Comments on: Planning a sincere-but-theatrical wedding

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 06:11:25 +0000

We're both professional actors. For me though, we do that for money, it's our job. The last thing I want to do at our wedding is perform.

I think we are lucky though because we have free harpists, singer, pianist etc..all friends and family. The perks of being poor performers.

By: Liz T

Liz T — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 14:56:02 +0000

This will always be my favorite:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgZ4ZTTfKO8

And if you know Lin and his friends, or have seen his show, you know how authentic this really is.

By: actingsqrl

actingsqrl — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 02:53:25 +0000

As a musical theatre student planning to marry another theatre student, performing is almost always on our minds. However, having said that, our wedding will reflect our interests more than anything else. We will be singing to each other though, and right now, we're planning on a flash mob/dance…thing at our reception since most of our friends are performers. We want our wedding to be fun, but not a show.

By: Zee

Zee — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 14:27:26 +0000

I was so glad to find this post: this is something that me and my fiance struggle with a lot, and I'm glad to see others have the same problem. We are both improv goofs and are incurably silly, and we want to incorporate that into the wedding. But its hard to figure out how without turning it into a farce. My boy will sometimes suggest things like letting one of his groomsmen wear a kilt to the wedding and I have to axe it because there is a certain point (which varies with each couple, I'm sure) when you know it is just going to make your commitment seem like a joke. Luckily or unluckily, my church is doing the wedding for free, but they are a bit strict about what you can do in the ceremony (only religious readings, etc.) so we can't customize much there. On the reception though, we are customizing like crazy, with a Mimosa slushie stand, homemade desserts, and a smattering of British-inspired tea stations, among other things. To celebrate our improvity, we are going to have a photobooth set up in front of an enormous chalkboard, where guests can draw situations out of a jar to illustrate in their pictures. That, and the fact that the Best Man is a stand-up comedian and that we are probably going to end up playing at least one spontaneous improv game, pretty much has us covered for silliness I think. Everyone has to find their own balance.

By: Tina

Tina — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 02:29:50 +0000

I'm a theater major, and I totally agree that we want to be the center of attention! I have come to terms with the fact that I have Rachel Berry syndrome. My friends all joke that I will be the queen bridezilla because I'm a perfectionist who has planned my wedding since birth. But really I'd like to have a secular tattoo encrusted wedding ceremony that reminds me of old Hollywood… glamorous, classy, and beautiful. I don't want to perform during the most sincere part of my day. I'd like it to be me at the alter, not a character even if the character is me. That is just my opinion though, I'm sure other couples with performance backgrounds feel they need a show to make their big day perfect, mad props to them! I know how much time and effort goes into planning a show, and planning a show AND a wedding would give me a heart attack. Now, the reception is a completely different story! I want it to be the best PARRRRRTTTAAAYY anyone has ever been to. I want entertainment galore! I just want to host the best day of everyone's life. That is the time where my performance side will show off. But like every actress feels before a show, I just hope the "audience" enjoys it as much as I do!

By: sam

sam — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 19:08:33 +0000

What a great Shabby chic wedding gown! Who is the designer?

By: Kaci

Kaci — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 07:10:13 +0000

My fiance and I are both improvisational actors. We met through improvisation and perform/teach/direct/produce improv all the time. He even owns a theater now that I work at. Needless to say we're surrounded by it, engulfed in it. Our performer friends on the guest list overtake family and non-performer friends 2-to-1, I think.
That being said, we definitely weren't planning on getting married on a stage in a theater (we spend too much time on those anyway) and our engagement was a private two-person thing even though we had friends constantly trying to get us to propose to each other during shows, the goofballs.

But, we are performers at heart and can't help but throw some theatricality in our wedding. Our ceremony will have symbolic elements unheard of, some completely ridiculous and some sentimental. We're getting married at a fun location (The Cathedral of Junk) in Victorian clothing.
We definitely want to have the first dance/s and the toasts, which in my mind are more attention-grabbing aspects of a wedding, but also nice and memorable things that don't feel too fabricated.
We love the spotlight, each other, and our friends and family. The community of performers we surround ourselves with are just as important as our family and we can't wait to include them all on our wedding day. The wedding is an awesome party at it's core.

By: Celeste

Celeste — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:01:41 +0000

Ooh, maybe this is where I found it to begin with! Haha.

By: Favors Balance

Favors Balance — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:12:22 +0000

And I totally have tears in my eyes right now from watching Jen and Scotto's vows and the serenade. Their wedding was over-the-top, but they were both totally committed to it and as was abundantly clear, equally committed to each other.

By: Favors Balance

Favors Balance — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 15:41:55 +0000

I've always thought it was nice to play homage to theatrical roots in one deliberate moment and then have the little details of the wedding reflect the couples' theatrical interests – as they should for any couple! For example, a dancer might perform a special, choreographed dance with her partner at the reception, a singer might sing a special song for their beloved, a poet might read a special poem. But then the couple can relax and mingle without concern for "the show".

My own DBF and I between us are: dancer, writer, living statue, circus performer, actor, and musician. But while dancing and singing and juggling are part of what we do, there's more to who we are, and I'd want our wedding to reflect the "at-home snuggling on the couch" part of us as much as the "soaking up the limelight" part of us. What makes guests uncomfortable is when they wonder if the love between the couples is sincere, or if that's part of the performance too. Love is the real theme of the day, and that should come across no matter how shy or theatrical the newlyweds may be.