Kristen & Derek's Friday the 13th courthouse wedding

November 13 |

We celebrating Friday the 13th with a wedding that is both a Friday the 13th wedding AND our first Kansas wedding!

271The Offbeat Bride: Kristen, Greenhouse Peon

Her Offbeat Partner: Derek, Greenhouse Peon also

Location & date of wedding: Courthouse / Park Building Reception, Kansas — Friday the 13th, February 2009

What made our wedding offbeat: We got married on a Friday the 13th to commemorate our first date, which was also on Friday the 13th. Luckily our families know we're a little off, so the black Chinese cheongsam dress and matching jacket (Ebay) and the skeleton cake topper didn't even cause them to bat an eyelash.

268It was the little things that I hadn't seen at other weddings that we did to save money, that I loved. Like taking two different sized ice cream cakes from Dairy Queen to make a two tier wedding cake. The black roses on top of the cake are ones that have decorated my house for years.

It was an incredibly simple, black and white decorated reception. I guess what you would expect for small town/low budget. It was under fourty people and, although we catered the meat, the rest of food was all dishes brought by family. Although a "buttload" isn't a precise measurement, I'm pretty sure that's how much food ended up there (calling it a "feast extravaganza" in the invites was his idea). My black veil was from Halloween clearance a few months before. The plants, I bought from work on my discount with a gift card and they made great wedding favors.

237Down in my heart I knew this was just one day of my life and I felt it was a terrible thing to throw so much money at it (even though Derek's mother paid for everything, thanks mom!) when I was so happy with how it went down just by using my imagination.

I didn't spend money on a photographer because we had six disposable cameras to share, which thanks to all the kids, we'll have many pictures of legs and the floor. Everyone was pretty stoked that it was a wedding they could wear their jeans or a black dress to. It was everything I hoped for because it reeked of Derek and I, just being ourselves all laidback with that dark edge. The minute it was over we left for a nineteen hour drive to Vegas for our honeymoon, yeowza.

Our biggest challenge: The hardest part of the wedding was explaining to the siblings that we wanted to keep the ceremony intimate by having parents only. That was pretty difficult when his sisters are my best friends. They took it okay considering they knew that would be like adding twenty people to a small courtroom if you count the spouses and kids. I also wish it had been warm enough to light up some fire poi and dance. :D

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My favorite moment: My favorite moment was Derek slinging me over his shoulder and carrying me down the courthouse steps with everyone laughing and taking pictures. It gave new meaning to "carrying over the threshold." And cutting the ice cream cake with a butchers knife but the cake was frozen solid so we had to cut the regular extra cake instead.

My advice for other offbeat brides: For offbeat brides (and basically even more traditional ones too), you got to let the little snafoos go. Sometimes when an incident arises, you get your most memorable wedding moments. Like, forgetting a knife to cut the rolls with and my grandma chopping them open with my cake cutting butcher's knife. Sometimes it's a fight in your conscience to opt out of traditions, but I realized that if I didn't understand or care about unity candles then why include them?

I've never been one for weddings, not being too much of a girly-gir,l and being one of those shy types who doesn't like to make a big fuss about herself. It sure doesn't change anything in your relationship after you get married, so all I wanted was a great party for the family without all the other b.s. Just remember that it's about marrying your best friend (in my case the man my daughter sees as "Daddy") and living your life together. As my now hubby says, don't try to impress, just enjoy yourself.

Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!:

  1. I wanted to just thank OffbeatBride for featuring my story!!! I always liked to come to this site for inspiration in the final months of prep work and the official offbeat check-list was practically my wedding bible. Thanks so much.

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  2. I love, love, LOVE the Dairy Queen cake! I also had a courtroom wedding, so they hold a special place in my heart. We appeased everyone who didn't get to come to our tiny wedding by celebrating our fifth anniversary with an open house in our new condo a couple of years ago. It seemed to work.

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  3. Stacking two ice cream cakes is so genius! And there's nothing better than ice cream cake!

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  4. We also got married on a Friday the 13th this past March and I wouldn't have had it any other way. It brings us GOOD luck. :)

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  5. Thank you, thank you THANK YOU for presenting this courthouse wedding ceremony!!!! My fiance and I are getting married at the courthouse in four days, so it's just really cool to see a wedding that looks like what we're going to have!

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  6. I'm thinking more and more about doing a courthouse wedding. I witnessed my friend who got married by a judge in between hearings (not exactly romantic) but it got the job done.

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    • We were the judges last appointment for the day so basically he was in no rush and the courthouse was fairly quiet because it was the end of the day. So I guess if you're considering it, it wouldn't hurt to find out if you can get in later in the afternoon. :D

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  7. Oh my goodness, the picture of your Grandma with the butcher knife CRACKED ME UP! Congratulations and good on ya for getting married on a Friday!

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  8. That looks awesome, thanks for sharing this awesome story!!

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  9. it looked spectacular. in fact i'm also getting married this friday the 13th in the courthouse lol

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