Comments on: Let's talk about labels and self-identifying

By: TJChristie

TJChristie — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 21:14:57 +0000

Hubby and I are married legally (since November 2000; we are in our mid-50s), and we have a spouse, a female I originally met over 35 years ago, loved and lost, then sought out and found again (praise Goddess). She had gone through many changes in the years, and we brought her to live with us. Thankfully, the two of them fell in love, too, and we are a polyfidelitous triad. We three are in it for the long haul, and I'd love to hear your thoughts and provide input if you so desire. (He and I put all our money and property into a legal trust with an attorney, to care for her in the event of our demise, as she is disabled. My adopted daughter and twin grandsons, also disabled, are included in that trust as well.) Although we have made private vows and exchanged rings, we would love to have a celebratory ceremony with some special guests. Namaste.

By: Poly Bride

Poly Bride — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 02:55:18 +0000

It won't be until 2013 at the earliest, there's lots of monetary and legal stuff to work out first (combining three people into one legal entity is going to take a lot of work!), but the more I search online for examples of other weddings or commitment ceremonies held by triads and Vs the more I think we'll HAVE to write about our experience somewhere. There's just nothing to be found! A handful of couples marrying with reference to their other partners or to their polyamory in general, which is wonderful, but not many of those and no three-person-marriages that I've been able to find (the other bride and I are not lovers, but we are close, and it's important to us that our family unit be honoured in whatever ceremony we end up with *as well as* our individual relationships with the groom)

By: Mareeeee

Mareeeee — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 20:12:19 +0000

Please please please submit your wedding. I am poly, newly married, and considering a commitment ceremony with my other partner.

By: Poly Bride

Poly Bride — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:55:11 +0000

I found this post because I was looking for poly weddings here! As part of a poly family considering holding a wedding in the future, I'd love to be able to see how others in a similar position did it, and I thought Off Beat Bride would be the place to go. Maybe I'll submit our wedding once it's happened

By: mareee

mareee — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 20:47:06 +0000

and everyone knows that the internet is SERIOUS BUSINESS!

By: Stephanie S

Stephanie S — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 13:02:59 +0000

Educationally, professionally, and personally, I am all about gender and sexuality studies. I can talk for days about identities and such.
But I, for one, am pleased to be able to click on a link and find a whole list of weddings that, in some way, usually mirror my own little family of two women, a dog, and a cat. While many offbeat bride couples, whatever their gender composition, do inspire my own future wedding plans, I admit there's a special place in my heart for seeing two xx chromosomes unite! (i'm holding back the chromosomally-intersex discussion!)

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 23:37:27 +0000

I think that this is awesome! During this wedding planning, I've often gotten frustrated by simply calling our ceremony a "wedding" to me that has certain connotations that I do not associate with OUR wedding (ie. religion, exclusion of same-sex partners.) While at the same time, I feel just as awkward calling it a commitment ceremony. I wish that EVERYONE was able to freely label in life like we are on OBB.
I look forward to labeling my "Quiet, sexy, park partnership commitment ceremony wedding" =)

By: Ariel

Ariel — Mon, 31 May 2010 05:39:23 +0000

BRILLIANT SUGGESTION, and now in full effect.

By: Ariel

Ariel — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 06:39:43 +0000

Yeah, that's a Ning thing. Not an Offbeat thing. We're a victim of the platform in that regard.

By: taylor

taylor — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 06:13:20 +0000

Thank you for this post. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness and sensitivity, as well as the fact that you're not afraid to discuss topics such as these (which are often controversial) on this site. I think it's great that you're open to suggestions and willing to explain where you're coming from. As a queer person, this site has been a really great resource for me and a welcome break from the hyper heternormativity that often accompanies the wedding industry! Thanks again!