Anli & Laura's Lesbian Gamer Geek Wedding

October 26 |  
Photos by: Julie Clyde Photography
Photos by Photo by Julie Clyde Photography

The offbeat bride: Anli, data analyst

Her offbeat partner: Laura, public servant

Location & date of wedding: The Old Stone House, NSW Australia — 5 September 2009



What made our wedding offbeat: We wanted a ceremony that reflected our geeky, romantic, pink aesthetic, while at the same time being profound and meaningful.

Our ceremony was themed around the video game Portal and the anime series Revolutionary Girl Utena.

We incorporated lots of geeky details, from the table names (Revolution, Sierra, Katara and GLaDOS) to the choice of music.

We also kept several traditional elements such as bouquets, dresses and bridesmaids. However, we both walked down the aisle unaccompanied and skipped the garter/bouquet toss.

Companion Cube cake. Photo by Julie Clyde Photography.

I DIY'ed many details, including bouquets, centrepieces, bonbons, stationery and my hand-embellished corset, skirts, petticoat and detachable train.


Because our wedding was so small, we skipped having a dance floor and invited guests to games of Lupus In Tabula after dinner. Our cake and bonbon were companion-cube shaped. We played Rock Band instead of having a Hens Night. And we walked down the aisle to an obscure piece of music from Utena.

Because we can't legally be wed in Australia, we had a good friend officiate and he did a great job. We kept our vows secret from one another until the night before, but somehow both of us managed to discuss Laura's fear of spiders in each of our vows.


Many of our friends very kindly offered their support and help, from playing violin at the ceremony, setting up decorations, making sure we were fed, proof-reading our vows, driving us around before the day and looking after our cats.


We also both wore dresses, although we didn't keep our dresses secret; we had photo shoots together before the ceremony and even got dressed in the same room! Laura kept her pink hair, I kept my glasses on through all the photos and we posed with Nintendo DS consoles.





Our biggest challenge: We were engaged for almost two years and picked our venue a year and a half in advance. Closer to the date, we were unsure whether the site vendors understood our vision for the day as we had originally discussed. We were very concerned about having adequate heating as many guests would be traveling in from a warmer state. We also had problems with not being able to order the correct furniture that we originally wanted.


With some good communication, we were able to sort out our issues. And the venue was set up mostly as we had originally envisaged. It helped that our vendors were very patient and understanding people. We needed to get confirmation on details early on as it really made the process less stressful.

We also made contingency plans (for example, seeking alternative sources for furniture and decorations) which we, fortunately, did not have to use.

My favorite moment: Laura's favourite moment was watching me walk down the aisle towards her while our lovely friend Katherine played Hikari Sasu Niwa on violin. We had decided she would go first as during the rehearsal I felt really nervous being the first in line. However, during the ceremony I read my vows first.

Photo by Julie Clyde Photography.

My favourite moment was the sunset photoshoot after the ceremony. I felt much more relaxed after everything had worked out really well and we had a lovely romantic walk together at the bottom of the garden and had some time alone with one another and our discreet photographer, Julie Clyde.

My offbeat advice: Our advice is to really spend some serious time with one another discussing your direction for your ceremony and the kind of vows that you want to make. We spent a lot of time developing our vows and had great input from some of our friends, which we highly recommend seeking if you can.

Also, if you're going the DIY route, try to have everything done at least a month in advance. I was still altering dresses (which was unplanned for) on the week of the wedding which wasn't fun at all given that we had international and interstate guests to entertain and an international honeymoon to prepare for.



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Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!

  1. I want some of that cake, I'm disappointed I wasn't invited.

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  2. Been a lurker here for a while now, and I have to say this wedding brought me out so I can say THIS WEDDING IS SUPREMELY GORGEOUS!!! The dresses are fantastic and just evoke the beauty and femininity of the princess look in Utena. I love how you incorporated your gamer and anime nerd roots into this wedding. I adore every detail of this wedding! I've also considered using anime cake toppers in my own. :)

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  3. That's one fantastic wedding. Congratulations! Your dresses are gorgeous, the little touches like the ring box are adorable, and "The Sunlit Garden" as a walking down the aisle song… does *not* make me want to tear up, because I don't do that. Really.

    May you have many wonderful years together!

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  4. This is one of the most beatiful things, let alone wedding I have ever seen. You have my deepest congratulations and I wish you happy lives together.

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  5. Your dresses were beautiful, the idea was fun and amazing, your wedding sounded like amazing fun, and everything looked absolutely amazing. Thank you for sharing this with us!

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  6. Awww, I'm glad the two of you finally got married, and in such a spectacular, geeky way. Glad things are going well for both of you, but Swancon just isn't the same without you two around. *much love to you both*

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  7. My five-year-old daughter just looked at these pictures and some from the photostream and exclaimed: "I cannot IMAGINE something more delightful and beautiful than this wedding!"

    I concur.

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  8. This wedding must have been so beautiful and meaningful! Thank you for sharing it here! It made my heart warm to see the pictures and read about it! ~<3 Yay~

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  9. Congratulations, your nuptials are everything I ever wanted, so beautiful yet wonderfully different, thank you for sharing such perfect memories.

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  10. wow did you dance "toki ni ai wa tsuyoku"?????
    Dies of happiness >.<

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  11. Shoujo Kakumei Utena is my all-time favorite anime, ever. I have been in love with it since I was 13. I'm 22 now.

    Aside from this fact alone nearly giving me an awesomeness-induced stroke, the couple looks radiant. Best wishes to the both of you.

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  12. Shoujo Kakumei Utena is my all-time favorite anime, ever. I have been in love with it since I was 13. I'm 22 now.

    Aside from this fact alone nearly giving me an awesomeness-induced stroke, the couple looks radiant. Best wishes to the both of you.

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  13. Oh, this is so beautiful! <3 Everything looks lovely, and the whole concept is just rad. o And huzzah for Utena too~

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  14. Gorgeous, absolutely gorgeous! You both look absolutely lovely, and as a fan of both Portal and Utena, I love how you incorporated aspects from them in to your special day. Congratulations to you both! ^^

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  15. Oh my god. Congratulations!

    This is the most gorgeous wedding I've seen in a long time.

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  16. Absolutely wonderful. Happiness and long life to you both.

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  17. Hi Laura i was just wondering what colour your hair is?? I'm totally in love with it and i'm desperate to be a pink haired bride!! :D

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    • Hi I use 'pink moon' fudge paintbox for the pink :)

      The main thing for getting the colour right is to have a really thorough bleach. When I first started, my hair needed to be bleached three times to get the colour light enough, and I didn't have dark hair to start with. Another nice colour in the same range is 'pink flamingo', however it's slightly darker. Good luck with your wedding!

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    • Her natural colour is a red, which I _think_ makes it easier :) I think for a while she was washing purple dye in but then taking it out REALLY early to get the perfect shade of pink… she's dedicated! :D (from a friend who is still squeeing over their wedding to this day! :D)

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    • thank you both so much i have blonde hair so it shouldn't be too bad but i will be bleaching too!! that is dedication good on you!!! its such a perfect pink!! and your whole wedding is just beautiful thank you for sharing!! i think i was most excited that it was in Australia!!

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  18. Wow! This is the coolest thing I've ever seen. Congrats!

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  19. That was strange… yet romantic… and pretty damn kickass really. I wish you both the best.

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  20. Wow! I'm also a lesbian gamer marrying a lesbian gamer (in 8 days, no less!) so it's lovely to see your pictures and hear about your ceremony!

    "Lonely Rolling Star" from Katamari Damacy is going to be my processional song. (:

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  21. I wonder what Utena and Anthy would say!

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  22. Oh my god, RGU, Portal, pink, amazing dresses! Best wedding ever, ohmygosh.

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  23. As I told the Spouse, "This goes from Awesome to Creepy (I mean, come on – those are two unsettling storylines!) to Sweet," and then I saw the cake toppers and that just pinned the needle at Sweet. OMG SO ADORABLE. (And the rest of the photos just kept it there.)

    Also : Big ol' congratulations!

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  24. Aww! This is so incredibly nerdy and incredibly romantic. Especially love the Utena piece for walking down the aisle. Please tell me you danced to Sometimes Love from the movie (Mirrored rose surface optional, of course).

    I guess the cake wasn't a lie, after all. ;)

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  25. This is phenomenal! You both look ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! I am so in love with the gamer theme and OMG I WANT THAT CAKE…I hope it was real…cause it was a wedding…a cake cannot be a lie at a wedding lol!

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  26. I wish I could have been there! That is definitely the best wedding theme I have ever seen.

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  27. ну че по русски нельзя писать?

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  28. Those are wonderful photos ladies, you raise the bar for weddings everywhere. I laughed a lot about companion cube, it seems that, after all the doubts, hype, and misgivings, that the cake was not a lie.

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  29. this is the cutest thing ever. I love all the detail – the gel pens and anime pen cup for the guest book. way cute. I'll remember to keep an eye on detail.

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  30. That looks like a really pretty ceremony, I'm so happy for you both!! So nice to see such lovely people so in love, you can see it in every photo. Congratulations!

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  31. Amazing!!! And you both look beautiful! Congradulations!

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  32. The sweetest wedding I've ever seen =) Congratulations! =)

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