Comments on: How to make things easy for your bridesmaids — no penis cake necessary http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Sat, 26 May 2012 03:26:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: willowfinn http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-89409 willowfinn Wed, 09 Feb 2011 02:32:55 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-89409 The second time I was a maid of honor (I've done it five times now!!), the bride wanted all the trimmings - bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. - but pointedly DID NOT want to fulfill any of the penis cake-type traditions. So, for the bridal shower, her sister-in-law and I hosted a beautiful tea party (party activities included making "lace doilies" out of tissue paper and reading our fortunes in the tea leaves). The bachelorette party (which took place at the home of one of the other bridesmaids two weeks before the wedding) involved the bride, myself, and the other three bridesmaids getting matching tattoos and then drinking ourselves into a stupor. I'd discussed this with the bride and the other maids, of course, before booking a tattoo artist. But the idea seemed like a good one, given as how all five of us are already tattooed - and getting matching tattoos (the design was something the bride chose - a stylized claddagh, to rep her Irish heritage) seemed like a really awesome way to bond and commemorate this once-in-a-lifetime event. We all got together the night before the wedding as well, for a nice quiet evening of drinks and relaxation before the big day. Of all the weddings I've bridesmaided for, that one still stands out as the best and most unique. :) The second time I was a maid of honor (I've done it five times now!!), the bride wanted all the trimmings – bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. – but pointedly DID NOT want to fulfill any of the penis cake-type traditions. So, for the bridal shower, her sister-in-law and I hosted a beautiful tea party (party activities included making "lace doilies" out of tissue paper and reading our fortunes in the tea leaves). The bachelorette party (which took place at the home of one of the other bridesmaids two weeks before the wedding) involved the bride, myself, and the other three bridesmaids getting matching tattoos and then drinking ourselves into a stupor. I'd discussed this with the bride and the other maids, of course, before booking a tattoo artist. But the idea seemed like a good one, given as how all five of us are already tattooed – and getting matching tattoos (the design was something the bride chose – a stylized claddagh, to rep her Irish heritage) seemed like a really awesome way to bond and commemorate this once-in-a-lifetime event. We all got together the night before the wedding as well, for a nice quiet evening of drinks and relaxation before the big day. Of all the weddings I've bridesmaided for, that one still stands out as the best and most unique. :)
]]> By: Angela Cappetta http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-70385 Angela Cappetta Fri, 02 Jul 2010 19:58:56 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-70385 No penis cake is necessary. Go for a wonderful picnic with your girls or have a delicious lunch together. Mellow is good. No penis cake is necessary. Go for a wonderful picnic with your girls or have a delicious lunch together. Mellow is good.
]]> By: Sarah http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-70172 Sarah Tue, 29 Jun 2010 21:14:33 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-70172 Agree with all the people who say it doesn't have to involve penis cake, etc... Lots of mellow and/or alternative things to do... Dinner with friends is always nice. Agree with all the people who say it doesn't have to involve penis cake, etc… Lots of mellow and/or alternative things to do… Dinner with friends is always nice.
]]> By: Bronwen Taylor http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-70136 Bronwen Taylor Tue, 29 Jun 2010 13:19:31 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-70136 I stumbled upon this site and have been reading on the down low for about a month now -- finally wanted to speak up! A couple of years ago, a friend had a small wedding, and I was living in a different city; even though I wasn't a bridesmaid, she did ask me to plan her bach'ette party, since I was more 'fun' than her actual bridesmaid (plus, not having social anxiety disorder helps when planning a gathering). It was the worst time of year, as I was preparing to move and start a new job AND go on vacation. Plus, we're all in our 30s and are long past that party-all-night-get-drunk-and-puke phase. The solution? I found a winery midway between our two cities. It was helpful to me since I didn't have the energy, time or money to travel all the way back to her city (where I'd secured my new job!), and it was a fun, new experience for everyone who attended. We had about six or eight ladies meet for a Saturday afternoon wine tasting, tour and lunch. It was fab! I stumbled upon this site and have been reading on the down low for about a month now — finally wanted to speak up! A couple of years ago, a friend had a small wedding, and I was living in a different city; even though I wasn't a bridesmaid, she did ask me to plan her bach'ette party, since I was more 'fun' than her actual bridesmaid (plus, not having social anxiety disorder helps when planning a gathering). It was the worst time of year, as I was preparing to move and start a new job AND go on vacation. Plus, we're all in our 30s and are long past that party-all-night-get-drunk-and-puke phase.

The solution? I found a winery midway between our two cities. It was helpful to me since I didn't have the energy, time or money to travel all the way back to her city (where I'd secured my new job!), and it was a fun, new experience for everyone who attended. We had about six or eight ladies meet for a Saturday afternoon wine tasting, tour and lunch.

It was fab!

]]> By: Shanavyre http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-66654 Shanavyre Fri, 30 Apr 2010 07:35:37 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-66654 I didn`t want a bridal shower due to hassel, and it felt like I just asking presents. But my MOH said it wasn`t fair to ask her to be MOH and not let her organise something, so I caved and we went out to High Tea with female family members and a few friends. It was a lovley day, I insisted on no presents, so I felt better, and as my Auntie and Grandma were not coming to the hen's made them feel included! I didn`t want a bridal shower due to hassel, and it felt like I just asking presents. But my MOH said it wasn`t fair to ask her to be MOH and not let her organise something, so I caved and we went out to High Tea with female family members and a few friends. It was a lovley day, I insisted on no presents, so I felt better, and as my Auntie and Grandma were not coming to the hen's made them feel included!
]]> By: elizatara http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-60781 elizatara Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:28:00 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-60781 I never thought I'd be getting married..EVER so I never thought of what kind of shower or batchlorette party I wanted. I'm fairly low key so the shower I described ( and got) was just family getting together. We ate sandwiches, drank punch and had some cake. My bachelorette party will be my sisters, my cousin, our significant others hanging out, playing XBOX and partaking in silly drinking games. It's PERFECT!! I never thought I'd be getting married..EVER so I never thought of what kind of shower or batchlorette party I wanted. I'm fairly low key so the shower I described ( and got) was just family getting together. We ate sandwiches, drank punch and had some cake. My bachelorette party will be my sisters, my cousin, our significant others hanging out, playing XBOX and partaking in silly drinking games. It's PERFECT!!
]]> By: Wedding koozies http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-57073 Wedding koozies Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:23:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-57073 So great post ! So great post !

]]> By: Veronica Matthews http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-56304 Veronica Matthews Mon, 28 Dec 2009 10:07:34 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-56304 Plan B's of Bachelorette parties are most welcome and I wouldnt mind having another option. Plan B's of Bachelorette parties are most welcome and I wouldnt mind having another option.
]]> By: Kell http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-56182 Kell Wed, 23 Dec 2009 10:03:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-56182 Whoops. Excuse my typos please! Whoops. Excuse my typos please!
]]> By: Kell (Boo) http://offbeatbride.com/2009/12/bridesmaids/comment-page-1#comment-56181 Kell (Boo) Wed, 23 Dec 2009 10:01:53 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=3930#comment-56181 I hate the traditional Hens nights with a stripper and too much booze. I went out to a nice pub with my sister, my best mate & my brother's girlfriend. 3 girls that had been around for years and would continue to do so! We had a nice meal, had some drinks (in moderation), played pool and went home when my man picked us up. It was nice, dignified (although i did have to wear the sash and have the straws) and while the photos are silly i don't have to stress about them being marriage destraying haha. I bought all of them cute little Kimmi doll keyrings too, specially matched to their looks and personalities. I hate the traditional Hens nights with a stripper and too much booze. I went out to a nice pub with my sister, my best mate & my brother's girlfriend. 3 girls that had been around for years and would continue to do so! We had a nice meal, had some drinks (in moderation), played pool and went home when my man picked us up. It was nice, dignified (although i did have to wear the sash and have the straws) and while the photos are silly i don't have to stress about them being marriage destraying haha.
I bought all of them cute little Kimmi doll keyrings too, specially matched to their looks and personalities.
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