Comments on: Construction is always more difficult than demolition

By: sassy

sassy — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 15:23:16 +0000

It's funny how the deeper I go into wedding planning, the more life lessons I learn and more opportunities I have to improve myself.
Thanks Ariel you're awesome!

By: PortlandGirl

PortlandGirl — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 19:47:21 +0000

Thanks. This was exactly what I needed today. I've been drowning in wedding indecisiveness and stress. I think, though, that I've devoted a lot more focus to deconstruction rather than vision and self-discovery and ground-up construction. Time to switch gears.

By: alice

alice — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:45:12 +0000

Right on!
It's always interesting listening to what people say they will or won't have at their wedding when they haven't actually faced the reality of planning thier own wedding yet. I've eaten alot of my past words of what I would or wouldn't have, hell I used to wonder why people even got married at all. A friend of mine who used said just 2 months ago "I'm not wearing makeup or make a big deal" just got engaged and was facebooking in a minute about the party of a lifetime.
When it's YOUR wedding things are different. As soon as that ring was on my finger the old "oh I don't want all that" went out the door. It's an incredible opportinity to express yourselves as a couple and it's actually a real challenge if you have a dream that strays from the beaten path. You can't please all the people, and if you tried it would probably end up pretty boring, so you might as well please yourselves!

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 12 May 2010 07:59:04 +0000

Did you guys ever consider that the Craigslist poster might be single? Maybe I just want her to be, but when you're single, it's hard to see weddings as "constructive" or "creative." You guys have your day. Let us rant.

By: Whitney

Whitney — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:28:34 +0000

Very well put Ariel!

By: Nay

Nay — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 21:45:04 +0000

I love this…. My Bow seams to be saying this exact thing. (I don't Want … When all along I have been trying to explain to him that this is about us me and him no one ells lets bring us into our once in a life time memorable moment.

By: sushi

sushi — Sat, 02 May 2009 21:17:54 +0000

great post!

I never wanted a wedding – but my fiance and I talked it through and decided it would be meaningful to mark the event with family & friends.

The easiest thing, by far, was to make a list of everything we didn't want.

Then – the hard part – trying to figure out what we did want.

Basically, we took the first list, and turned every negative into a positive. For example, "we don't want everyone stuck at a table watching us go through the motions" became "we want to create an event that focuses on our guests & encourages mingling." To make it happen, we decided to have multiple tables of themed hors d'oeuvres instead of a sit down dinner & open lounge style seating instead of place settings.

But even once we had things like that figured out, it was harder to make it happen. No matter how "unique" a product they claim to deliver, wedding vendors are set up for cookie cutter results. It took months and months of research to find a seamstress who'd make a black dress, a caterer who'd deliver sushi, and a venue that would let us throw this party our way.

6 weeks to go, and my entire house is a happy DIY mess! but I am looking forward to an awesome party.

By: Cirocco

Cirocco — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 16:19:35 +0000

Sorry. I totally identified with Anonymous, and with ShiLoM's comment about "those freaks finding each other." I know what we're not and what we don't want (and couldn't even afford), and the process of figuring out who I am, who we are, and what we want and what we can afford is making me puke and cry and scream. Considering I'm also job-hunting and changing careers, the fact I adore my Freak is the only thing that makes this shit worth it. I never dreamed about weddings – I never thought I'd meet someone. But, now (miracle) that I'm about to get married I'm not going to do a half-assed job of it. And I insist that it will be fun. (irony intentional)

Anonymous – hand over that bottle, here's my flask.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:42:39 +0000

This post is how I feel most of the time.
I really want to get married, but don't want all the 'fluff' that comes along with a wedding.
A marriage to me is building a family, the rest is just extra.

By: TB

TB — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 19:33:07 +0000

Thanks so much for this post! With 4 months to go, I am getting so sick of hearing peoples opinions. What about other options?!?!