Comments on: Why you should start thinking about thank you cards before the wedding

By: MG

MG — Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:00:40 +0000

This isn't just for e-gifts, either! One of my friends from college got married, and three of us went to thoroughly clean her apartment and move her new husband's stuff in while they were on their honeymoon, and I left their (handmade) present in the kitchen. I never got a thank-you note, so I have no idea whether she even opened it, or whether she uses it now… I've since lost touch, so now I'll never know… Very annoying!

By: Jamie

Jamie — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 14:36:28 +0000

I'm having a "bring a potluck dish in lieu of a gift!" wedding, but I'll still be sure to send thank-you cards to everyone for coming even if they're not spending $50 on a salad bowl like a normal wedding. I'm in the process of starting up a spread sheet to track invites, returned RSVPs, addresses, and what food everyone says they're bringing. Hopefully, I can thank people specifically for bringing whichever food. I'm sure some people will also bring a card with cash, and some relatives who live too far away (invites sent at the insistance of mom and MIL) will probably send cash….definitely sending thank-you notes for those as well. I almost ordered matching notes when I ordered my invitations….but I think instead I'll just buy plain ones at a dollar store, and glue my own mini-pinwheels to the front of each one to make them unique.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 14:30:55 +0000

My post office had a variety of Forever stamps. I bought 120 (will need to buy more for thank you cards) Forever stamps that were these colorful abstract flower/birds/butterflies that were funky, yet weddingy.

By: Kayla

Kayla — Tue, 06 Mar 2012 10:34:22 +0000

I tried so hard to get our engagement party thank you's out quickly but unfortunately having the party on one side of the country and living on the other (where all of the stationary was!) meant they didn't get out until we got home. But it was under 2 months and I'm pretty sure everyone understood!

By: Jenne

Jenne — Wed, 18 May 2011 22:56:15 +0000

Still use mine rom my 1995 first wedding! When my girlfriend got married in 2009, she had 5 (WTF!) different Word docs with address lists. I stayed up until 4am consolidating them for her. That was her gift

By: MaryLynn

MaryLynn — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 01:21:58 +0000

I took my work up on a free class on how to use excell. They think it was work related… I just wanted to know how to make spreadsheets for my wedding planning!! haha

By: Dani

Dani — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 06:59:04 +0000

Sorry guys, I responded to the wrong post

By: Dani

Dani — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 06:42:11 +0000

Due to budget constraints, we had a small wedding with close family and a few friends only, then had a very casual cook-out the next day for everybody else (there were two different sets of invitations). We felt a little weird including registry info with the invites because of this arrangement so my then fiance & I put our mothers in charge of spreading the word. Let's just say that his mom did a better job than my mom. Since the majority of people from my side didn't know what to get us, they just gave us cash, which we didn't really expect to happen.

It actually worked out quite well because we used the money to partly pay for our honeymoon AND to replace an aging 12" CRT television with a much nicer flat screen (we watch a lot of movies).

Disclaimer: This may be a cultural thing (I'm Asian-American). I think the tendency for celebrations is to give a bit of cash with a gift. Since my extended family didn't know what to get us, they just went the cash route.

By: OffbeatAriel

OffbeatAriel — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 00:22:40 +0000

I disagree, Emily. Part of my point with this post was that it's not about antiquated etiquette — rather, when new technology like online registries and digital gifts get involved, there can be a question as to whether your gift even arrived. I don't think age has a thing to do with that!

By: ashilleong

ashilleong — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:56:04 +0000

"The "correct etiquette" on this depends so much on what generation you were born in. Young people getting married today feel the freedom to take their sweet (year long) time to get their thank you's out. Older couples feel it to be more respectful to get them all out within a couple weeks. Both couples should feel the love and freedom from the gift giver to do what they feel is appropriate."

Actually, that's not the correct etiquette. Commonly practiced, yes, but not the correct etiquette. I agree that tetimframe isn't so important, but actually getting around to saying thank you is!

Saying thank you isn't about being greedy, but is BASIC politeness. This isn't about using the correct cutlery and it isn't something that has been out dated. It is saying thanks to somoene who did something for you. People don't do thingsjust to recieve a thank you, but not saying thank you shows an air of entitlement that really upsets me.