First dance songs that haven't been done to death
Not that I have anything against Etta Jame's "At Last" or Michael Buble's "Everything," — they're both perfect first dance songs — but I've heard them both WAY to many times at weddings. So, combining my database of musician friends (some of whom made the list), Shrie's music writing experience and Ariel's… whatever the hell Ariel listens to (which, I believe, includes everything from deep neo-soul to esoteric Euro dance pop), the OBB team has compiled a list of totally not overused first dance songs, from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely controversial!
Oldies but Goodies — along the same lines of "At Last"
- The Beach Boys "God Only Knows" (hear it)
- Shuggie Otis' "Strawberry Letter 23" (hear it)
- Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get it On" (hear it)
- Otis Redding's "That's How Strong My Love Is" (hear it)
- Van Morrison's "Sweet Thing" (hear it)
- The Zombies' "This Will Be Our Year" (hear it)
- The Kinks "Waterloo Sunset" (hear it)
- Toussaint McCall's "Nothing Takes The Place Of You" (hear it)
- Al Green's "Love and Happiness" (hear it)
Sexy Romantic
- (Ariel's) Me'Shell Ndegéocello's "Love Song #1" (hear it)
- Ben Folds' "The Luckiest" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" (hear it)
- Massive Attack's "One Love" (hear it)
- Mazzy Star's "Fade Into You" (hear it)
- Portishead's "All Mine" (hear it)
- Lou Reed's "Perfect Day" (hear it)
Wonky 'n Fun
- Adam Sandler's "I Wanna Grow Old With You" (hear it)
- The "Family Matters" theme song "As Days Go By" (hear it)
- Doris Day's "A Bushel And A Peck" (hear it)
- The Velvet Underground's "I'm Sticking with You" (hear it)
- The Band's "Cripple Creek" (hear it)
- Toto's "Africa" (hear it)
- Sam Hart's "Mario Kart Love Song" (hear it)
- Rick Roll those bitches!
Indie
- (Megan's) Pavement's "We Dance" (hear it)
- Jon Brion's "Here We Go" (hear it)
- Neko Case's "This Tornado Loves You" (hear it)
- Sufan Stevens' "The Dress Looks Nice On You" (hear it)
- Wilco "I'm the Man Who Loves You" (hear it)
- The Cure's "Friday I'm in Love" (hear it)
- Bright Eyes' "First Day of my Life" (hear it)
- Nick Drake's "Northern Sky" (hear it)
- The Pixie's "La La Love You" (hear it)
SUPER Indie
- Bird and the Bee "My Love" (hear it)
- Obi Best "Nothing Can Come Between Us" (you can get a free mp3 here)
- The Moldy Peaches' "Anyone Else but You" (hear it)
- The Mountain Goats' "No Children" (hear it) — yes, some people find this song controversial!
- Neutral Milk Hotel's "I Love How You Love Me" (hear it)
- She & Him's "I Was Made For You" (hear it)
- Captain Beefheart's "I'm Glad" (hear it)
Jazzin' — along the same lines of Michael Buble
- Sara Gazarek's "Makes Me Feel This Way" (hear it) or her version of "You Are My Sunshine" (hear it)
- Harry Connick Jr.'s "Come By Me" (hear it)
- Kurt Elling's "I Feel So Smoochie" (hear it)
- Jamie Cullum's "I Think, I Love" (hear it)
- Renee Olstead's " A Love That Will Last" (hear it)
Upbeat Swingin'
- (Shrie's) Chuck Barry's "You Never Can Tell" (hear it)
- Barry Louis Polisar's "All I Want Is You" (hear it)
- Sly & the Family Stone's "You Can Make It If You Try" (hear it)
- Huey "Piano" Smith's "Little Liza Jane" (hear it)
Laidback Easy-Peasy
- Mayer Hawthorne's "Make Her Mine" (hear it)
- Cat Power's version of "Sea of Love" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "Book of Love" (hear it)
- Air's "Playground Love" (hear it)
- The Fruit Bat's "When U Love Somebody" (hear it)
Dark and Romantic
- Judas Priest's "Angel" (hear it)
- Rammstein's "Ohne Dich" (hear it with English translation)
- Type O Negative's "Love You to Death" (hear it)
- Stone Temple Pilots' "Still Remains" (hear it)
- Incubus' "Monuments and Melodies" (hear it)
- Killswitch Engage's "My Curse" (hear it)
- HIM's "Join Me In Death" (hear it)
As in our last post for "Non-sappy father/daughter dance songs" if you've got any suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments.
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Sam said
My Fiance and I were torn between "This never happened before" by Paul McCartney and "To love somebody" by Nina Simone….we've settled on Nina….I think!
ysabelkid said
There's also 'Dolphin's Cry' by Live – a beautiful song that we used while signing the register at my first wedding. I entered to Alanis Morisette's 'Head over feet' – such an awesome song! – and we exited to Wagner's 'Ride of the Valkyries'.
Tyler Ewing said
We're doing "Song for Us" by Eric Michael!
Sally said
I this is my first time commenting. I'm playing wedding planner for my little sister, and I've taken the opportunity to find ideas for myself. *someday* .
My suggestions:
"When You Really Love a Woman" -Bryan Adams
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hq2KgzKETBw
Perhaps this next one is overused. What do you think?
'Everything I do, I do it for you" by Bryan Adams
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGoWtY_h4xo
Could be a first dance, vows, or a song to walk down the aisle to:
"One Hand, One Heart" from West Side Story (Bernstein)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_A0fVWomF90
I think this has been listed by one other bride . I'll bring up anyway
'Somebody's getting married" From "The Muppets take Manhattan"
http://youtu.be/g0P5FzSe3qw
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Melissa said
Wow! This is an awesome list that will make up most of my evening wedding's music!
Just can't believe that no one has mentioned "Trees" by Marty Casey and the Love Hammers. Fantastic song, offbeat, danceable, and not over done. We're using it for our recessional.
Thanks for all the great tips, Offbeatbride!
MegLymeZ said
"Fidelity" by Regina Spektor.
Sally said
If you can dance fast, "Papa Gene's Blues" by The Monkees:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_N9DnLUPmQ
"I have no more than I did before
But now I've got all that I need
For I love you and I know you love me"
Jemimah said
I think we are set on using Cat Power's Sea of Love for the processional, Grinderman's Palaces Of Montezuma for the recessional.
Lykke Li's Tonight as our first dance (although she does the most tear jerking cover of 'will you still love me tomorrow') EVER! Was a tough toss up!
For our last dance (yup we are having a last dance!) The Walkmen's In The New Year… (thats if we're still standing hey?!) hiccup!
Sara said
We are thinking of the first dance to "Angel Eyes" by Steelheart. Love the 8o's.
chabbers said
We are having my little sister sing an acoustic version of The Cure: Friday I'm in Love. We are getting married on a Friday, I bloody love The Cure, and most importantly it was one of my late father's favourite songs. It is very special to us! x
smoochygirl07 said
My fiance and I are HUGE David Bowie fans, so we are torn between "Word on a Wing" and "Wild is the Wind", both off of Station to Station. When we first got together, he told me that "Word on a Wing" was his song for me, so it has a lot of sentimental value, and will probably be the song we choose.
Theresa said
I can't believe nothing by Frank Sinatra or Dean Martin made th "oldies by goodies" section. They have some really good stuff. Cheesy, yes, but not overplayed.
Cheryl said
Fantastic first dance songs that are totally unique are: Endlessly by Green River Ordinance and Uncertainly Certain by Green River Ordinance
Also, Love Uncompromised by Jason Castro
All amazing songs for first dance at a wedding.
Matt said
Best first dance song…. Swept Away by Full Turnout.
Angelica Sanchez said
Anyone know of any good Reggae songs? I like "True Love" by SOJA (Soldiers of Jah Army) but i cant really find anything else.
Bitha said
My husband and I chose Chris Cornell's Finally Forever- which most people at our wedding said was appropriate since we'd been engaged for 7 years.
NolaBride said
"marry me " by amanda marshall
simple, beautiful and perfect for New Orleans wedding !
Stephanie Pare said
is there any Father / Daughter dance songs that hasn't been played to death ??? Trying to find a song for our wedding.
Superman said
Give this link a shot.
James Nedresky said
I've shot a lot of weddings over the years, and I'm still waiting for a couple to dance to "You made me so very happy" by Blood Sweat & Tears.
Maybe I'm too old???
Stephanie Pare said
@ James That'd be a perfect song as first dance as husband and wife. But,I'm currently looking for Father & Daughter dance song.. We're having a motorcycle wedding & want to not have the traditional song's played if possible.
Erin said
We're using "Tangled up in you" by Staind… great lyrics and great band! I love your Rammstein suggestion though!
Cary said
"my romance" by anyone, Roberta Flack, Tony Bennett, Carly Simon, the list goes on and on.
Kelley said
Spur of the moment choice by my Fiance, Talking Bird by Death Cab for Cutie. We have parrots, so not only could it be a love song, we could also honor them since they have been our children for the past 5 years. His dad played the song for us one day and we have loved it ever since.
Angela said
We danced to "Le soleil est pres de moi" by air.
Helena said
I noticed that there weren't many bluegrass or (for lack of a better term, "hippie") songs up here.
For someone looking for something fast and bluegrassy: "Born to Be With You"- Chatham County Line.
Leftover Salmon does a great version of "Lovin in my Baby's Eyes"
Old Crow Medicine Show- "Wagon Wheel"
Phish- "Waste"
O.A.R.- "Wonderful Day"
Eastmountainsouth- "So Are You to Me" is a beautiful, slow song
Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros- "Home"
And for the person who mentioned the Beatles' "I Will", there's a great cover by an indie band called Roma di Luna on the Minnesota Beatle Project Vol.1 (you can get it on iTunes). There're also some great versions of "I Want to Hold Your Hand" and "Two of Us" on some of the other volumes of the Minnesota Beatles Project albums.
Alexis said
I walked down the isle to Tracy Chapman's "Wedding Song". I haven't seen it listed on any of these wedding websites and it was by far the most amazing and best worded song I ever heard for a wedding… and I have played it over and over again since I have been married and still love it as much as the first time I heard it. you can find it on youtube