Comments on: How to walk down the aisle when you've got two moms http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Wed, 17 Mar 2010 03:34:34 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: @andreajo89 http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-55621 @andreajo89 Wed, 09 Dec 2009 05:50:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-55621 My parents are divorced, and currently my dad's married and my mom isn't. I call Amber my "Quasi-step-mom" because when your parent gets remarried after they're done raising you it's hard to say step-parent... Anyway, I'm the oldest, and while I love my dad, and recently our relationship has taken a turn for the up, my two-years-younger brother has been the guy who's been there for me our whole lives, and he's the ONLY person I feel could ever "give me away" to anyone. My mom doesn't enter as an idea, just because she doesn't, and also because she agrees with me. Having my brother walk me was the first suggestion she had for me when I told her the news. (I'd thought of it already, though :) Just shows that it's a good idea for me). My parents are divorced, and currently my dad's married and my mom isn't. I call Amber my "Quasi-step-mom" because when your parent gets remarried after they're done raising you it's hard to say step-parent…

Anyway, I'm the oldest, and while I love my dad, and recently our relationship has taken a turn for the up, my two-years-younger brother has been the guy who's been there for me our whole lives, and he's the ONLY person I feel could ever "give me away" to anyone. My mom doesn't enter as an idea, just because she doesn't, and also because she agrees with me. Having my brother walk me was the first suggestion she had for me when I told her the news. (I'd thought of it already, though :) Just shows that it's a good idea for me).

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]]> By: Becs http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51534 Becs Fri, 18 Sep 2009 03:29:16 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51534 My mother made me promise when I was about 16 that she would get to walk me down the aisle too. My parents are still together and very happily married, but she was just adamant that she has done just as much, if not more (her words not mine!) work than Dad to raise me so she wants her fair share! :) So maybe they know what they want, you could ask them. Im getting married in Janurary and had to make sure there is a wide aisle Im looking forward to having them both with me. The more love the better. My mother made me promise when I was about 16 that she would get to walk me down the aisle too. My parents are still together and very happily married, but she was just adamant that she has done just as much, if not more (her words not mine!) work than Dad to raise me so she wants her fair share! :) So maybe they know what they want, you could ask them. Im getting married in Janurary and had to make sure there is a wide aisle Im looking forward to having them both with me. The more love the better.

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]]> By: Carmen http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51385 Carmen Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:44:39 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51385 And that's just what we are going to do too! I spoke to my mothers and, as much as they were honored to be part of the ceremony, they thought my being 'given away' was too traditional. The more I thought about it, the more I agreed. So, final verdict, my FH and I are walking together down the aisle. And that's just what we are going to do too! I spoke to my mothers and, as much as they were honored to be part of the ceremony, they thought my being 'given away' was too traditional. The more I thought about it, the more I agreed. So, final verdict, my FH and I are walking together down the aisle.

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]]> By: martha http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51381 martha Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:16:27 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51381 Shannon, Meg at A Practical Wedding (an awesome blog!) talked about this quite a bit. I know some people who choose to put something in their program, or make a statement, or request a donation as part of the "registry," etc. Personally, it is your day and equal marriage is important to you, so I say that you should feel comfortable making a "political" statement during your ceremony or in your program. Some of those anti-equal marriage folks might even be swayed, to see all the love on your day within the context of those deprived marriage. For our offbeat marriages, we aren't worrying (overly much) about offending people when we wear a pink dress or don't have centerpieces. Why should we worry about those anti-equal marriage sensibilities? It's your day! (So take my 2 cents with a grain of salt, too!) :) :) Shannon, Meg at A Practical Wedding (an awesome blog!) talked about this quite a bit. I know some people who choose to put something in their program, or make a statement, or request a donation as part of the "registry," etc.

Personally, it is your day and equal marriage is important to you, so I say that you should feel comfortable making a "political" statement during your ceremony or in your program. Some of those anti-equal marriage folks might even be swayed, to see all the love on your day within the context of those deprived marriage.

For our offbeat marriages, we aren't worrying (overly much) about offending people when we wear a pink dress or don't have centerpieces. Why should we worry about those anti-equal marriage sensibilities?

It's your day! (So take my 2 cents with a grain of salt, too!)

) :)

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]]> By: bridal girl http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51265 bridal girl Sat, 05 Sep 2009 18:14:45 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51265 I walked myself down the aisle. I didn't think back then that i owe anyone walking me down the aisle since my parents were divorce. But still I enjoyed their presence. I walked myself down the aisle. I didn't think back then that i owe anyone walking me down the aisle since my parents were divorce. But still I enjoyed their presence.

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]]> By: Shannon http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51237 Shannon Fri, 04 Sep 2009 14:08:32 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51237 Reposted from Facebook.... I am so glad to see this addressed! I only have one lesbian mom but it's nice to see famiilies like mine included. It's weird because my mom can "pass" for straight since she doesn't have a partner...straight people often assume that everyone is straight. It also feels weird to be getting married in California after Prop. 8 passed. I am so sad ... Read Moreabout that, but also happy about my own marriage. How does one address this issue without getting "political?" There are people in both my and my FH's families who are against gay marriage. There are also many GLBT (and GLBT-friendly) people in my family. How does one recconcile this at a wedding? Reposted from Facebook….

I am so glad to see this addressed! I only have one lesbian mom but it's nice to see famiilies like mine included. It's weird because my mom can "pass" for straight since she doesn't have a partner…straight people often assume that everyone is straight. It also feels weird to be getting married in California after Prop. 8 passed. I am so sad … Read Moreabout that, but also happy about my own marriage. How does one address this issue without getting "political?" There are people in both my and my FH's families who are against gay marriage. There are also many GLBT (and GLBT-friendly) people in my family. How does one recconcile this at a wedding?

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]]> By: Heather http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51225 Heather Fri, 04 Sep 2009 04:40:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51225 I had both Mom and Dad walk me down the aisle and it was so...nourishing, relaxing, comforting...but that's b/c I'm close to both parents, too. We had a narrow staircase so Mom had her brother walk her down the stairs and she waited for us at the bottom. But, she also has bad knees so she needed the arm and handrail! Dad and I came down the stairs, met up with Mom and walked the rest of the aisle. The pics are cute so I guess it was wonderful. My eyes were on my man-to-be! I had both Mom and Dad walk me down the aisle and it was so…nourishing, relaxing, comforting…but that's b/c I'm close to both parents, too. We had a narrow staircase so Mom had her brother walk her down the stairs and she waited for us at the bottom. But, she also has bad knees so she needed the arm and handrail! Dad and I came down the stairs, met up with Mom and walked the rest of the aisle. The pics are cute so I guess it was wonderful. My eyes were on my man-to-be!

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]]> By: Halle http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51223 Halle Fri, 04 Sep 2009 03:41:13 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51223 I, personally, decided NO ONE is walking me down the isle. The way I see it? I'm my own person, no one is "giving" me away. If my son wasn't going to be the ring bearer then I'd have him do it (he's three) because he's #1 boy in my life. Anyway, I have my mother & three dads (my dad, his partner & my stepfather) so I am finding other ways to get involved. They know my "radical" thinking so they understand & are just pleased to be a part of it :) I, personally, decided NO ONE is walking me down the isle. The way I see it? I'm my own person, no one is "giving" me away. If my son wasn't going to be the ring bearer then I'd have him do it (he's three) because he's #1 boy in my life. Anyway, I have my mother & three dads (my dad, his partner & my stepfather) so I am finding other ways to get involved. They know my "radical" thinking so they understand & are just pleased to be a part of it :)

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]]> By: Rose http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51215 Rose Thu, 03 Sep 2009 15:51:32 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51215 You could always walk yourself down the aisle. :) It's what my fiancee and I plan to do. You could always walk yourself down the aisle. :) It's what my fiancee and I plan to do.

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]]> By: Rykie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/09/lesbian-moms-walking-down-aisle/comment-page-1#comment-51212 Rykie Thu, 03 Sep 2009 15:11:27 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2898#comment-51212 Here to second (or...eighth?) the suggestion of having both parents walk you down the aisle. Both of them had a hand in raising you, after all. Here to second (or…eighth?) the suggestion of having both parents walk you down the aisle. Both of them had a hand in raising you, after all.

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