Comments on: Fear mongering & you'll seeeee

By: Stacey

Stacey — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 13:51:58 +0000

Sarah, it never stops. I'm 33, been married for over 6 years, we've been very honest and open about the fact that we won't be breeding and we STILL get people saying we'll 'change our minds'. Um, no I won't be changing my mind, and no matter how many 'they're amazing, your life gets soooo much better with them' speeches I get it's not going to change that I am not interested in procreating. Like college, kids aren't for everyone! Keep standing up for yourself, don't be afraid to keep saying you don't think it's in the tea leaves and eventually people will leave you alone.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 18 May 2011 05:32:06 +0000

Same here girls, I'm only 19 now but I've never wanted kids, and I wouldn't bet on my mind changing. When people ask me if I want kids (in the future) I can still get away with saying "nah, but I can still change my mind" I dread the time when I am "of age" to have kids and people ask the same question. I know they won't be satisfied when I tell them no.

By: Sarah Lee

Sarah Lee — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 20:24:19 +0000

This is one of my bookmarked all-time favorite posts… I even printed it out to remind me I'm not alone amongst the unsolicited "advice" and kept it at my desk at work!

I also find I get left out of discussions amongst my (divorced, widowed, or just plain disillusioned) coworkers of relationships and the like, and I think it's BECAUSE I don't have a hateful relationship with my future husband. Such a shame that a feeling like (my theory anyway) jealousy can make others give someone the cold shoulder. I guess it just goes to show who are friends really are! (or, aren't!)

By: Kristin Lacy

Kristin Lacy — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 22:18:34 +0000

i totally needed this today, i feel a lot better, thanks Ariel

By: C.Marie

C.Marie — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 04:06:11 +0000

I have found this post so helpful in reducing my wedding planning stress. I feel like at least once a month in our year and a half long engagement I've had someone telling me "You'll seeee…" about life after marriage. I have this post saved under my favorites & refer to it when I feel overwhelmed by it all. Thank you for this post.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 19:35:25 +0000

"So that outfit's ugly. So that's stupid. So that's not quite your taste or your values or your nature. Who cares? Time spent bitching could be time making yourself smarter and stronger and more awesome."

– Best Quote Ever.

By: K

Mon, 31 May 2010 15:56:25 +0000

People really tend to do this with so many major life situations. I (unfortunately, but necessarily) don't have a relationship with my parents and it really gets me when people hear that and knowingly nod their head and tell me how we'll all come around or how all families experience periods like that. It's just so not appropriate for acquaintances to make comments like this about any serious experience in someone's life.

I think it happens because relationships are formed on common ground… but some people just don't THINK before speaking.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 16:14:59 +0000

I don't know if there are enough languages on the face of this planet (and any others out there) that could let me say "THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" for this article. Well put. Being a Bridezilla (which is a term I have come to f-ing hate like chaffed thighs in lemon-rind pants) is NOT required, for one thing. Also…well..erm…you've covered it all. Bravo, m'dear. I am thoroughly enjoying your site. In planning my wedding at some point for the next couple years, I have come to realize you are my Number One Resource. The End. Thanks again for all you do, Ariel.

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 18:35:32 +0000

exactly what i needed to hear 3 days before my wedding…thank you!!!

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:07:42 +0000

Yes!! This has already happened with my future inlaws…one of them assumes the other will make my day miserable…and when I assure them that NO ONE will ruin my wedding day, they can't believe it…wouldn't I just naturally freak out if the shade of blue in the flowers doesn't match the shade of blue of the vases? No!