Comments on: Questions from you: Strangest weddings, what inspired me to start OBB, what I regret from my wedding, and more! http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Sun, 12 Feb 2012 08:20:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mallory http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-73857 Mallory Tue, 10 Aug 2010 00:49:45 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-73857 I really hope that the copious amounts of DYI my fiance and I plan to do can help us budget a good photographer. We're both illustrators, so the regular packages seem just a bit stale in contrast to all the creative outlets we're exploring for everything else. Now to find one in the QC that we like.... I really hope that the copious amounts of DYI my fiance and I plan to do can help us budget a good photographer. We're both illustrators, so the regular packages seem just a bit stale in contrast to all the creative outlets we're exploring for everything else.
Now to find one in the QC that we like….

]]> By: Squirrel http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-64967 Squirrel Sun, 11 Apr 2010 02:16:59 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-64967 I saw pictures of my MIL's wedding. It was 1971, she was 8 months pregnant with SIL, was wearing a straw hat and a homemade muu-muu I wouldn't even wear to clean my house, they had only their parents and siblings as guests, and the cake was homemade. Yet when I was planning my wedding, she was the one who insisted that I get the WIC monstrosity. I admit I've been through some regrets about my extremely laid-back elopement (I was the OBB of the day last Thanksgiving if you want to see pictures). Facebook is mostly guilty for that, because I can see other people planning WIC weddings, and the final result. That includes a huge "engagement boom" in my husband's hometown, probably inspired by our wedding and another bigger one that happened a month before. But my wedding was what I wanted then. It was what the 26-years-old me of 2009 had wished for, and got. With my bad temper, my refusal to make any compromise, my penny-pinching, my self-esteem so low that I didn't want to be queen for a day... I may wish I had done things differently, but this is what I wanted back then. And if my future daughter or daughter-in-law wants to get married skydiving, or in her living room by an officiant who wears a gorilla suit (suggested by Steve, my hubby's best man), then I'll let her! I won't force her to have the wedding I did not have. I saw pictures of my MIL's wedding. It was 1971, she was 8 months pregnant with SIL, was wearing a straw hat and a homemade muu-muu I wouldn't even wear to clean my house, they had only their parents and siblings as guests, and the cake was homemade. Yet when I was planning my wedding, she was the one who insisted that I get the WIC monstrosity.

I admit I've been through some regrets about my extremely laid-back elopement (I was the OBB of the day last Thanksgiving if you want to see pictures). Facebook is mostly guilty for that, because I can see other people planning WIC weddings, and the final result. That includes a huge "engagement boom" in my husband's hometown, probably inspired by our wedding and another bigger one that happened a month before. But my wedding was what I wanted then. It was what the 26-years-old me of 2009 had wished for, and got. With my bad temper, my refusal to make any compromise, my penny-pinching, my self-esteem so low that I didn't want to be queen for a day… I may wish I had done things differently, but this is what I wanted back then.

And if my future daughter or daughter-in-law wants to get married skydiving, or in her living room by an officiant who wears a gorilla suit (suggested by Steve, my hubby's best man), then I'll let her! I won't force her to have the wedding I did not have.

]]> By: Shanygirl01 http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-48875 Shanygirl01 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 20:39:12 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-48875 My honey and I are planning a Halloween wedding. We are so completely relaxed about it, I am almost worried that we are going to get to the day and have it be a gong show. The main reason (I think!!) we are so chill about it is we are planning to renew our vows every 5 years on the next holiday. So our 5 year anniversary will be a Christmas wedding, our 10 will be New Years and so on. I like the idea of both continuity and change. We laugh about getting to the end of all of the holidays and looking back. The time capsule aspect will be so much fun to watch!!! BTW Love the OBB members and how easy going and positive you all are!!!! My honey and I are planning a Halloween wedding. We are so completely relaxed about it, I am almost worried that we are going to get to the day and have it be a gong show. The main reason (I think!!) we are so chill about it is we are planning to renew our vows every 5 years on the next holiday. So our 5 year anniversary will be a Christmas wedding, our 10 will be New Years and so on. I like the idea of both continuity and change. We laugh about getting to the end of all of the holidays and looking back. The time capsule aspect will be so much fun to watch!!!

BTW Love the OBB members and how easy going and positive you all are!!!!

]]> By: making the wedding gown decision « one little dove http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-48836 making the wedding gown decision « one little dove Thu, 30 Jul 2009 14:00:31 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-48836 [...] this post on offbeat bride about weddings being like a time capsule. i was concerned about whether or not i would look back on the photos and still think that i looked good, but ariel’s take on representing who you are NOW was really one of those obvious points that i really needed someone to say for me to get it. for instance, i love that my mom was rocking the hippie dress in her early 70s wedding, and that she wore what made her feel fabulous when she was 23. and that my dad had long hair and a handlebar mustache. too cool. [...] [...] this post on offbeat bride about weddings being like a time capsule. i was concerned about whether or not i would look back on the photos and still think that i looked good, but ariel's take on representing who you are NOW was really one of those obvious points that i really needed someone to say for me to get it. for instance, i love that my mom was rocking the hippie dress in her early 70s wedding, and that she wore what made her feel fabulous when she was 23. and that my dad had long hair and a handlebar mustache. too cool. [...]

]]> By: Able April http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-48122 Able April Tue, 21 Jul 2009 23:46:22 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-48122 Perhaps surf the "pro" photog sites she mentioned at the end of the post and bookmark sets you love. Then send those links your friend so he can SEE what you want to recreate. Words leave room for misinterpretation- images not nearly as much. :-) *disclaimer- I used to work with jennyj and found this site via one of her posts. Perhaps surf the "pro" photog sites she mentioned at the end of the post and bookmark sets you love. Then send those links your friend so he can SEE what you want to recreate. Words leave room for misinterpretation- images not nearly as much. :-)

*disclaimer- I used to work with jennyj and found this site via one of her posts.

]]> By: bobz http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-47108 bobz Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:02:44 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-47108 I love your point about not loving all the weddings on here equally - I totally agree, and I've surprised myself with the kind of weddings I've loved the most. There is no right or wrong wedding. I love this site and the book, because both are infused with your fantastic, generous, live-and-let-live attitude to life. I love your point about not loving all the weddings on here equally – I totally agree, and I've surprised myself with the kind of weddings I've loved the most. There is no right or wrong wedding. I love this site and the book, because both are infused with your fantastic, generous, live-and-let-live attitude to life.

]]> By: offbeat bride » Seattle Wedding & Music Photographer http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-47043 offbeat bride » Seattle Wedding & Music Photographer Tue, 07 Jul 2009 23:12:45 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-47043 [...] have I mentioned lately how much I love Offbeat Bride?  I do.  Very, very much. Posted in [...] [...] have I mentioned lately how much I love Offbeat Bride?  I do.  Very, very much. Posted in [...]

]]> By: Miss Jess http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-47032 Miss Jess Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:45:56 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-47032 I'm getting kinda worried about my wedding photography. I have a close friend who's a GREAT photographer (fashion/girlie/commercial) doing them for me, he and I have worked on a lot of shoots together over the past couple of years so I know his style and what he does. However, he's a little new to shooting weddings, and I'm getting his services for basically free... but I'm just stressed out that I didn't spend the money to hire a quote/unquote wedding photographer. I guess that making a list of photos that I need to have is the best way to face my fears, and just run with it from there? This post has just made me a touch more nervous! I'm getting kinda worried about my wedding photography. I have a close friend who's a GREAT photographer (fashion/girlie/commercial) doing them for me, he and I have worked on a lot of shoots together over the past couple of years so I know his style and what he does. However, he's a little new to shooting weddings, and I'm getting his services for basically free… but I'm just stressed out that I didn't spend the money to hire a quote/unquote wedding photographer. I guess that making a list of photos that I need to have is the best way to face my fears, and just run with it from there? This post has just made me a touch more nervous!

]]> By: Tara http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-46853 Tara Sun, 05 Jul 2009 03:42:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-46853 I love the comment about not liking every wedding on this site... I browse daily an almost feel guilty when I see weddings featured that I can just tell aren't something I'd like and skip over them :P P.S. as for people saying you'll regret an offbeat wedding later and do it "this way" my favorite reply is "That's what killer anniversary parties and renewals of vows are for" :P I love the comment about not liking every wedding on this site… I browse daily an almost feel guilty when I see weddings featured that I can just tell aren't something I'd like and skip over them :P

P.S. as for people saying you'll regret an offbeat wedding later and do it "this way" my favorite reply is "That's what killer anniversary parties and renewals of vows are for" :P

]]> By: Jessi http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/questions-from-you/comment-page-1#comment-46839 Jessi Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:21:10 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2484#comment-46839 Thank you!!! I've been feeling guilty that more than half of our $5000 budget is alloted for photography. We have friends getting married shortly after us, using the same photographer but a cheaper package. They're wedding budget is at least three times what ours is! I was wondering if I'd made a rash choice. But I'm glad to know that you, and others, felt that photography was so important. It was the FIRST thing my FH and I booked, and the most important aspect of our wedding by far (at least in terms of things you can pay for). We really prioritized it, and yeah, because I'm spending $3000 on photography, I'm DIYing alot of it, but I don't feel bad about it. Thank you!!!

I've been feeling guilty that more than half of our $5000 budget is alloted for photography. We have friends getting married shortly after us, using the same photographer but a cheaper package. They're wedding budget is at least three times what ours is! I was wondering if I'd made a rash choice.

But I'm glad to know that you, and others, felt that photography was so important. It was the FIRST thing my FH and I booked, and the most important aspect of our wedding by far (at least in terms of things you can pay for). We really prioritized it, and yeah, because I'm spending $3000 on photography, I'm DIYing alot of it, but I don't feel bad about it.

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