The offbeat bride: Marylyle, Librarian (and OBT member)
Her offbeat partner: Jordan, Computer Programmer
Location & date of wedding: The garden outside UVA Alumni Hall in Charlottesville, VA. — 08/16/2009
What made our wedding offbeat: Jordan is a Sephardic Jew and I am Unitarian. It meant a lot that both of us and our traditions be represented equally. We worked together really hard to craft an interfaith wedding ceremony that was meaningful to both of us.
It was important to him that we include Jewish traditions such as the chuppah and circling each other. I chose Celtic traditions to connect with own my heritage such as handfasting and jumping the broom. We wrote our own ketubah and our own translation of the seven blessings. We also drank wine from both a Jewish Kiddush cup & from a Scottish quaich, or loving cup, during the ceremony. Jordan's mother, a rabbinic student, and an interfaith minister, performed the ceremony.
At the reception, we entered to the band playing the Throne Room and Finale from Star Wars. We danced the rhumba, I bellydanced and then everyone did the Hora.
We made our own invites including envelopes from old maps (we love to travel) and used Lemonheads as dual placecards/favors (we love candy). I also made the guestbook, cardbox and jewelry for the attendants. We had so much fun in creating it, and even more sharing it all with our loved ones. It was a labor of love in every way.
Our biggest challenge: Trying to be realistic about what we could do ourselves.
There were many more DIY elements we would have loved to incorporate, but there was not enough time or patience between us to do them all by the time of the ceremony. We handled it by picking the most important to us and letting the rest go.
My favorite moment: That feeling immediately afterward that YES we did it! It was such a rush.
My offbeat advice: Be realistic about what you can do by yourselves (see above). That might mean scaling back or having the courage to trust other people to help you. You can't control every detail and you may not be able to prevent some snafus.
I was also lucky that my cousin stood in as a day of coordinator so that we (and our parents) didn't have to worry about technical details/difficulties.
Oh, and get a massage! I was so relaxed that I didn't care about the minor problems that did happen.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?:
- Interfaith Minister, Claire Goodman
- Billy Hunt Photography
- Catering by C & O Restaurant
- Live music by Accordion Death Squad
- Cupcakes by Cappellino's Crazy Cakes
- Ketubah by Jewish Papercuts
- Henna by Colleen
- Groomsperson's ties/scarf by Toybreaker
- Hairflowers by Andy's Eye Candy
- and by ChicAllure
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn: