Comments on: One groom's perspective on taking his wife's last name

By: James

James — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 21:10:24 +0000

I want to be in a female lead relationship. I had 15 years in a traditional marriage and it failed because I couldn't handle it. The next time around I will take her last name and I will let her make all of the decesions. I here that this is becoming more and more common. Any thoughts? Also, where do i meet women who want to be head of household?

By: ahsan sushmita

ahsan sushmita — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:26:03 +0000

i want to take my wife's first name at end of my name.

By: Empathetic

Empathetic — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 17:38:09 +0000

I took my bride's last name when we wed 15 years ago. She had 2 kids from her first marriage & her ex wasn't letting us change their last name, so for their sake I changed mine. Yes, I was ridiculed, teased, etc. at first for taking her first husband's name but it didn't go on forever. We had 2 kids also, which also have her/his last name so our whole family would have the same last name. We remained married for 10 years when we then divorced & she re-married her first husband. All 4 kids have been able to have the same last name as their mom & dad their entire life, which is good. I have had my ex's husband's last name for 5 divorcee years now which is kind of humiliating, but good for my 2 kids. I have been thinking of changing back to my bachelor name but not sure. I empathise with brides & mothers out there & over the years.

By: Sara P.

Sara P. — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 17:05:27 +0000

I just had a long talk with one of my bridesmaids about whether or not I was going to take my FH's last name when we get married. She was surprised that I would take his name as I've always been this super-independent woman. But I chose to change my name to have a common family name. Not only that but his identity is much more tied with his name (career, family heritage, etc) whereas mine is mostly a source of mispronunciation and poor family ties with my father's side. But the biggest issue for us was that when this topic is discussed it's always "will the bride change her name?" not "will the bride or the groom change their name or will they both keep their original last names?". It's nice to see someone who thinks that it's not so black & white.

By: Ellie Kwake

Ellie Kwake — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 17:00:48 +0000

What a great idea! I took my husband's name (He's an only child, and Kwake is a cool name anyway) but if somehting had happened to my brother before he had a kid, I think I would have asked him how he felt about taking my name, or hyphenating. Our names aren't really mashable. Romig and Kwake… Romake? Kwamig? Bluh, no thanks.

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:05:23 +0000

My husband and I both hyphenated, and he refers to his "maiden name" (which he still uses professionally). We get a lot of comments – all positive, at least to our faces. As far as "what will your children do when they get married?" I assume they'll be smart enough to figure something out. I'm certainly not going to dictate a solution.

By: AprilShowers

AprilShowers — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 08:18:01 +0000

I have a friend who goes by the name Amber Rose Green, so she's got ya beat there!!

By: misskatie

misskatie — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:37:15 +0000

this is the most beautiful article i've seen! unfortunately, on the website it was posted, there were a few ppl with, well, different opinions than that of the author. i got upset and left the website… either way! i love this and wish my husband was more supportive of my name change. he is the only boy on his father's side among cousins and everything – so the only one to carry on the family name. unfortunately – i cannot even begin to ask him to consider a meshed name. mines krohn and his is krueger, so i guess there isn't much to change…except like kroger, or kruehn. i think ill stick with his. thanks for the inspiration with this post, either way

By: MissPinkKate

MissPinkKate — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 03:00:51 +0000

My FI is taking my last name! Hurray!

By: OffbeatAriel

OffbeatAriel — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 15:02:01 +0000

I totally wanted to do this, and suggested to Andreas that we mash Fetz & Stallings into one name (Fellings) but Dre wasn't into the idea. That said: I love the mashup names!