Comments on: Fran & Siobhán's feminist, disability-friendly, colourful, vegan wedding

By: M

Sat, 05 Feb 2011 06:33:25 +0000

Hi! Congrats! What an amazing ceremony you put together!

I hope this is not too off the topic or rude, but I'd love to know more about how you manage your relationship with your disabilities? I'm disabled (and queer) too and I'd so like to be able to have a partner at some point, but I have a hard time imaging how I would be able to handle a relationship with my constant pain management routine/measures and having to be so deliberate with how I use my very scarce energy…which of course fluctuates so is a moving target and absolutely crazy-making! Right now all my energy goes toward self-care and salvaging what's left of my career given my limits after becoming debilitated. How do you do it? How do you take care of yourselves and still support one another? Are you able to be available to one another even when you're experiencing a lot of symptoms? Do you worry about your future? Was is hard to make the decision to put your energy (which I'm assuming–and my apologies if this is baseless–is limited) into planning your wedding instead of other priorities? (I'm so happy you did, you're such an inspiration!)

If you have any feedback it would be huge to hear (I have many people in my life who try to give me encouraging words without having the experience/understanding the reality of being disabled themselves…though of course disability varies so much…) email me: shadyladyms@gmail.com

By: Aja

Aja — Sat, 15 Jan 2011 18:01:06 +0000

This looks and seems like such a great wedding! What's most important is the happiness and that definitely comes through. I really like the part about how people will let you down. It's very true, but taking the high road will make just better in the end. And experience has shown me that there is a story behind the let down instance, one that we don't often get to discover. Either way, Congrats to you both!

By: Rosalind

Rosalind — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 09:20:48 +0000

I have to say, you two make one of the most gorgeous couples I've yet to see!
You both look incredibly happy- I truly hope it stays that way for you! Best wishes to you both. â™¥
(Awesome cake, by the way. It looks delicious~)

By: Koozies pricing

Koozies pricing — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:19:49 +0000

Your dresses are so beautiful !

By: dickos chick

dickos chick — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 11:34:04 +0000

We almost booked it but we're not having many people for most of the day so couldnt really fill it and do the beautiful art deco sunken lounge justice-truly stunning though. I'm a Notts gal and my h2b is a derby boy so we compromised on a halfway venue in long eaton : ) It hasnt got rooms for people to stay though unfortunately but we've found some cheap local hotels for the few further away guests. We love Derby!x

By: Little Fox (Sarah)

Little Fox (Sarah) — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:11:17 +0000

You two are inspiring! I too have some chronic health issues and am looking for ways to make my wedding not as exhausting as possible. I also am going to be taking the moral high ground with many people, kind of a bummer but, I know it's the right thing to do. Also, the other person(s) will see how much they aren't affecting my life and wedding and (hopefully) realize that what they did was wrong. Even if they don't, I know that we did the right thing. Your wedding video was amazing!! The video coupled with the Ani Difranco song was so beautiful!!!

By: Samara

Samara — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:16:54 +0000

I love your dresses, you both looked fantastic.

By: Fran

Fran — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 01:44:26 +0000

It's a lovely venue, we were thrilled to bits that we were able to have it there! When we were looking at the website we just assumed it would be really expensive, not an average conference centre price! The bedrooms are tiny, it was quite hilarious the two of us getting ready in one with friends milling around, but it worked in our favour as it kept the prices down so people could afford to stay, yay!

We are from Derby, we looked a little further afield but really wanted to have it here. We love this not-very-exciting city, it's home!

By: Anony Mouse

Anony Mouse — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:42:38 +0000

That is the sweetest picture of the two of you dancing. And I am seriously impressed with that beautiful cake!

By: Vicky

Vicky — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:11:25 +0000

Yay Derby! I went to conference there and thought it was a lovely venue and the food was super, but slightly too big for our teeny tiny wedding, we would have had to drag people in off the street.
Beautiful ladies with beautiful hearts!