Marriage equality in your wedding ceremony

I felt like such an idiot for not thinking of this when we went to Vegas to get married. You can literally see our faces go into *shock* when the pastor starts talking about marriage being an institution for "one man and one woman". I was a bit ashamed with myself, and to be honest, it's the biggest regret I have. So I would say to couples, if you are not writing your own vows…make sure you KNOW what the officiant is going to say. Although that shocked look is a lil funny now to watch on the wedding video, it still tears me up inside.

Our reading was Aristophanes' speech from Plato's Symposium which is a creation myth about the original genders (gay, lesbian, heterosexual) who were two people rolled into one. The gods were angry at them and split them all into two and so each of us is looking for his or her other half. This speech also played a big part in Hedwig and the Angry Inch (a fantastic movie, by the way!). Gay marriage is on the way here in Maine (woot woot!) and I thought it was a nice (and subtle, since it's actually a pretty common ceremony reading) way to incorporate equality into our heterosexual wedding.

It's a little different for us because we are a same-sex couple, but in our ceremony we asked the people there to also make vows to us:

"To all of you who have joined here to witness and celebrate this union, do you promise to honor and support Leslie and Von’s commitment to each other, and to fight for their rights for this marriage to be universally recognized and respected? If so, please respond 'We do.'
(We do)"