First dance songs that haven't been done to death
Not that I have anything against Etta Jame's "At Last" or Michael Buble's "Everything," — they're both perfect first dance songs — but I've heard them both WAY to many times at weddings. So, combining my database of musician friends (some of whom made the list), Shrie's music writing experience and Ariel's… whatever the hell Ariel listens to (which, I believe, includes everything from deep neo-soul to esoteric Euro dance pop), the OBB team has compiled a list of totally not overused first dance songs, from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely controversial!
Oldies but Goodies — along the same lines of "At Last"
- The Beach Boys "God Only Knows" (hear it)
- Shuggie Otis' "Strawberry Letter 23" (hear it)
- Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get it On" (hear it)
- Otis Redding's "That's How Strong My Love Is" (hear it)
- Van Morrison's "Sweet Thing" (hear it)
- The Zombies' "This Will Be Our Year" (hear it)
- The Kinks "Waterloo Sunset" (hear it)
- Toussaint McCall's "Nothing Takes The Place Of You" (hear it)
- Al Green's "Love and Happiness" (hear it)
Sexy Romantic
- (Ariel's) Me'Shell Ndegéocello's "Love Song #1" (hear it)
- Ben Folds' "The Luckiest" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" (hear it)
- Massive Attack's "One Love" (hear it)
- Mazzy Star's "Fade Into You" (hear it)
- Portishead's "All Mine" (hear it)
- Lou Reed's "Perfect Day" (hear it)
Wonky 'n Fun
- Adam Sandler's "I Wanna Grow Old With You" (hear it)
- The "Family Matters" theme song "As Days Go By" (hear it)
- Doris Day's "A Bushel And A Peck" (hear it)
- The Velvet Underground's "I'm Sticking with You" (hear it)
- The Band's "Cripple Creek" (hear it)
- Toto's "Africa" (hear it)
- Sam Hart's "Mario Kart Love Song" (hear it)
- Rick Roll those bitches!
Indie
- (Megan's) Pavement's "We Dance" (hear it)
- Jon Brion's "Here We Go" (hear it)
- Neko Case's "This Tornado Loves You" (hear it)
- Sufan Stevens' "The Dress Looks Nice On You" (hear it)
- Wilco "I'm the Man Who Loves You" (hear it)
- The Cure's "Friday I'm in Love" (hear it)
- Bright Eyes' "First Day of my Life" (hear it)
- Nick Drake's "Northern Sky" (hear it)
- The Pixie's "La La Love You" (hear it)
SUPER Indie
- Bird and the Bee "My Love" (hear it)
- Obi Best "Nothing Can Come Between Us" (you can get a free mp3 here)
- The Moldy Peaches' "Anyone Else but You" (hear it)
- The Mountain Goats' "No Children" (hear it) — yes, some people find this song controversial!
- Neutral Milk Hotel's "I Love How You Love Me" (hear it)
- She & Him's "I Was Made For You" (hear it)
- Captain Beefheart's "I'm Glad" (hear it)
Jazzin' — along the same lines of Michael Buble
- Sara Gazarek's "Makes Me Feel This Way" (hear it) or her version of "You Are My Sunshine" (hear it)
- Harry Connick Jr.'s "Come By Me" (hear it)
- Kurt Elling's "I Feel So Smoochie" (hear it)
- Jamie Cullum's "I Think, I Love" (hear it)
- Renee Olstead's " A Love That Will Last" (hear it)
Upbeat Swingin'
- (Shrie's) Chuck Barry's "You Never Can Tell" (hear it)
- Barry Louis Polisar's "All I Want Is You" (hear it)
- Sly & the Family Stone's "You Can Make It If You Try" (hear it)
- Huey "Piano" Smith's "Little Liza Jane" (hear it)
Laidback Easy-Peasy
- Mayer Hawthorne's "Make Her Mine" (hear it)
- Cat Power's version of "Sea of Love" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "Book of Love" (hear it)
- Air's "Playground Love" (hear it)
- The Fruit Bat's "When U Love Somebody" (hear it)
Dark and Romantic
- Judas Priest's "Angel" (hear it)
- Rammstein's "Ohne Dich" (hear it with English translation)
- Type O Negative's "Love You to Death" (hear it)
- Stone Temple Pilots' "Still Remains" (hear it)
- Incubus' "Monuments and Melodies" (hear it)
- Killswitch Engage's "My Curse" (hear it)
- HIM's "Join Me In Death" (hear it)
As in our last post for "Non-sappy father/daughter dance songs" if you've got any suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments.
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-Twist- said
AAAAAH!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE that Cat Power – Sea of Love is on here. That won't be our first dance song (not sure we're even having a first dance) but that is OUR song! We heard a few different versions of it randomly together at different events when we started dating and it just stuck! *swoon*
lady brett said
i think we're going to use tracy chapman's "you're the one." (hear it) i love how it's not super gooey-lovey-dovey; i think the realism of it makes it so much more romantic than a lot of more traditional ones (not that i don't adore some ooey-gooey sappy songs! i just want something more meaningful for this)
Lynda said
oldies — "Calico Skies" by the Beatles (hear it)
indie — "Jesus, Etc" by Wilco (hear it)
indie folk — "Love Serenade" by the Waifs (hear it)
"Tango" by Patty Larkin (or anything off her new "25" album… it's 25 love songs, but not lovey-dovey songs… some are sad, some are beautiful, some are just weird…) (hear it)
"you" (from Kitchen Radio album) or "you meet the nicest people in your dreams" by Peter Mulvey (hear it)
bunnyheffner said
Calico Skies is actually a Paul McCartney Song, not a Beatles song. It's off his album Flaming Pie, which was released in 1997.
Magpie said
We are dancing to "Oh,It is Love" by Hellogoodbye, sung as a duet by the best man and my fiance's sister. Its kinda one of our songs (we have many!). I'm really looking forward to it! (hear it)
Elizabeth said
Not sure if there's going to be a way for us to have a first dance given the way our wedding's rolling, but if we have the option, we might use "This Must Be the Place" by Talking Heads. David Byrne <3 (hear it)
Christina W. said
DH & I danced to "I Wanna Grow Old With You"! It just seemed so perfect for us and it's such a sweet but funny song. We got so many compliments. And I love that it's not over done.
Ruth said
I've always planned to play "life, in a nutshell," by Barenaked Ladies. It was originally written about the lead singers relationship with his wife but it fits an couple who are as happy together as they alone. (hear it)
I also love the moludy peaches song that's used in Juno. (hear it)
katie said
we danced to ernestine anderson's version of "as long as i live." (listen here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v…playnext=1 )it's a classic swing song (think sinatra or buble), but not one that is ubiquitous or overplayed–i'd never even heard of it until two days before our wedding. cheesy? yes. danceable? absolutely. =)
Denise said
My pick is Ray LaMontagne's "you are the best thing." (hear it. How about a list for offbeat songs to walk into the reception? I am having a hard time with that one.
Megan said
we are using "little green bag" by the george baker selection. this is more of an homage to reservoir dogs (and it has fantastic opening music). (hear it)
Stephanie Weiss said
I think we're going to play Sea of Love by Cat Power as our processional; we're walking out together, and having and ocean side wedding, and it would be really sweet.
Kelli said
We are walking into Accidentally in Love by the Counting Crows. Its fun and up beat. (hear it)
My future sister in law walked in to Jump by House of Pain, it made the whole dance floor do just that. (hear it)
Mel said
We're going with 'Just Like Heaven' by The Cure. It's 'our song' and was playing on the jukebox in our local pub right before he proposed. We're also having the lyrics read during our (church) ceremony. (hear it)
Mz Fitz said
I LOVE Neko Case, but I'm not sure that "this Tornado Loves You" is a good idea. I guess it would would if you're in an openly co-dependent relationship, or are marrying a stalker. Seriously, you and your guests would have to have really good senses of humor to have just about any Neko Case song.
rachel said
I walked in to Sufajn Stevens – The dress looks nice to you (hear it). We danced to Sufjan's – To Be Alone With You. (hear it)
We are kinda Sufjan fanatics, but what can I say? It is good wedding music!
DrCrimefighter said
We used "Maps" by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs (hear it) but "Sweet Darlin'" By She & Him was a close second. (hear it)
Rachel said
That sounds wonderful! I love Maps!
Rhea said
i'm walking in to the acoustic version of "maps". YYYs are my fave!
Leigh said
We're doing Adele's cover of Dylan's Make You Feel My Love, which I love to pieces. Sweet and soulful. (hear it)
Marissa said
That gave me chills!
OhNuts said
The Cure – Mint Car (hear it)
The first verse is perfect can you get any better than…
The sun is up
I'm so happy I could scream!
And there's nowhere else in the world I'd rather be
Than here with you
It's perfect
It's all I ever wanted
I almost can't believe that it's for real
Chuck said
Excellent choice! That is such a fun, happy song.
Teresa said
Love this song! Love The Cure!!! Great choice!
Nikki said
"In Your Eyes" always brings a tear to my eye, especially the acoustic version. I love it!
"I Say a Little Prayer" is also a good one – very sweet and fun. Even an atheist like me loves it!
Betsy said
Oooh!
The cover of "We've Got a World That Swings" by They Might Be Giants.
We're massive TMBG fans.
"I'd like to take you on this wild, wonderful venture, fly like a kite through space, no strings…"
Elizabeth said
TMBG all the way! "Another First Kiss" on their Mink Car album.
~Lily said
i am slightly offput that there are no rock, metal or industrial songs on here. BUT, we alts/goths/metalheads don't really need help picking out songs
we tend to excel at it in the first place
Megan said
Lily! Please suggest some! I was at a total loss. And no one I asked had any ideas for me. If you suggest some I will totally add them and I would be grateful to you!
Becca said
We're into punk, old rock n roll, and rockabilly. We did a swing dance to the pop-punk song "I'm a Pretender" by The Exploding Hearts. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QKls3n6lpWU)
Other songs we considered:
"Do you wanna dance" (hear it), "I wanna be your boyfriend" (hear it), "Oh oh I love her so", "she's the one" – by the Ramones
Rockabilly Ramones covers by Full Blown Cherry
"I will rock and roll with you" (hear it), "She my baby" by Johnny Cash
"Oh Boy" (hear it), "It's so Easy" (hear it), "Everyday" (hear it), "You're the one", "I don't care (baby your so square) by Buddy Holly (hear it)
"Come on, let's go" by Ritchie Valens (hear it)
"Church on Sunday" (hear it), "Poprocks and Coke" (hear it), "80" by Green Day
"Chocolate Eyes" (hear it), "He's All Mine" (hear it – Kim Lenz
Other ideas:
Me first and the gimme gimmes does covers of various popular songs
"1-2 crush on you" (hear it) – the clash
"what's inside a girl" – the cramps
"mass pike" – the get up kids (hear it)
"great expectations" (hear it), "old white lincoln" (hear it) – gaslight anthem
"feel like makin love" (hear it), "more today than yesterday" – goldfinger
"sweetnes" – jimmy eat world (hear it)
"do you wanna touch me?" – joan jett (hear it)
"what a wonderful world" – joey ramone (hear it)
"this is for real" (hear it), "it had to be you" (hear it) – motion city soundtrack
"and i will be with you" (hear it), "i just wanna do it with you" (hear it)- mr. t experience
"i will dare" – the replacements (hear it)
"hot un" – granpaboy
"question" (hear it), "indefinitley" – the old 97s
"valentine" (hear it), "our love" (hear it) – rhett miller
"luv luv luv", "kissed" – pansy division
"love you in the fall" – paul westerberg (hear it)
"love you til the end" – the pogues (hear it)
"the sun always shines around you" (hear it), "fuck the world" (hear it) – the queers
"i know" – save ferris
"i think we're alone now" – penny and the loafers
"punk rock princess" – something corporate (hear it>
"what i like about you", "i never promised you a rose garden" – the suicide machines (hear it)
"i wanna waltz" (hear it), "i'll be you my heart" – wanda jackson
"when i'm with you, i'm ok" (hear it), "inside me, inside you" (hear it) – ultimate fakebook
"for always" (hear it), "here with me" (hear it), "without you" (hear it) – mxpx
'under the hedge" – ted leo (hear it)
"i won't let me", "in love this way", "good good things" – the descendents
"carry you" (hear it), "think the world" (hear it) – all
"olive me" – nofx
"this time darlin" – social distortion (hear it)
"best of me" – the starting line (hear it)
"no place feels like home" – midtown (hear it)
"today's the day", "have you ever", "sweet sweet boy" – the unlovables
"cupid's victim" – tiger army (hear it)
"sealed with a kiss" – the eyeliners (hear it)
uh yeah … so that's a lot but there's probably more ….
Ryan said
Ha. You just named, like, half of the music that was on my wedding mix. My husband and I had our first dance to the "I Want You Around" by The Ramones. The song "Danny Says" is actually really sweet too, but something other than junior high dance step pace was a little too much for us.
Kate said
I'd love some suggestions for first dance songs that are a bit rock-n-roll. Was thinking of "All I want" by Staind? (hear it)
Mrs. Jess said
We danced to the Smashing Pumpkins version of "My Blue Heaven" for our first dance. Hubz is a HUGE SP fan… it worked out great, it's a waltz. (hear it)
Emily said
We're dancing our first dance to "Chariots Rise (Acoustic)" by Lizzie West and Baba Buffalo. The song is originally from the movie Secretary, but this version is much sweeter and softer. (It also replaces the line "what a fool am I to fall so in love" with "what grace have I to fall so in love") (hear it)
R. Smith said
"Secretary" is my favorite movie of all time. I love, love, love the song too. I may even put Leonard Cohen's "I'm Your Man" to throw people off too.
(hear it)
femmeknitzi said
My husband surprised me with our first dance song. It was How Deep is the Ocean by Billie Holiday. (hear it)
Mely said
I don't care how old-meme it is; we are totally Rickrolling everyone for our first dance. If you take the time to listen to it, it's actually a sweet song about love and commitment
Never gonna give you up, never gonna let you down…
Betsy said
I wish I could find a photo someone sent me once – it was a Rickroll cake, just said…I think… "Never gonna give you up or dessert you." Coordinating wedding cake? :-p
'stina said
Last summer, my boyfriend volunteered to dj for some friends' wedding. She very desperately wanted to have The Cure's "Just Like Heaven" be their first dance, and my boyfriend balked because it's not very first-dance-able.
He searched high and low, and he found a mashup of The Commodores' "Easy Like Sunday Morning" with the Cure's "Just Like Heaven". It was AWESOME. (hear it)
Addie said
D'oh! Did I just shart myself?? Awesome!
Ariel said
This may be my favorite comment ever left on Offbeat Bride. I just honest to god LOLed.
Jenn said
http://www.stupidfresh.com//br…mashup.mp3
Ms. P said
Seriously, you just saved my life! My wedding is 20 days away and I still couldn't find our first dance song. I am using the mashup between easy like sunday morning and the cure- just like heaven. I cried when I heard this, it's perfect. Thank you thank you thank you! Xox
catcall said
probably Cure´s Lovecats, that´s the one the DJ played during our engagement, on the club where we first maked out!
Alicia said
Love this list! Really liking the She & Him suggestions. Might I also offer The Blow's "Parentheses" to the indie category? (hear it)
Kelli Hennessey said
We are using this somewhere in our wedding! Also, "Come On Petunia." I love The Blow. (hear it)