First dance songs that haven't been done to death
Not that I have anything against Etta Jame's "At Last" or Michael Buble's "Everything," — they're both perfect first dance songs — but I've heard them both WAY to many times at weddings. So, combining my database of musician friends (some of whom made the list), Shrie's music writing experience and Ariel's… whatever the hell Ariel listens to (which, I believe, includes everything from deep neo-soul to esoteric Euro dance pop), the OBB team has compiled a list of totally not overused first dance songs, from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely controversial!
Oldies but Goodies — along the same lines of "At Last"
- The Beach Boys "God Only Knows" (hear it)
- Shuggie Otis' "Strawberry Letter 23" (hear it)
- Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get it On" (hear it)
- Otis Redding's "That's How Strong My Love Is" (hear it)
- Van Morrison's "Sweet Thing" (hear it)
- The Zombies' "This Will Be Our Year" (hear it)
- The Kinks "Waterloo Sunset" (hear it)
- Toussaint McCall's "Nothing Takes The Place Of You" (hear it)
- Al Green's "Love and Happiness" (hear it)
Sexy Romantic
- (Ariel's) Me'Shell Ndegéocello's "Love Song #1" (hear it)
- Ben Folds' "The Luckiest" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes" (hear it)
- Massive Attack's "One Love" (hear it)
- Mazzy Star's "Fade Into You" (hear it)
- Portishead's "All Mine" (hear it)
- Lou Reed's "Perfect Day" (hear it)
Wonky 'n Fun
- Adam Sandler's "I Wanna Grow Old With You" (hear it)
- The "Family Matters" theme song "As Days Go By" (hear it)
- Doris Day's "A Bushel And A Peck" (hear it)
- The Velvet Underground's "I'm Sticking with You" (hear it)
- The Band's "Cripple Creek" (hear it)
- Toto's "Africa" (hear it)
- Sam Hart's "Mario Kart Love Song" (hear it)
- Rick Roll those bitches!
Indie
- (Megan's) Pavement's "We Dance" (hear it)
- Jon Brion's "Here We Go" (hear it)
- Neko Case's "This Tornado Loves You" (hear it)
- Sufan Stevens' "The Dress Looks Nice On You" (hear it)
- Wilco "I'm the Man Who Loves You" (hear it)
- The Cure's "Friday I'm in Love" (hear it)
- Bright Eyes' "First Day of my Life" (hear it)
- Nick Drake's "Northern Sky" (hear it)
- The Pixie's "La La Love You" (hear it)
SUPER Indie
- Bird and the Bee "My Love" (hear it)
- Obi Best "Nothing Can Come Between Us" (you can get a free mp3 here)
- The Moldy Peaches' "Anyone Else but You" (hear it)
- The Mountain Goats' "No Children" (hear it) — yes, some people find this song controversial!
- Neutral Milk Hotel's "I Love How You Love Me" (hear it)
- She & Him's "I Was Made For You" (hear it)
- Captain Beefheart's "I'm Glad" (hear it)
Jazzin' — along the same lines of Michael Buble
- Sara Gazarek's "Makes Me Feel This Way" (hear it) or her version of "You Are My Sunshine" (hear it)
- Harry Connick Jr.'s "Come By Me" (hear it)
- Kurt Elling's "I Feel So Smoochie" (hear it)
- Jamie Cullum's "I Think, I Love" (hear it)
- Renee Olstead's " A Love That Will Last" (hear it)
Upbeat Swingin'
- (Shrie's) Chuck Barry's "You Never Can Tell" (hear it)
- Barry Louis Polisar's "All I Want Is You" (hear it)
- Sly & the Family Stone's "You Can Make It If You Try" (hear it)
- Huey "Piano" Smith's "Little Liza Jane" (hear it)
Laidback Easy-Peasy
- Mayer Hawthorne's "Make Her Mine" (hear it)
- Cat Power's version of "Sea of Love" (hear it)
- Peter Gabriel's "Book of Love" (hear it)
- Air's "Playground Love" (hear it)
- The Fruit Bat's "When U Love Somebody" (hear it)
Dark and Romantic
- Judas Priest's "Angel" (hear it)
- Rammstein's "Ohne Dich" (hear it with English translation)
- Type O Negative's "Love You to Death" (hear it)
- Stone Temple Pilots' "Still Remains" (hear it)
- Incubus' "Monuments and Melodies" (hear it)
- Killswitch Engage's "My Curse" (hear it)
- HIM's "Join Me In Death" (hear it)
As in our last post for "Non-sappy father/daughter dance songs" if you've got any suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments.
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kim said
also try: The Cliks' "Nobody Else Will" (hear it)
Nixie said
We're planning on The Hazards of Love 4 (The Drowned) by The Decemberists! (hear it)
Jesika Wolff said
This was one of the songs we had the guitarist play when we walked away after the ceremony. It's such a beautiful melody. The Crane Wife has some great acoustic bits in it too.
emily krusky said
Try "Swept Away" by Full Turnout. says it all.
Ellen said
We didn't dance at our wedding, but if we would have, we would have danced to "Dance With Me Now, Darling" by Hem. (hear it)
Claire said
also My Morning Jacket's "Thank You Too" (hear it)
amerwitch said
i like the idea of Everclear's "I Will Buy You a New Life." (hear it)
Kate said
No Magnetic Fields?! Sacrilege! Either "It's Only Time" (hear it) or "The Book of Love." (hear it)
imaginarydanda said
I 100% cosign. Our procession started with "The Book of Love" and then I walked in to Nick Cave's "Into My Arms." (hear it)
Both songs still give me goosebumps.
Monika S said
We had our friend preform Into My Arms during our ceremony, but our first song was a deeper tribute: Leonard Cohen's "Dance Me to the End of Love" (hear it)
Dani said
That Peter Gabriel song, Book of Love is a cover of the Magnetic Fields song, btw. So…yeah.
kate weaver said
We used The Pogues "A Rainy Night In Soho." It begins: "i've been loving you a long time, down all the years, down all the days…" (hear it)
perfect. i reccomend it.
Katie said
The second I heard Blood Bank by Bon Iver I knew were I to get married, that song had to be it. It's slow, but not too slow and absolutely beautiful. (hear it)
jamie said
We are gonna use "walking on the moon"The Police. so fun:) (hear it)
Jamie said
My hubby and I danced to Toto's Africa at our wedding, so seeing it on this list made me smile like crazy.
SamB - OBT Getting Weddinged Group Mod said
"It's gonna take a lot to drag me away from you. It's nothing that a hundred men or more could ever do."
We're not gonna dance, but I am singing this song to Groom for sure."
Susie said
my fiance and I LOVE Toto's Africa!! We are having it as our Recessional, and I imagine it will be requested many times at the reception…..we've gotten out friends hooked, too!
Elisabeth said
See also : Dean Martin's "Ain't That A Kick In The Head" for upbeat jazzy awesomeness. (hear it)
EstherB said
We're doing "I'll Cover You," from Rent (hear it) — we're both big fans of the musical, and it's such a sweet, upbeat love song. If my fiancee liked the Magnetic Fields a little better (read: at all), we'd be doing "It's Only Time," which is a slow, incredibly sweet song about life-long commitment (by a gay artist, which makes it even more poignant when he sings "marry me"). (hear it)
seymoursgal said
We thought of "I'll Cover You" also! We are going with "First Day of My Life" (hear it) because of sentimental value, but we're going to use "I'll Cover You" as our last song. Lurv!
ellie said
i've wanted i'll cover you to be part of my wedding ever since i was a sophomore in highschool
Courtney said
Yaaaay! We're using Chuck Barry's "Never Can Tell" in June! We have a whole little swing routine and moves in honor of Pulp Fiction (our favorite movie).
Carli said
*Gasp* I love that! Awesome choice. Was planning on learning a swing routine too
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Now I'm thinking "Girl, you'll be a woman soon" also from Pulp Fiction would be a good choice though. (hear it)
Alyssa said
I think you should probably take "No Children" off the list, considering it's about a marriage ending and ending badly. Not sure even an unconventional wedding needs a song with the lyrics, "I hope you die, I hope we both die."
Megan said
Alyssa: Au contraire! We've actually had a several OBBs dance to No Children at their wedding, and were very happy with their choice. Which is why I included it!
marissa said
Ingrid Michaelson's cover of "Can't Help Falling in Love" So beautiful! (hear it)
Una said
For the past 18 years, it's been UB40's version of (Can't Help) Falling in Love With You. (hear it) I am always astonished when I don't see that song on "Offbeat first Dance Songs" ESPECIALLY for "Whirlwind" romances (like mine!
Heather said
I'm glad you both mentioned this song! I'm a HUGE Elvis fan, so I love the classic version, but UB40's is fun and upbeat too! I always thought I would want this song to be played at my wedding.
Angelica said
OR "You and I," (hear it) or "The Way I Am." (hear it) both amazing
Kristen said
I am totally considering doing a recording of this for my first dance song!
Jennifer said
I've always liked
Neat Little Domestic Life – Of Montreal (hear it)
Do You Realize? – Flaming Lips (hear it)
Hotel Yorba – White Stripes (hear it)
Mz Fitz said
Kate, Peter Gabriel wrote "The Book of Love," covered by both The Magnetic Fields and Now It's Overhead.
We're thinking Dean and Britta's "You Turn My Head Around" (hear it) or The Band of Blacky Ranchette's "Getting It Made." (hear it)
Sarah M. said
Mz Fitz: Credit where credit's due! The Peter Gabriel version of "The Book of Love" is actually a cover of Stephin Merritt's original.
Dani said
But he put it on his "Covers" album… so, that made me believe it was a cover, no?
Ella said
Crazy Love by Van Morrison!!! (hear it")
MissWorst said
My fiance and I are dancing to Crazy Love. Love it!
Meggie said
"Hallelujah" cover by Jeff Buckley (hear it)
No idea what its even about but it's what i'd use if i could do again….
SugarCane88 said
I don't know who performed in, but my cousin had that song for her first dance song, too, and it ha a lot of meaning to them and such. They loved it!
I know at least one verse's inspiration came from the Biblical Samson and Delilah.
Jettie said
"You Picked Me" by A Fine Frenzy. VERY sweet and touching, but not overdone at all! This is our song for sure! <3 (hear it)
(Thanks for all the other ideas. I'm iPod-DJing my wedding and I'll have to add these!)
Offbalance said
I love, love, love the Mountain Goats, and I'm all for being quirky, but "No Children"?? That song is the most vicious breakup anthem of all time. "Woke Up New" might be better.
Kelli Hennessey said
I think that "Woke Up New" is a super sad breakup song! I like "No Children," I feel like even thought the couple is destructive, they will always go down together, even if it is in flames.
Uggh said
My brother and his wife used "Girlfriend" ("Summertime Rolls") by Janes Addiction. It didn't go over well with the 'rents, but everyone else loved it. (hear it)
SamB said
My mom hates the original of this song, but loves the cover version by Puracane, slower and more traditionally "pretty," but just as sweet, subversive, and sexy.
Kristin said
My fiancee is a huge Goo Goo Dolls fan and he has the sheet music from Iris tatooed on his back. So he's going to record a version of Iris for us to dance together to.
Megan said
Okay! We're getting ladies who are pretty heated up about the "'No Children' controversy of 2010" but I'd like to point out that a few former OBBs have used that song much to their delight, including this wedding. So let's keep the comments respectful. And let's hear more ideas!
Tina said
Ray LaMontagne – Forever My Friend (hear it)
lala said
Can I hear the cover? I want this to be my wedding song but my fiance isn't a fan of the neutral milk hotel version.
Stephanie said
When we started our wedding planning, the first song was the first thing that was taken care of. My husband said "I'm on it." Who knew it was that improtant to him? I should have know since he is in a band…
We used "I love how you love me" but rather than the original or one of the many covers, he went a step further and got a whole new cover. My husband is friends with Jonah Matranga from Far who will record any song you want on a sliding scale. He did an AMAZING job and we gave a CD of his song and the original music the best man composed for the ceremony as favors.
Jonah said
This is so sweet! Thank you! Glad you loved it as much as I loved making it.
Jonah
Bonnie said
I love Jonah! He's the best! We'll definitely have "Oh I'm so lucky" and "smile" aaaand "I want you to be my witness"!
Kip said
We are planning on "Lovely Day" by Bill Withers. So funky and jazzy and sweet, I can't wait for our first dance! (hear it)