Comments on: Recent bride reality check http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Sun, 12 Feb 2012 08:20:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jamie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41885 Jamie Fri, 01 May 2009 16:35:15 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41885 Once again, Rodrigues is the voice of reason! It looks like you had a beautiful day and enjoyed it. Burque brides FTW!!! Once again, Rodrigues is the voice of reason! It looks like you had a beautiful day and enjoyed it. Burque brides FTW!!!

]]> By: Kate http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41813 Kate Thu, 30 Apr 2009 21:49:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41813 This is the sole thing keeping me focused and sane. At the end of the day, what matters is only that we're married and partied our butts off with loved ones (all 120+....which I need to keep looking at as "we have lots of wonderful people who love us" and not "GAAAAH does the guest list ever end?!"). Such a beautiful picture!! May I be relaxed enough to look that blissful. This is the sole thing keeping me focused and sane. At the end of the day, what matters is only that we're married and partied our butts off with loved ones (all 120+….which I need to keep looking at as "we have lots of wonderful people who love us" and not "GAAAAH does the guest list ever end?!"). Such a beautiful picture!! May I be relaxed enough to look that blissful.

]]> By: Scurrilous Jen http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41794 Scurrilous Jen Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:50:24 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41794 Love the photo - I knew Rodrigues would be a beautiful bride! Love the photo – I knew Rodrigues would be a beautiful bride!

]]> By: Goddess Leonie I Creative Goddess http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41720 Goddess Leonie I Creative Goddess Thu, 30 Apr 2009 00:29:05 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41720 Amen to that :) This photo says it all - that it's all about LOVE LOVE LOVE Amen to that :)
This photo says it all -
that it's all about
LOVE LOVE LOVE

]]> By: Sally http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41706 Sally Wed, 29 Apr 2009 21:39:21 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41706 The more I get into wedding planning, the more it seems the entire process is designed to distract you from the fact that you're getting married. It almost feels at times like weddings and marriage are two completely separate things. I have to remember to stop every now and again and reflect on why we're doing all of this, and this post was a great reminder. Thanks :) The more I get into wedding planning, the more it seems the entire process is designed to distract you from the fact that you're getting married. It almost feels at times like weddings and marriage are two completely separate things.
I have to remember to stop every now and again and reflect on why we're doing all of this, and this post was a great reminder. Thanks :)

]]> By: Alicia http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41703 Alicia Wed, 29 Apr 2009 21:08:59 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41703 What a wonderful point and such (such such such) a gorgeously captured moment. This comment is totally without purpose other than to say how b e a u t i f u l that picture is. What a wonderful point and such (such such such) a gorgeously captured moment. This comment is totally without purpose other than to say how b e a u t i f u l that picture is.

]]> By: Lisie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41700 Lisie Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:53:53 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41700 Great reminder- Here is something that I am doing to help myself keep perspective. Think of all the weddings you have attended over the past decade. What were the colors? Were there an equal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids? What did the invitation look like? The brides dress? Did you have chicken or pasta? Was there live music? What about the table decor? Theme? Now try this- Who got married? Remember any of the toasts? If there was a slideshow, did any of the photo's bring back memories? Did you see someone you hadn't seen in a long time? Where was it held? (backyard, church, ballroom, etc) What was the mood and the feel of the wedding? Did you get to spend much time with the couple? Is this couple still together? I'm kind of amazed that I can remember almost an entire speech given at my cousin's wedding (by a guy I have never met), which was about 7 years ago. It was about how my cousin is really a lucky guy, because all these crazy wonderful things always happen to him (which were told in great detail). But then he said that he and my cousins friends were the luckiest of them all, because they got to have my cousin and his wife in their lives. I can also remember the look on a brides face during a wedding I attended about 8 years ago. She was crying the whole way down the isle, but it didn't look like tears of joy. I remember people saying during the reception that they didn't think the union would last. It didn't. I wonder if they had spent more time looking at their relationship prior to the wedding, instead of the "stuff," if the outcome would have been different. Did the inner voice that said "you are not right for each other," get drowned out by phone calls with vendors? Great reminder- Here is something that I am doing to help myself keep perspective.

Think of all the weddings you have attended over the past decade.
What were the colors?
Were there an equal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids?
What did the invitation look like?
The brides dress?
Did you have chicken or pasta?
Was there live music?
What about the table decor?
Theme?

Now try this-
Who got married?
Remember any of the toasts?
If there was a slideshow, did any of the photo's bring back memories?
Did you see someone you hadn't seen in a long time?
Where was it held? (backyard, church, ballroom, etc)
What was the mood and the feel of the wedding?
Did you get to spend much time with the couple?
Is this couple still together?

I'm kind of amazed that I can remember almost an entire speech given at my cousin's wedding (by a guy I have never met), which was about 7 years ago. It was about how my cousin is really a lucky guy, because all these crazy wonderful things always happen to him (which were told in great detail). But then he said that he and my cousins friends were the luckiest of them all, because they got to have my cousin and his wife in their lives.
I can also remember the look on a brides face during a wedding I attended about 8 years ago. She was crying the whole way down the isle, but it didn't look like tears of joy. I remember people saying during the reception that they didn't think the union would last. It didn't. I wonder if they had spent more time looking at their relationship prior to the wedding, instead of the "stuff," if the outcome would have been different. Did the inner voice that said "you are not right for each other," get drowned out by phone calls with vendors?

]]> By: holly http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41697 holly Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:35:55 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41697 cute! I do like the focus on relationships. Maybe you could make a small post about things to remember/consider on your wedding day - a kind of anti-freakout guide. cute! I do like the focus on relationships. Maybe you could make a small post about things to remember/consider on your wedding day – a kind of anti-freakout guide.

]]> By: Heather http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41688 Heather Wed, 29 Apr 2009 17:18:25 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41688 Aw!!! What a lovely photo :) Aw!!! What a lovely photo :)

]]> By: Colleen http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/reality-check/comment-page-1#comment-41683 Colleen Wed, 29 Apr 2009 16:38:27 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=2106#comment-41683 sometimes you do have to sit back and ask yourself "what will people take away/remember about our wedding?" its most likely not the table cloth, centerpiece or flowers. It probably is how happy the bride and groom looked and maybe if the food was good or bad :) things to consider if you are trying to cut costs in certain areas- maybe spend more on food or your dress and less on the linens or flowers. sometimes you do have to sit back and ask yourself "what will people take away/remember about our wedding?" its most likely not the table cloth, centerpiece or flowers. It probably is how happy the bride and groom looked and maybe if the food was good or bad :) things to consider if you are trying to cut costs in certain areas- maybe spend more on food or your dress and less on the linens or flowers.

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