
This OMG OBT post brings us a tutorial from OBT member lepapillonvert on how she and her husband made their beautiful handfasting cords.
There is no right or wrong way to make handfasting cords, and they can be as elaborate or simple as you want them to be. It really comes down to what you want to represent yourselves, or what is easiest for you.
The only time the cords are to be dismantled/unknotted is in the case of a hand parting, so please remember that anything you use to decorate your cord is to remain with it for as long as you are bound to each other.
Your cord should be long enough to loop over both wrists as well as being able to make the knots.
We've read that if you are using a single cord, that a generic rule of length is ideally no less than 6 feet.
Again, it's up to you.
Ribbon/Cording
Michael and I picked out our ribbons separately, but when we put them together they were matching color palettes. We each chose to use three ribbons for our cords but you can use how many you feel is right for you. We chose to use doubled-sided satin ribbons that were purchased at Michael's. We've seen them made of drapery cording, silk cording, decorative ribbon and even parts of a couple's wedding attire. You can embroider them, print/paint them, etc.

I had some O rings lying about in my tool caddy. (I tend to buy in excess a variety of 'things' when working on costume projects. It saves me from having to run on multiple errands or paying for multiple packages to be shipped. Eventually I find something that will work.)
Michael tied the ends of the ribbons to the O rings, slipped it over a hook and attached it to something stable. For him it was one of my dress forms but for these photos I used my very heavy pair of fabric scissors. He braided the cord to each of our lengths. He also said silent prayers as he plaited. (Again, do whatever makes you comfortable.) When he got to the end of each cord, he tied it off with enough length left to attach the tassels.

Tassels
We purchased new beads and incorporated a couple that were in our bead box. The copper wire and beads represent Michael's love for building Tesla Coils and other high voltage projects, the Tiger's Eye is for protection and the others have their special purpose.
Make a largish loop at the top and then begin to slide the beads/what-nots until the desired length is reached. We added our charms at the end and looped the wire, and wrapped the end around a few times before cutting. We then attached the tassels to the extra length at each end of the cords.

Charms
We chose two sterling charms each for our cords. There are several sites where you can buy the charms (ArtBeads.com, BlueMud.com, FireMountainGems.com). We choose to use Art Beads because they had what we were looking for and it made sense to pay one shipping charge.

Voila! The cords are finished.

I hope this has been helpful for some of you! Fellow OBT member Kat started a handfasting group on Flickr. You may want to check the porn for inspiration.
Thanks for this, Lepapillonvert! Your cords came out beautifully and your wedding looked amazing as well… hopefully we'll have the full Real Offbeat Wedding profile coming soon!














Comments on "How to make Handfasting Cords, by Lepapillonvert"
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scunshine
May 26th, 2009 · 6:43 AM · #
I found a trick a while ago to transfer words onto ribbon, it only works if you have an inkjet printer though. Print the words you want out backwards (photoshop, yo), and then rub acetone on the back of the paper while pressing the front onto the ribbon. The ink will come off the page and stick on the ribbon, it's super cool. It's how I made this:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/22624471@N02/2686264282/in/set-72157606277647687/
Though I'm sure it would be used in a much prettier way in a handfasting!
Shannon
May 26th, 2009 · 6:53 AM · #
brilliant! thanks for sharing your lovely work. i'm sending this to my friend who's planning an october handfasting. blessed be!
superpana
May 26th, 2009 · 4:57 PM · #
Those are so lovely!
A saucy dweller and an offbeat bride, you are awesome!
Kathleen
May 26th, 2009 · 9:53 PM · #
Super! Thanks for linking to my group. I could not seem to find any pictures of handfastings & chords when I was planing mine so it's great to see others. Great tutorial Lepapillonvert!
lepapillonvert
May 27th, 2009 · 6:02 AM · #
Sure thing lady! I'm excited to see how the group grows.
@scunshine – thanks for the awesome tip!
If anyone else wants to add their ideas, please feel free!
Leila Jo
May 27th, 2009 · 6:57 PM · #
Dear Lepapillonvert,
Thanks for showcasing us handfasting mavens and giving such great tips for personalizing the cords. Yours are gorgeous. I embroidered our handfasting ribbons with words from our vows as a stitching spell for our marriage. Preparing the ribbons was a really lovely preparation ritual for the big day.
Sarah Beth
May 29th, 2009 · 8:02 PM · #
Hi Offbeat Peeps!
My fiance and I did a handfasting last year, but had absolutely no clue how to go about it.
We ended up cutting short lengths (about 12 inches) of ribbon that we handed out to our guests.
As each guest came up, they shared something with the group and then tied the ribbon around both of our arms together.
We didn't have to cut or untie anything (luckily, but completely unplanned) to take the ribbons off, just to wiggle a little bit, and then we used one last ribbon to tie all the loops together.
Reflecting on it, I feel deeply that we not only bound ourselves together, but our community of friends.
lepapillonvert
May 30th, 2009 · 11:27 AM · #
Leila Jo & Sarah Beth -
Wow, your stories are so beautiful and inspiring. Thanks so much for sharing them!
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June 30th, 2009 · 5:01 AM · #
[...] were handfasted on Beltane under a canopy of oaks using cords made by my husband. Michael and I walked into the grove from opposite sides at the same time and met at the altar. [...]
Kate
July 3rd, 2009 · 8:17 PM · #
Thanks for the idea! I had no idea what I was doing and had no idea as to how beautiful and personal the cords could be! My Wedding is a week from today so I'd better get started!!!
Maddy
July 29th, 2009 · 6:06 AM · #
I really love that you posted this, though I wish there were a shit of them laid out straight, since I am a visual learner.
Natalie
September 6th, 2009 · 7:02 AM · #
Me and my partner are looking are looking at doing a hand fasting in a few months, just wondering do you need 2 cords or can you use 1? Cause basically me and my partner have picked up coloured ribbon that symbolises something to us.