Someone said we looked relaxed at the wedding. We were, most of the time, and even when we weren’t we were still having a great time. But that's not because everything went right! Off-hand, I can think of several things that didn't go as planned.. and it was still okay. In some cases I reminded myself that it wasn't actually important (only one type of candle made it onto the reception tables), in other cases I/Ron asked someone else to deal with it and trusted that it would happen (the wine still wasn't there 20 minutes before the ceremony–my brother told me later that the wine store had forgotten about us), and in some cases there wasn't anything we could do so we didn't worry about it (my parents-in-law very discretely hated their food at the rehearsal dinner, which was sad because they were the only ones who didn't love it and they were the ones paying).

By the way? The offbeatbride website community was really good preparation for being able to deal with that kind of stuff. This was a place where I could care about the details of putting on a wedding without being made to feel horribly shallow, and at the same time it was a place where I never forgot that what really mattered for our wedding was our relationship and our friends, not which music we had for our recessional (which I just plain forgot to put on the iPod.. oops!).