Comments on: The pursuit of authenticity vs. the pursuit of attention http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Sat, 21 Nov 2009 17:39:08 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Laney http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-51038 Laney Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:04:51 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-51038 Thanks for this. I've been grappling with this concept a good bit. When I was first engaged, I intended to sing to my partner at our reception--my gift to him. When I started looking for ideas for songs, I got some pretty nasty comments about attention-seeking and how inappropriate it would be. But in the end... it's what I do. It makes me happy and it makes my partner happy so why the hell shouldn't I be able to do it? Thanks for this. I've been grappling with this concept a good bit. When I was first engaged, I intended to sing to my partner at our reception–my gift to him. When I started looking for ideas for songs, I got some pretty nasty comments about attention-seeking and how inappropriate it would be. But in the end… it's what I do. It makes me happy and it makes my partner happy so why the hell shouldn't I be able to do it?

]]> By: Rach http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-49850 Rach Wed, 12 Aug 2009 02:23:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-49850 Hi Kate, My fiance & I are only children too, and I'm also an only grandchild. Yet, my hubby-to-be has a large family so we too are planning a larger wedding than I'd prefer. I think it'll all work out :) Hi Kate,
My fiance & I are only children too, and I'm also an only grandchild. Yet, my hubby-to-be has a large family so we too are planning a larger wedding than I'd prefer. I think it'll all work out :)

]]> By: Jane http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-49735 Jane Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:45:37 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-49735 Thanks i think i needed to hear that... Thanks i think i needed to hear that…

]]> By: Kate http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-46848 Kate Sun, 05 Jul 2009 02:10:38 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-46848 I wish I'd seen this sight and this post sooner...6 days to go!...but but it is what it is and I don't have to worry about what happens. In the end, I'm marrying a wonderful man and that is what truly matters. Thanks for all the advice!!!! Love this sight! I wish I'd seen this sight and this post sooner…6 days to go!…but but it is what it is and I don't have to worry about what happens. In the end, I'm marrying a wonderful man and that is what truly matters.
Thanks for all the advice!!!! Love this sight!

]]> By: Kate http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-46849 Kate Sun, 05 Jul 2009 02:10:38 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-46849 I wish I'd seen this sight and this post sooner...6 days to go!...but but it is what it is and I don't have to worry about what happens. In the end, I'm marrying a wonderful man and that is what truly matters. Thanks for all the advice!!!! Love this sight! I wish I'd seen this sight and this post sooner…6 days to go!…but but it is what it is and I don't have to worry about what happens. In the end, I'm marrying a wonderful man and that is what truly matters.
Thanks for all the advice!!!! Love this sight!

]]> By: Anna http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-44819 Anna Tue, 09 Jun 2009 01:46:43 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-44819 Nodding in absolute agreement! I've been organizing weddings for friends and relatives and I just hate to see how the couples get so worked up and fickle minded over the smallest details when they don't even have the slightest idea of what marriage should feel or look like to them. What's the point of having just the bride doing all the work and pursuing attention while the groom couldn't care less? Or the countless arguments between the about-to-be-wedded-couple and their immediate family members over what not to over-spend in or what's not a good color scheme or I-dont-think-your-grandma-is-goin-to-like-the-idea-of-giving-out-just-a-cupcake...! At the end of the day, I think they are more relieved the wedding is "over" than it should ever begun. I thought the wedding IS the beginning of a life together? Why does it sound like it's the "end" of an old chapter and let's pray hard the new chapter unfolds with much hope :P Seriously...it's YOUR wedding. Have it YOUR way and make it meaningful to YOU and YOUR other half... I think we should let all brides-to-be read this! :D Good post! Nodding in absolute agreement! I've been organizing weddings for friends and relatives and I just hate to see how the couples get so worked up and fickle minded over the smallest details when they don't even have the slightest idea of what marriage should feel or look like to them.

What's the point of having just the bride doing all the work and pursuing attention while the groom couldn't care less? Or the countless arguments between the about-to-be-wedded-couple and their immediate family members over what not to over-spend in or what's not a good color scheme or I-dont-think-your-grandma-is-goin-to-like-the-idea-of-giving-out-just-a-cupcake…!

At the end of the day, I think they are more relieved the wedding is "over" than it should ever begun. I thought the wedding IS the beginning of a life together? Why does it sound like it's the "end" of an old chapter and let's pray hard the new chapter unfolds with much hope :P

Seriously…it's YOUR wedding. Have it YOUR way and make it meaningful to YOU and YOUR other half… I think we should let all brides-to-be read this! :D

Good post!

]]> By: Alexandra http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-44441 Alexandra Thu, 04 Jun 2009 10:32:43 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-44441 Dig it! Bookmarked! :D Dig it!
Bookmarked! :D

]]> By: RayGun http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-43894 RayGun Thu, 28 May 2009 14:35:00 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-43894 All I have to say is: Thank You!! All I have to say is: Thank You!!

]]> By: Rachel http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-43762 Rachel Wed, 27 May 2009 02:55:11 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-43762 this post got lots of attention.... CAUSE it's TRUE and authentic. this post got lots of attention…. CAUSE it's TRUE and authentic.

]]> By: lu http://offbeatbride.com/2009/05/authenticity-vs-attention/comment-page-1#comment-43460 lu Fri, 22 May 2009 06:08:07 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2134#comment-43460 i'm getting married next weekend, and have thinking about this all week. at first i didn't even think about the attention, but now i'm a little mortified about it. does it go away? i'm getting married next weekend, and have thinking about this all week. at first i didn't even think about the attention, but now i'm a little mortified about it. does it go away?

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