Comments on: Questions from you: Strangest weddings, what inspired me to start OBB, what I regret from my wedding, and more!

By: Shanygirl01

Shanygirl01 — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 20:39:12 +0000

My honey and I are planning a Halloween wedding. We are so completely relaxed about it, I am almost worried that we are going to get to the day and have it be a gong show. The main reason (I think!!) we are so chill about it is we are planning to renew our vows every 5 years on the next holiday. So our 5 year anniversary will be a Christmas wedding, our 10 will be New Years and so on. I like the idea of both continuity and change. We laugh about getting to the end of all of the holidays and looking back. The time capsule aspect will be so much fun to watch!!!

BTW Love the OBB members and how easy going and positive you all are!!!!

By: making the wedding gown decision « one little dove

making the wedding gown decision « one little dove — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 14:00:31 +0000

[...] this post on offbeat bride about weddings being like a time capsule. i was concerned about whether or not i would look back on the photos and still think that i looked good, but ariel's take on representing who you are NOW was really one of those obvious points that i really needed someone to say for me to get it. for instance, i love that my mom was rocking the hippie dress in her early 70s wedding, and that she wore what made her feel fabulous when she was 23. and that my dad had long hair and a handlebar mustache. too cool. [...]

By: Able April

Able April — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 23:46:22 +0000

Perhaps surf the "pro" photog sites she mentioned at the end of the post and bookmark sets you love. Then send those links your friend so he can SEE what you want to recreate. Words leave room for misinterpretation- images not nearly as much.

disclaimer- I used to work with jennyj and found this site via one of her posts.

By: bobz

bobz — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:02:44 +0000

I love your point about not loving all the weddings on here equally – I totally agree, and I've surprised myself with the kind of weddings I've loved the most. There is no right or wrong wedding. I love this site and the book, because both are infused with your fantastic, generous, live-and-let-live attitude to life.

By: offbeat bride » Seattle Wedding & Music Photographer

offbeat bride » Seattle Wedding & Music Photographer — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 23:12:45 +0000

[...] have I mentioned lately how much I love Offbeat Bride? I do. Very, very much. Posted in [...]

By: Miss Jess

Miss Jess — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:45:56 +0000

I'm getting kinda worried about my wedding photography. I have a close friend who's a GREAT photographer (fashion/girlie/commercial) doing them for me, he and I have worked on a lot of shoots together over the past couple of years so I know his style and what he does. However, he's a little new to shooting weddings, and I'm getting his services for basically free… but I'm just stressed out that I didn't spend the money to hire a quote/unquote wedding photographer. I guess that making a list of photos that I need to have is the best way to face my fears, and just run with it from there? This post has just made me a touch more nervous!

By: Tara

Tara — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 03:42:04 +0000

I love the comment about not liking every wedding on this site… I browse daily an almost feel guilty when I see weddings featured that I can just tell aren't something I'd like and skip over them

P.S. as for people saying you'll regret an offbeat wedding later and do it "this way" my favorite reply is "That's what killer anniversary parties and renewals of vows are for"

By: Jessi

Jessi — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:21:10 +0000

Thank you!!!

I've been feeling guilty that more than half of our $5000 budget is alloted for photography. We have friends getting married shortly after us, using the same photographer but a cheaper package. They're wedding budget is at least three times what ours is! I was wondering if I'd made a rash choice.

But I'm glad to know that you, and others, felt that photography was so important. It was the FIRST thing my FH and I booked, and the most important aspect of our wedding by far (at least in terms of things you can pay for). We really prioritized it, and yeah, because I'm spending $3000 on photography, I'm DIYing alot of it, but I don't feel bad about it.

By: flourish83

flourish83 — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:03:40 +0000

This posting actually helped me put a significant amount of my fears to rest.

I have been struggling with what I want for my wedding. Every four and a half days or so I am changing my mind about what I am going to do because I worry myself into the ground about what I will think about it in years to come.

The whole "time capsule of us" statement really solidified things for me as far as our wedding. Yes I have purple hair and a lip ring. No it's not conventional. Yes some people will think it's tacky. Do I care: Not really. My fiancé and my primary goal from day one has not been to have a huge expensive wedding. It's been to have a genuinely good time with our families, the people who have been on the journey with us.

Thank you Ariel!

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 15:58:42 +0000

But I really really really want to read a book on west coast subcultures! They are my obsession.
Hoopers, bicyclists, burners, freight hoppers, anime lovers. Guhhhh, stupid publishers. I'd buy that book so fast.