The Offbeat Bride: Carla, farmer/produce marketer
Her Offbeat Partner: Zeb, farmer/produce marketer
Location & date of wedding: Byzantine Church, and church hall in DuBois, PA — May 30, 2009
What made our wedding offbeat: The wedding was a traditional Byzantine wedding which is somewhat offbeat even though its orthodox. Byzantine wedding in western PA; we warned people it would be just like the wedding in the move The Deerhunter.
My dress was gold and the bridesmaids wore white (a little backwards). And we bought simple sneakers for the bridal party to change into afterwards.
We saved a ton of money by doing everything ourselves. I had made paper flowers for the three flowergirls who wore handmade dresses by me, the bride. The groomsmen wore linen shirts and hemp pants with handmade rosemary boutineers made by me as well. We ordered beautiful handmade crowns from Etsy for our ceremony.
Homemade grape jelly favor. YUM!
The reception was catered completely by us (since we're organic farmers that had long been the plan). The favors were organic grape jelly that we had made the fall before. I asked my African drumming group to come and rock and they did! Everyone got up and danced. It was such a good time. My music-obsessed groom had the whole reception planned on his computer which we hooked up to an amp. Best reception music ever! Also we just asked specific friends to help with serving and bartending as their presents to us. It worked out perfectly.
I think thats about it, crammed into 229 words!
Our biggest challenge: It was the time constraint. We were determined to do everything ourselves but were also busy with moving and tying up loose ends with business/farming stuff so that we could relax on our honeymoon.
Thankfully our mothers both stepped in and helped us with creating the reception hall. We needed to have good conversation skills to make sure both our wants were met and that we weren't compromising too much. We made a list of things that were important for us to have and just worked around that. That made it easier to filter out time comsuming tasks that we didnt care about.
My favorite moment: Dancing with all my friends and family. During the drumming everything got heated up and everyone was on the floor. It was like being at a great concert with everyone i care about.
My advice for other offbeat brides: Don't be afraid to ask for help! It was my experience that my friends and family were enthusiastic about being involved. I only asked each person that helped to do one thing so that they were not overwhelmed. This helped me because I knew everything was covered and they were glad to have a task. Good communication with people went a long way that day!
Oh also if you know your specific colors check out after-Chrismas sales at craft stores. I got so much stuff to decorate with for a great price!
Enough talk — show me the Deerhunter wedding porn!:
Comments on "Carla & Zeb's handmade everything, drumming dance party wedding"
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Sam
November 11th, 2009 · 3:25 PM · #
Hey there fellow rural Pennsylvanian! State College kid here. You don't happen to sell your produce in my area, do you? 'Cause I'll totally buy it.
It looks like people really had fun with the drumming.
hinakuu
November 11th, 2009 · 5:18 PM · #
I have a dress question. I also want my bms in white and i was wondering how long it took you to make the dresses/what patterns and fabric you used.
Also, I think the gold looks great with your skintone ^^
Frizzle
November 11th, 2009 · 5:29 PM · #
what a pretty wedding! Love the stain glass windows in the background.
Also nice to see a wedding where the bride and groom have big giant smiles on their faces the whole time!
Carla
November 11th, 2009 · 6:09 PM · #
We sell mostly in the Pittsburgh area now. Sorry! There is a good CSA i would reccommend your way though – Village Acres. They are nice people.
Carla
November 11th, 2009 · 6:30 PM · #
The white bridesmaid dresses were bought at a store. I made the gold flowergirl dresses though. I got some satiny gold fabric and made a simple strapless A line dress with a deep V in the back so that they could pull it over their heads. Then i sewed a layer of sheer gold crinkle fabric over top to look very flowy. I added a thick ribbon over both layers that was long enough to tie the back together in a bow. Then straps. the end.
Does that make sense how i explained it? I think you could do that for bridesmaid dresses too – they would be babydoll like but that could be cute. If i added it up i'd say it took about 10 hours per dress, or something like that.
Kim
November 11th, 2009 · 7:11 PM · #
Beautiful!!! Love, love, love the dresses!!! The gold is stunning!
rebeccalynn75
November 11th, 2009 · 8:06 PM · #
LOVE that you all did everything yourselves! The dresses were gorgeous, and it looked like everyone was celebrating-not stressing-which is so the point. Thanks for the DIY inspiration/reassurance-I'm making peacock/fairy/flower girl dresses for 2 of my daughters for our wedding, and most of our decorations.
LeAnna
November 11th, 2009 · 8:13 PM · #
This wedding looks like so much fun! Amazing!
Allison
November 11th, 2009 · 10:25 PM · #
It was even more fun than it looked! I made the black beans and rice and cheese!
! And was the Emcee!!
Angie
November 12th, 2009 · 12:52 AM · #
I'm Byzantine Catholic (Are you guys Byzantine or Orthodox?) and it's really awesome to see a wedding here from my faith (which I assumed was too orthodox to be offbeat)! Congrats you gusy!
Bianca
November 12th, 2009 · 12:57 AM · #
Oh my gosh, Carla, I was your roomie at Pre-Cana! Everything looked wonderful. We're getting married on the 28th, but we're still waiting for a delegation to go through. Turns out my fiance isn't technically Byzantine! Since I'm Roman, the priest has to get permission to marry us!
Carla
November 11th, 2009 · 6:30 PM · #
The white bridesmaid dresses were bought at a store. I made the gold flowergirl dresses though. I got some satiny gold fabric and made a simple strapless A line dress with a deep V in the back so that they could pull it over their heads. Then i sewed a layer of sheer gold crinkle fabric over top to look very flowy. I added a thick ribbon over both layers that was long enough to tie the back together in a bow. Then straps. the end.
Does that make sense how i explained it? I think you could do that for bridesmaid dresses too – they would be babydoll like but that could be cute. If i added it up i'd say it took about 10 hours per dress, or something like that.
Joanna
November 12th, 2009 · 6:14 AM · #
You've inspired me to get a drum circle at my wedding. I love your pictures – it looks like it was a great reception!
lauraBdora
November 12th, 2009 · 2:30 PM · #
Please tell me you used that bingo board!!!
Gorgeous dress. Looks like a really fun wedding.
Carla
November 12th, 2009 · 4:15 PM · #
Those sound like super cute flower girl dresses, I want to see them!
Carla
November 12th, 2009 · 4:21 PM · #
We are Byzantine. I think its so uncommon now and concentrated in small pockets in the states that is is offbeat. Almost no one who attended had seen a Byzantine ceremony before (we converted to Byzantine, hence our family being unfamiliar). The ceremony is so beautiful and unusual, we really loved sharing it with everyone. Thank you Angie!
Carla
November 12th, 2009 · 4:26 PM · #
Wow Bianca! Its good to hear from you. Oh my, that would be frustrating! I'm sure everything will work out for you guys. Take care!
Jenny
November 13th, 2009 · 7:47 AM · #
One thing I've struggled with is trying to reconcile my desire to have a casual wedding with my desire to dress up more "formally" – and now that I've seen these pictures, I don't have to struggle anymore! You pulled off looking gorgeous in a formal-type gown without looking overdressed or out of place one little bit. Wow!
Also: Love the drum circle!
Carla
November 19th, 2009 · 12:08 AM · #
Hey Bianca! That would be kinda frustrating, geeze all the technicalities. I hope everything goes well for you!
amandadouglas
November 19th, 2009 · 6:27 PM · #
wow! home made everything? that must have been fun to do, but took a while i'm sure! but if you have enough time why not?! i love the gold coloring too!