (and wonderfully being in our own world together), and used "I Don't Wanna Miss A Thing" for the couples' dance after the father-daughter song. Best of both worlds. Wonderfully powerful and sappy, and just a good rhythm to both of them.

  28. I love this post!

    Here's a few of the songs my FH and I have been considering:

    Brand New Day (Dr. Horrible Soundtrack)–a little too ridiculous for our grandparents, but we almost went with it

    You Belong to Me (Dean Martin)

    I Don’t Want to Set the World On Fire (The Ink Spots)

    Deed I Do (Ray Charles or other)

    You Picked Me (A Fine Frenzy)

    Inside and Out (Feist)

    Parentheses (The Blow)

    Side by Side (Nick Lucas)

    Can't take my eyes off of you (Muse)

    Inside and Out (Feist)

    Muse-Feelin’ Good–this is my top pick as of right now

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  29. I love the band HIM, but they have much better songs than "Join Me" that have less of a 25-year-old goth vibe. Try the song "In Joy and Sorrow", which actually does a better job of capturing the idea of love forever with lines like "In joy and sorrow, my home's in your arms."

    If you want to be really different, you can use "Under the Sun" by Finnish folk metal band Korpiklaani. But they are not for all aesthetics at all.

    My fiance and I are thinking of using "The Nurse who loved me" by A Perfect Circle. Because I'm a nurse and I love him.

    • Tess, I wouldn't necessarily say that there are "much better" songs, this particular song meant a great deal to the couple that inspired me to add it to the list. But there are, as you point, a great many other options out there and maybe "Join Me" will inspire people to find them. And also, I love the song "The Nurse Who Loved Me!" Sounds like it's perfect for you guys!

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  30. I'm not sure what the difference is between someone saying she thinks "At Last" is overused and someone saying she thinks "No Children" is inappropriate. It's all personal opinions. I'd never heard "No Children" before today, and while I don't "get" it as a wedding song, I'm sure if a friend of mine used it and I had some more context, I'd think it was fine. I also have NEVER heard either "At Last" or "Everything" used as a first dance song, so I'd be grooving on either of those choices (looove me some Buble). I think its impossible not to HAVE opinions about *theoretical* song choices (it was the reason behind this post, no?) but for me, those opinions and judgments completely disappear when it's a friend or loved one's wedding. I have never seen a first dance that wasn't completely lovely and perfect, no matter my feelings about the song going into the wedding. And even if your friends aren't as easily swept away by the magic of the moment as I am, no one's opinion besides yours counts. Who cares if your song is too common or too hate-filled? It's your song and no one has to like it but you.

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  31. Cool list :)

    I'd love to see one like this for father/daughter and mother/son dance too. I'm completely at a loss for that one heh.

  32. I love the idea of using Ohne Dich as a first dance song. My FH found an album of mixed versions of it and some of them are amazing, my fav being the Schiller remix. For our wedding we decided to go with a song called Lotus(remix) by Susumu Hirasawa (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X9muQIB-q_A) It is one of my all time favorite songs, but the song is not very well known. I'm sure we will be getting some strange looks from people, but the song is very us.

  33. We danced to Jamie Cullum's version of "I Only Have Eyes For You". It's our song because it seemed to be playing all the time when we first started dating, but that was mostly because I had that cd in my car for a solid month!

  34. For our wedding song, we had it narrowed down to several choices (we actually had a bracket going!), and we were all over the place.

    If you like classics that may have been cliched once but arent heard much nowadays:
    Billy Joel's "Just the Way You Are" (which was our winner)

    If you like happy, bouncy cheese:
    Blessid Union of Souls' "Hey Leonardo (She Likes Me for Me)"

    If you're into sap and cliches, but want to stray a bit from the beaten path:
    Lenny Kravitz's "Let Love Rule"

    And if you want to piss off Grandma:
    The Darkness's "I Believe in a Thing Called Love"

  35. Um, I might have missed this somewhere, because this is so obvious that I'd be amazed if no one has mentioned it yet… But what about Led Zeppelin's "Thank You"? I've always wanted to have it at my wedding. It's great for classic rock lovers, beautiful, and has simple, sweet lyrics.

    "If the sun refused to shine I would still be loving you.
    If mountains crumbled to the sea there would still be you and me.
    Kind woman, I give you my all
    Kind woman, nothing more.

    Little drops of rain whisper of the pain, tears of loves lost in the days gone by.
    My love is strong, with you there is no wrong, together we shall go until we die.
    Inspiration's what you are to me, inspiration, look… see.

    And so today, my world it smiles,
    Your hand in mine, we walk the miles.
    Thanks to you it will be done, for you to me are the only one.
    Happiness, no more be sad, happiness….I'm glad.

    If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you.
    If mountains crumbled to the sea, there would still be you and me."

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    • This has been my first dance song pick since I was a little girl. I always thought I would fall in love with any boy who ever sang that to me.

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    • We are totally dancing to "Since I've Been Loving You" by Zepplin!
      And "On the Low" by Hope Sandoval and the Warm Inventions.

  36. I'll be honest, at some point I started skimming these lists ;), but I still didn't see any songs for the retired raver in me.

    We're planning "Marcetta" by Gigi D'Agostino for in processional and Tiesto's "Elements of Life" for the recessional.

    Songs we're considering for first dance:
    * gigi d'agostino – l'amour toujours/I'll fly with you
    *ethan stoller – BKAB (geepoint mix)
    *astroline – close my eyes
    *dido – don't leave home (gabriel and dresden remix)
    *blank and jones – flying to the moon
    *baz luhrman – happy feet (high heels mix)
    *tiesto – in my memory (gabriel and dresden remix)
    *scott hardkiss – infinitely gentle blows
    *divine inspiration – the way

    Just wanted to offer up our little glowsticky offbeatiness :)

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  37. Home-by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic zeros. "home is where I'm in love with you" It's pretty awesome.

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  38. We did a swing dance to Bobby Darin's "Somewhere beyond the sea." It was awsome and everyone seemed to love it. :)

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  39. I'm digging the Yeah Yeah Yeahs' "Hysterical" especially the acoustic version.

  40. we are using "Married Life" from the Up soundtrack

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  41. We totally chose Mazzy Star's Fade Into You. Glad to see it on this list and that others see how cool and lovely this song is too!

  42. My fiance and I are thinking about using "Can't Buy Me Love" by The Beatles. :) It describes us almost too perfectly, and it's fun! We're also planning on Rick Rolling our guests during the first dance, haha.

  43. I've decided to use "hallelujah" by Jeff Buckley. I'm a big Buckley fan, love the biblical references, it was used in the Watchmen soundtrack…..just a great, slow, and sexy!

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  44. "sea of love" – but tom wait's version…we're walking out of the ceremony together to "if i were a carpenter" sung by johnny and june cater cash.

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  45. john mayer – slow dancing in a burning room.. or is that too grim

  46. I was pleased to see STP on here, but I think we're going with "I Got You" by Stone Temple Pilots. It does have a bit of a heroin reference, but the song is still just way too perfect for us :) very awesome song and my bridesmaid didn't pick up the reference so hopefully family won't either lol.

    Their cover of Dancing Days ain't half bad either.

  47. Another song for you to consider, "Ain't Love A Kick In The Head", Dean Martin. My hubby and I danced to that. Fun. :)

  48. We used The Magnetic Fields "The Book of Love". Totally fit us perfectly.

  49. WHERE was this post before our wedding (2.27.10)?! Music was the last thing I did, and since I was fried, and hubby was NO help whatsoever, I just threw "At Last" on the iPod during a frantic, stressed out,"I cant deal with his" fit.

    But then again, I probably could've done better had we not planned the entire wedding in 3 weeks :)

    Oh well.

  50. We are using The Promise by when in rome. It is sooo our love song.

    As for No Children. That is our secondary love song. I love that song and we've considered playing it at the reception, maybe late, after all the fuddy duds have gone home. But I think it is one of those songs that is more fun for us in the car. No one else ever seems to get why it is, well, romantic to us.

  51. "No Children" seems more like a divorce party song to me. Alternate Mountain Goats songs might be "Historiography" or "I love you.Let's light ourselves on fire." or even "Jenny".

    Awesome list! I love some of these songs to death.

  52. another fun idea is find a ridiculous song, that has pretty decent lyrics, and if you have any friends with bands, ask them to cover it and make it slowdanceable.im slowly convinving my brother, a metalhead drummer in a coverband,to do a rendition of bad romance by lady gaga for us. because that is just nuts.

    • Awesome idea! Bad Romance is the song I fell in love to…

  53. I danced with my father to the song "My Wish" by Rascal Flats. It was a nice sweet song that hasn't been done to death. Of course my Dad and I couldn't stop laughing the whole time at my 4 year old who was sitting on the bar flirting with the bartender.

  54. We had "My Heart Will Go On" sung by the Screaming Jets. It was done for Andrew Denton's Breakfast show on Triple M here in Sydney. Seriously awesome.
    It was that or "We're So Pretty" sung by the Deltones (Beach Boys style).

  55. My guy and I are going to dance to The Bird and The Bee's cover of "How Deep is Your Love" :) It couldn't be more perfect.

  56. I will be singing, "My Favorite Book" to my new husband at some point in the evening – with or without accompaniment. Shhh…he doesn't know. :)

    I'm *so* glad someone else brought up, "Heartbeats"…so lovely.

    I'm so tempted to use Stateless, "Bloodstream", the boy and I had a moment when we heard it for the first time…but alas, the tone is awfully heavy.

    So many great leads here, though! Thanks!

    Keep them coming!

  57. THanks SOOOOO Much for this post! This is a dilemma for us, and now we have so many options!!! And I got some new songs to groove to regardless….

  58. I need some songs that a Swing Band can play and aren't too cheesy.

    I was thinking of Brazil (theme from Brazil) because damn, I love that song, but I'm afraid I'm ignoring other really wonderful swing songs…

    I'd love to do "Closer to the bone" (i forget who sings that) but I'm not exactly a slender sweetie, so it doesn't work!

  59. 'Forever Young' by Alphaville was our first dance song – perfect beginning for a night of cheesy 80's music – and brings to mind Napoleon Dynamite :)
    My original choice was 'No Rain' by Blind Melon and my husband's first choice was 'The Touch' by Stan Bush (it's from the Transformers 1986 movie) so Alphaville was our perfect compromise.

  60. For rock, I love the idea of dancing or otherwise using Led Zeppelin's "Over the Hills and Far Away" from the Houses of the Holy Album. It's epic classic rock that'll please every generation, and has both slow/soft as well as rockin' out sections! It starts out perfectly!:
    "Hey, lady, you got the love I need,
    Maybe more than enough.
    Oh, Darlin', Darlin', Darlin', walk a while with me,
    Oh, you got so much, so much, so much. "

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  61. Hi,

    Long-time reader, first time commenter. Our first dance will be a west coast swing routine to Cake's Love You Madly – it was my second choice, but it's such a great dance song, so we had to do it.

    Our first choice was Barenaked Ladies' I Love You, which would have been just perfect if it wasn't so tricky to dance to (especially for us beginners). But the lyrics are just too sincere to pass up:

    I like soup
    And I like ice cream sandwiches too
    I like fishsticks
    But I love you

    Sigh…Maybe for the cake cutting.

    The two suggestions on here that I love the most are the Mario Kart Love Song (I can't believe that I've never heard that before, as obsessed as I am with that game!), and Rick Rolling – I'm SO going to bring this up with the FH tonight, I think he'd be all for it!

    Thanks for the great suggestions everyone!

    • Ashley, you are totally right. I've just added the Mario Kart Love Song and Rick Rolling to the list!

  62. My hubby and I danced to "The Lovecats" by The Cure… we had a TON of fun, and it was a lot more fitting for us as a couple than a slow dance would've been.

    and for the "Dark and Romantic" category – our other option was "There is a Light That Never Goes Out" by The Smiths. (Husband vetoed it as "creepy," sigh.)

  63. "The Polite Dance Song" by the Bird and the Bee
    or
    "Black Magic Woman" by Fleetwood Mac

    I think the second one is pretty funky.

  64. So happy to see Marvin Gaye "Lets get it on" on this list. This has been our song for years, even our ringtones for each other. My fiance doesn't think it is appropriate as a first dance! I do! It's our song and our friends know it. Family will have to deal with the content…

  65. I LOVE "Luckiest" by Ben Folds… I have also think that Brandi Carlile's "Dying Day" would be perfect for a couple who had a long distance stint in their relationship!

  66. I've sworn that if I ever get married, in an actual wedding setting, the first dance will be Randy Travis' "Forever and Ever, Amen", because . . . well, because it's just awesome. Sappy, yes. Cliché, yes. A two-step instead of a waltz or slow dance, yes. I don't care.

  67. If I get married, my first dance song is definitely going to be something by 311. Their cover of The Cure's "Love Song" seems perfect, but I might go with something else by them since they have a lot of laid back lovey songs. :)

  68. We danced to "God Only Knows" by the Beach Boys at our wedding–love that song.

    We also considered "Have Love Will Travel" by The Sonics and "You Really Got Me" by The Kinks.

  69. "Better together" Jack johnson

    It's been our song since high school and if we ever have the opportunity to plan a wedding together we will most likely use it. :)

    Here's to highschool sweethearts!

  70. I absolutely LOVE Band of Horses – No One's Gonna Love You. The name is misleading, it's so sweet and the perfect speed for dancing, I love it!

    My man isn't as into indie as I am, so Ben Folds- The Luckiest is way up on the list, since we both love Ben Folds.

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    • finally someone mentioned "no ones gonna love you" the first time i heard that song i starting crying and swore it would be my wedding song. months later my best friend told me she was getting married and told me she needed a wedding song. for a minute i thought about not telling her about it, but i didn't want to be selfish, so i played it for her and she had the same reaction as i did. a year later her and her husband danced to it. i still want to play it at my wedding.

  71. Hank Williams Howlin' At the Moon. It's quirky but very sweet without being sappy.

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  72. the cranberries- Linger, its not the usual sappy song, and it talks about him being caught with someone else, but in the end i love that it says "im just a fool for you" and all that really matters is choosing the one song that reminds you of each other! no one else needs to like it!

  73. We are getting married on June 19th at a beautiful resort in florida and are making it super-fun retro styled… my dress is leopard print with a huge red bow…. our cake will be covered with cherries… Anyway – we are dancing our first dance to the Beach Boys "Don't worry baby". SUCH a cute song! We absolutely can't wait.

  74. Such an awesome post.

    My boy picked:
    Pistol by Dustin Kensrue

    I love how you curse when I wake you up
    And sweetly demand that I fill your cup.
    I follow your cool gun powder glare
    Honey, you lay me bare.

    You're the girl of my dreams
    And a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and true
    Time to lay down my bets,
    Oh, I put all my money on you.

    When I'm in the dark, girl, you bring me to light.
    It seems like you're almost always right.
    So keep boxing my ears when I sew them shut.
    Baby, you sure are tough.

    You're the girl of my dreams
    And a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and true
    Time to lay down my fears,
    Honey, I feel so safe around you.

    If the tiller man taught me anything,
    It's that a hard-headed woman is what I need
    To help me to always do my best.
    Baby, my life is blessed.

    You're the girl of my dreams
    Darling, please wear this ring
    You're an angel through and through.
    Time to lay down my life,
    Honey, I'd do it gladly for you.

    Time to lay down my life,
    Honey, I'd do it gladly for you

    *sigh* I love him. :)
    Other options:
    Maybe I'm Amazed by Jem
    Coffee Shop by Landon Pigg

  75. My fiance and I have decided to go with "Fly Me to the Moon" by Frank Sinatra. First song we ever danced to because it was used in a musical we were both in. Kinda sappy, but it means a lot to us.

  76. Our song has always been "Melt with you" by Modern English. I know there have been slower covers that people like but FH and I are going to use the original. I'm suprised no one has mentioned it yet.

  77. Has no one said Love Song by The Cure or 311or Voltaire? (depending on the version you like)

  78. We are using 'Love Song' by Snake River Conspiracy for our recessional…. great cover. LOVE IT. We are also using 'All I Need' by Radiohead for our first dance. Suggestion: "Hot Lava" by Perry Ferrell and D.V.D.A.

  79. I'm thrilled that I'm not the only one that's considered "The Way I Am" by Ingrid Michaelson:) But I'm actually thinking of singing the song as a surprise present for my FH. Here are a few others that we've considered:

    "Be Still My Heart" The Postal Service
    "Breathe Me" Sia
    "Your Ex-Lover is Dead" Stars (This may seem an odd choice but this song has seen us through some tough times and it always brings a smile to our face)
    "You and I" Ingrid Michaelson (VERY sweet song!)

    About this "No Children Controversy 2010"(lolz), it might not be a song that I would choose, but I applaud anyone that has. After all, variety is what OBB is all about:D

  80. For our first dance, we're planning to use "Go Places" by the New Pornographers. It was written by A.C. Newman for his then girlfriend, now wife, but is sung by Neko Case – so best of both worlds!
    Also, we are walking in to "Home" by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. Which is my current song addiction.

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  81. Hey for the Gender Neutral best love song ever….

    Androgynous by Joan Jett and The Black hearts.

    "Here comes Dick
    He's wearing a skirt
    Here comes Jane
    You know she's sporting a chain
    Same hair revolution
    Same build evolution
    Tomorrow who's going to fuss

    And they love each other so
    Androgynous
    Closer than you know
    Love each other so
    Androgynous

    Now something meets boy
    And something meets girl
    They both are the same
    They're overjoyed in this world
    Same hair revolution, unisex, evolution
    Tomorrow who's gonna fuss "

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  82. Everything Changes by Staind. Absolutely love that song…..and he is the mess I chose.

  83. We are so happy we found this list… the minute we heard Mario Kart Love Song we were SOLD!

    It is perfect for us in so many ways… including the fact that we met at a Halloween party and this past year dressed up as Mario and Luigi for (our anniversary…) Halloween. We also brought the costumes back to life for our Christmas photos, so all of our relatives know about our Mario-love.

    We are definitely going to dance to it for our wedding. :)

  84. Can anyone help with a non-cheesy song for mother and son? My FH doesn't even really like to dance, so preferably a short one.

  85. We did a choreographed dance to Bjork's "It's Oh So Quiet." So much fun!

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  86. Warmness on the soul by Avenged sevenfold is really sweet with a little rock edge.

  87. boats and birds by: gregory and the hawks. its on my list of songs that I'd want. :)

  88. Good friends at an out door B-B-Q wedding went with James Brown's "I Feel Good" at the moment of the "you may kiss the bride". Nothing cooler than 100 people jumping to their feet at the same time and dancing their asses off!!

  89. Good suggestions! I'd like to add a few:

    Bif Naked's cover of Metallica's "Nothing Else Matters"
    Nick Cave's "Straight to You" or "The Ship Song"
    For those 80s metal fans, "Save All Your Love" by Great White
    Jerry Only of the Misfits did some great 50s covers such as "This Magic Moment" and "You Belong to Me"

    I could go on, but I'll stop now. ;)

  90. Super, super indie- Check out THE ROSEBUDS song SHAKE OUR TREE.
    Everything for my wedding will be inspired by this song.
    Actually, The Rosebuds have a lot of great love songs that would work really well. And some of their songs can easily be done 'sing-a-long' style very easily, so you could even get your whole wedding party involved!

    They are on Merge Records, which has a ton of incredible artists, some of which I've seen listed on here. http://www.mergerecords.com

    Birds, in love. Its upbeat, sung between a man and a woman

    http://www.mergerecords.com/store/store_detail.php?catalog_id=361

    That bird's ready I know
    He's tired of being alone
    He's working all on his own
    Building himself a home

    And take that finch when he sings
    See his mate by his wings
    And if you listen real close
    You may even hear them say

    Will our love ever end? (woah no)
    Will you stop being my best friend? (woah no)
    Will you speak harsh words to me? (woah no)
    Singing a story of love in the leaves

    (oo-oo-o-oo)
    Before the winter takes hold
    And the figs are dry and cold
    The birds all meet in the tree
    And confess love's what they need
    Perform love on their limbs
    And sing one of love's true hyms
    And if you listen real close
    You can even hear them say

    Will ya ever not treat me right? (woah no)
    Are you ever gonna hold me down? (woah no)
    Will you get tired holding me tight? (woah no)
    Looks like the story of love grows, alright

    Will our love ever end? (woah no)
    Will you let the dogs shake our tree? (woah no)
    Will you stop being my best friend? (woah no)
    Looks like the story of love never ends

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  91. 'God Only Knows' is "our" song, but we danced first to 'Nothing Can Change this Love' by Sam Cooke. I celebrate his entire catalogue.

    Others we considered – The Pledge (Brendan Benson); Dearest (Buddy Holly); Umbrella (Rihanna); Hex (Neko Case)

  92. my fiancé and i are doing book of love by peter gabriel!!! i didn't want a song that we had heard at another wedding or that people would expect(plus i'm a scrubs addict and it was on the series finale lol)i'm stoked to see it on the list

    • Oh then we're going into an awesome mashup of different songs that all have to do with dancing. :D from lady gaga to all she wants to do is dance, madagascar and many many more!! So excited!!!

  93. Dance with You–David Kitt
    Modern Love–Last Town Chorus (David Bowie Cover)
    Baby I Love You–Ramones
    Wonderwall–Ryan Adams

    oh, I guess I like different takes on classics, huh?

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