Comments on: Where did the original OBBs come from, has my relationship changed post-wedding, and do I ever get sick of weddings? http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Sun, 12 Feb 2012 08:20:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: immitmert http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-55076 immitmert Wed, 25 Nov 2009 21:48:35 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-55076 Thank you looking for details. It helped me in my assignment Thank you looking for details. It helped me in my assignment

]]> By: Therese Charvet http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49998 Therese Charvet Thu, 13 Aug 2009 22:04:21 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49998 This is Ariel's mother writing, commenting on Ariel's great description of what has made Ariel the way she is........Truth is, most of us don't fit into nice, neat boxes. Ariel's describes her parents (one of them being me) as 'hippies' but that isn't necessarily the best description of the two of us either. Certainly I'm 'counter-culture' which means to me that I don't embrace mainstream values and live a different kind of lifestyle than the standard American scene, but then again, many people live outside that norm, not necessarily just 'hippies.' David, Ariel's father, has held a mainstream job with the King County public transportation agency for many decades......in many ways not a hippie at all. We're all a mish-mash of contradictions and different streams of interest and inclination. The most important thing is to be in alignment with the values that truly feel and fit the best for each one of us. I see that Ariel is finding her way and always has! Its very liberating to realize you don't have to fit in one box or another and she keeps making her way in her own colorful style. And I'm glad to see that she inspires so many of her readers to find their/your authentic voice and expression......Most important to BE TRUE TO YOURSELF rather than try to fit in or please somebody else. So keep on keepin on, offbeat readers! This is Ariel's mother writing, commenting on Ariel's great description of what has made Ariel the way she is……..Truth is, most of us don't fit into nice, neat boxes. Ariel's describes her parents (one of them being me) as 'hippies' but that isn't necessarily the best description of the two of us either. Certainly I'm 'counter-culture' which means to me that I don't embrace mainstream values and live a different kind of lifestyle than the standard American scene, but then again, many people live outside that norm, not necessarily just 'hippies.' David, Ariel's father, has held a mainstream job with the King County public transportation agency for many decades……in many ways not a hippie at all. We're all a mish-mash of contradictions and different streams of interest and inclination. The most important thing is to be in alignment with the values that truly feel and fit the best for each one of us. I see that Ariel is finding her way and always has! Its very liberating to realize you don't have to fit in one box or another and she keeps making her way in her own colorful style. And I'm glad to see that she inspires so many of her readers to find their/your authentic voice and expression……Most important to BE TRUE TO YOURSELF rather than try to fit in or please somebody else. So keep on keepin on, offbeat readers!

]]> By: Mandy http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49928 Mandy Thu, 13 Aug 2009 01:09:33 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49928 Me too me too! Case in point: I'm pretty excited to be putting our two crazy families in their wildly varying levels of religiosity, our liberal church friends and our roller derby friends all together in one room for a wedding. The event may create a subculture all its own. Me too me too! Case in point: I'm pretty excited to be putting our two crazy families in their wildly varying levels of religiosity, our liberal church friends and our roller derby friends all together in one room for a wedding. The event may create a subculture all its own.

]]> By: rosie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49909 rosie Wed, 12 Aug 2009 19:13:43 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49909 oh, and Rozi, I totally get the "too colorful to be a goth, but too gothy to be normal" feeling. oh, and Rozi, I totally get the "too colorful to be a goth, but too gothy to be normal" feeling.

]]> By: rosie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49908 rosie Wed, 12 Aug 2009 19:12:01 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49908 Thank you for this site. I found it just yesterday and I'm quickly immersing myself in it, this has been WAY more insightful and useful than the bland traditional wedding sites. And yes, I'm going to actually buy a copy of the book. Wedding is in three months, time's a wastin! Thank you for this site. I found it just yesterday and I'm quickly immersing myself in it, this has been WAY more insightful and useful than the bland traditional wedding sites. And yes, I'm going to actually buy a copy of the book. Wedding is in three months, time's a wastin!

]]> By: Rozi http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49889 Rozi Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:23:52 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49889 "I'm comfortable contradicting myself and never quite fitting in all the way. At my corporate job, I'm the crazy weirdo. At parties and festivals, I'm the uptight bourgeoisie with the mortgage. Compared to my artist friends, I'm too entrepreneurial. Compared to my dotcom friends, I'm too lazy. Next to my parents, I'm the family conservative. Outside the liberal bubble of the West Coast, I'm a complete radical." I know what you mean! That's me! In my circle of geeky friends, I'm slighty uptight and a little too normal, but when I'm at work with my Daily-Mail reading shopping addict compadres I feel like a complete outsider (though I get on really well with all of them!). I'm too colourful to be a goth, but too gothy to be 'normal'. There are other gals here who feel the same! Maybe we should form a culture ourselves; the 'we-don't-know-but-please-be-our-friends'! "I'm comfortable contradicting myself and never quite fitting in all the way. At my corporate job, I'm the crazy weirdo. At parties and festivals, I'm the uptight bourgeoisie with the mortgage. Compared to my artist friends, I'm too entrepreneurial. Compared to my dotcom friends, I'm too lazy. Next to my parents, I'm the family conservative. Outside the liberal bubble of the West Coast, I'm a complete radical."

I know what you mean! That's me! In my circle of geeky friends, I'm slighty uptight and a little too normal, but when I'm at work with my Daily-Mail reading shopping addict compadres I feel like a complete outsider (though I get on really well with all of them!). I'm too colourful to be a goth, but too gothy to be 'normal'. There are other gals here who feel the same! Maybe we should form a culture ourselves; the 'we-don't-know-but-please-be-our-friends'!

]]> By: Sabrina http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49742 Sabrina Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:06:11 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49742 Happy Anniversary! I completely identify with how you described yourself - I laughed out loud at the "be the freak my parents raised me to be". I know how that is! Thanks so much for answering our questions in your own great style - I really love this Q&A feature! Happy Anniversary! I completely identify with how you described yourself – I laughed out loud at the "be the freak my parents raised me to be". I know how that is! Thanks so much for answering our questions in your own great style – I really love this Q&A feature!

]]> By: L'Erin of Atlanta http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49666 L'Erin of Atlanta Mon, 10 Aug 2009 01:48:58 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49666 despite my current doula career, potential midwifery aspirations and my complete disinterest in becoming a mother, this posting has renewed my faith in children of wild and imaginative parents finding their own gorgeous ways in the world. despite my current doula career, potential midwifery aspirations and my complete disinterest in becoming a mother, this posting has renewed my faith in children of wild and imaginative parents finding their own gorgeous ways in the world.

]]> By: holly k http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49613 holly k Sun, 09 Aug 2009 08:13:27 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49613 thanks for the insight. happy anniversary (late) thanks for the insight. happy anniversary (late)

]]> By: Chris S. http://offbeatbride.com/2009/08/reader-questions/comment-page-1#comment-49576 Chris S. Sun, 09 Aug 2009 00:22:28 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2639#comment-49576 I don't remember that being there at the beginning of my wedding planning, that's for sure! :) I don't remember that being there at the beginning of my wedding planning, that's for sure! :)

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