Comments on: Construction is always more difficult than demolition http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:07:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Whitney http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-59677 Whitney Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:28:34 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-59677 Very well put Ariel! Very well put Ariel!

]]> By: Nay http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-44615 Nay Fri, 05 Jun 2009 21:45:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-44615 I love this.... My Bow seams to be saying this exact thing. (I don't Want ... When all along I have been trying to explain to him that this is about us me and him no one ells lets bring us into our once in a life time memorable moment. I love this…. My Bow seams to be saying this exact thing. (I don't Want … When all along I have been trying to explain to him that this is about us me and him no one ells lets bring us into our once in a life time memorable moment.

]]> By: sushi http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-41972 sushi Sat, 02 May 2009 21:17:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-41972 great post! I never wanted a wedding - but my fiance and I talked it through and decided it would be meaningful to mark the event with family & friends. The easiest thing, by far, was to make a list of everything we didn't want. Then - the hard part - trying to figure out what we did want. Basically, we took the first list, and turned every negative into a positive. For example, "we don't want everyone stuck at a table watching us go through the motions" became "we want to create an event that focuses on our guests & encourages mingling." To make it happen, we decided to have multiple tables of themed hors d'oeuvres instead of a sit down dinner & open lounge style seating instead of place settings. But even once we had things like that figured out, it was harder to make it happen. No matter how "unique" a product they claim to deliver, wedding vendors are set up for cookie cutter results. It took months and months of research to find a seamstress who'd make a black dress, a caterer who'd deliver sushi, and a venue that would let us throw this party our way. 6 weeks to go, and my entire house is a happy DIY mess! but I am looking forward to an awesome party. :) great post!

I never wanted a wedding – but my fiance and I talked it through and decided it would be meaningful to mark the event with family & friends.

The easiest thing, by far, was to make a list of everything we didn't want.

Then – the hard part – trying to figure out what we did want.

Basically, we took the first list, and turned every negative into a positive. For example, "we don't want everyone stuck at a table watching us go through the motions" became "we want to create an event that focuses on our guests & encourages mingling." To make it happen, we decided to have multiple tables of themed hors d'oeuvres instead of a sit down dinner & open lounge style seating instead of place settings.

But even once we had things like that figured out, it was harder to make it happen. No matter how "unique" a product they claim to deliver, wedding vendors are set up for cookie cutter results. It took months and months of research to find a seamstress who'd make a black dress, a caterer who'd deliver sushi, and a venue that would let us throw this party our way.

6 weeks to go, and my entire house is a happy DIY mess! but I am looking forward to an awesome party. :)

]]> By: Cirocco http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40903 Cirocco Tue, 21 Apr 2009 16:19:35 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40903 Sorry. I totally identified with Anonymous, and with ShiLoM's comment about "those freaks finding each other." I know what we're not and what we don't want (and couldn't even afford), and the process of figuring out who I am, who we are, and what we want and what we can afford is making me puke and cry and scream. Considering I'm also job-hunting and changing careers, the fact I adore my Freak is the only thing that makes this shit worth it. I never dreamed about weddings - I never thought I'd meet someone. But, now (miracle) that I'm about to get married I'm not going to do a half-assed job of it. And I insist that it will be fun. (irony intentional) Anonymous - hand over that bottle, here's my flask. Sorry. I totally identified with Anonymous, and with ShiLoM's comment about "those freaks finding each other." I know what we're not and what we don't want (and couldn't even afford), and the process of figuring out who I am, who we are, and what we want and what we can afford is making me puke and cry and scream. Considering I'm also job-hunting and changing careers, the fact I adore my Freak is the only thing that makes this shit worth it. I never dreamed about weddings – I never thought I'd meet someone. But, now (miracle) that I'm about to get married I'm not going to do a half-assed job of it. And I insist that it will be fun. (irony intentional)

Anonymous – hand over that bottle, here's my flask.

]]> By: Jessica http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40248 Jessica Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:42:39 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40248 This post is how I feel most of the time. I really want to get married, but don't want all the 'fluff' that comes along with a wedding. A marriage to me is building a family, the rest is just extra. This post is how I feel most of the time.
I really want to get married, but don't want all the 'fluff' that comes along with a wedding.
A marriage to me is building a family, the rest is just extra.

]]> By: TB http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40146 TB Mon, 13 Apr 2009 19:33:07 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40146 Thanks so much for this post! With 4 months to go, I am getting so sick of hearing peoples opinions. What about other options?!?! Thanks so much for this post! With 4 months to go, I am getting so sick of hearing peoples opinions. What about other options?!?!

]]> By: Rebecca http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40137 Rebecca Mon, 13 Apr 2009 17:53:52 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40137 @ Anonymous: You are so welcome! :) I hope things are getting better for you... (and thanks, LM--this is one of the many reasons I love OBB) @ Anonymous:

You are so welcome! :) I hope things are getting better for you…

(and thanks, LM–this is one of the many reasons I love OBB)

]]> By: Lani http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40133 Lani Mon, 13 Apr 2009 16:40:49 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40133 Oooh...I just realized that my photo is in this post. I'm the bouncy bride. People get too hung up on what they don't want. I know I did. I didn't want the first dance, I didn't want the clinky glass thingy...and then I decided to start focusing on what I did want. And much like the poster of the rant, I definitly wanted cake. And candy. And fun! I got over the should and shouldn't and did what felt right. But I did keep family involved every step of the way and I valued their input (even though I didn't always take their advice). And it was the best day of my life...though I never thought I'd say that because it seems so cliche. But it was so much damn fun and I smile every time I think about it! :) Oooh…I just realized that my photo is in this post. I'm the bouncy bride.

People get too hung up on what they don't want. I know I did. I didn't want the first dance, I didn't want the clinky glass thingy…and then I decided to start focusing on what I did want. And much like the poster of the rant, I definitly wanted cake. And candy. And fun! I got over the should and shouldn't and did what felt right. But I did keep family involved every step of the way and I valued their input (even though I didn't always take their advice). And it was the best day of my life…though I never thought I'd say that because it seems so cliche. But it was so much damn fun and I smile every time I think about it! :)

]]> By: Lindsay http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40120 Lindsay Mon, 13 Apr 2009 13:34:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40120 For a minute, instead of "Crate & Barrel," I thought the original post said, "I don't want to be registered at Cracker Barrel." For a minute, instead of "Crate & Barrel," I thought the original post said, "I don't want to be registered at Cracker Barrel."

]]> By: Infamous http://offbeatbride.com/2009/04/construction/comment-page-2#comment-40092 Infamous Mon, 13 Apr 2009 06:28:31 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1975#comment-40092 P.S. And of course what should be obvious but I forgot to underline is that getting married is a privilege ...as is the opportunity to create a wedding celebration that is unique (and true) to you/your partner. I admire the couples who use their weddings to bring family together, share what's important with their guests through action (not just talk --like DIY/upcycled eco weddings, family reunion style, etc). P.S. And of course what should be obvious but I forgot to underline is that getting married is a privilege …as is the opportunity to create a wedding celebration that is unique (and true) to you/your partner. I admire the couples who use their weddings to bring family together, share what's important with their guests through action (not just talk –like DIY/upcycled eco weddings, family reunion style, etc).

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