Comments on: When to stop looking at wedding porn

By: Kellye

Kellye — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 00:20:19 +0000

I have been lurking here for awhile (several months) and I thought this post was amazing. No matter what wedsite I go to I feel attacked if I don't have my wedding a certain way. People always tell me online or irl that I am doing things wrong or I see something that I like and second guess my decisions. This was definitely something that I needed to hear (or read)

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By: Livvy

Livvy — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:20:07 +0000

That exact same thing happened to me about my dress. I decided to just step back from looking at wedding dresses because I started thinking I made a mistake. I did decide to bling out my gown a bit more and get some new accessories for it and now I'm 100% and won't look at dress sites.

I also know with my budget I won't be able to have the super fancy centerpieces and the huge ball room but I still get to have it in a beautiful place and with it just being family it will be better then some huge production.

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By: katnouveau

katnouveau — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 14:36:17 +0000

Yay. True. But is it still unhealthy if I just like looking at all the pretty pictures, and enjoying ordinary people who get dressed to the Nine's (or Thirteens?)?

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By: Offbeat Bride | More reader questions

Offbeat Bride | More reader questions — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:27:40 +0000

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By: Vicky

Vicky — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 19:20:27 +0000

I haven't read any of these comments, but I have to say I love this post. It's funny, I just today started going back and reading all the OBB posts and checking on the OBT after a looong hiatus, due mainly to the fact that we have a large chunk of our wedding planned, things are pretty settled at the moment, and I have no [i]reason[/i] to be looking around for ideas or help right now. I actually started to feel [i]bad[/i] for it, until I read this! It's SO true, we don't need to be constantly fawning over stuff from other people's weddings to make ours special!

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By: Holly

Holly — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 17:24:12 +0000

I must be honest, this keeps happening to me, but only with bridesmaids dresses (how many people flop on this? I'm curious.). I've gone through so many ideas it isn't funny. And I thought I'd settled on one recently, but now I like a new one.
Aside from that issue, though, most of it is just enjoying other people's weddings second-hand because I couldn't be there to celebrate the special occasion with them.

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By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 09:38:27 +0000

I must say that I am guilty of being a 4 dress bride and having bought 3 x dresses online. Although we never faulted on what kind of "style" we wanted for our wedding and what we were doing. We did have inevitable changes along the way.
As for being a 4 x dress bride…. well I live in a small city (less than 100 000 ppl) in the top end of Australia – far from any other dress shops other than the limited 3 or 4 traditional shops in town that charged an arm and a leg. I did buy 3 dresses online of which 2 were mistakes as they didnt suit my body shape and I guess I would know that if I had the opportunity to try them on first in a store – which I didnt. They are all completely different but ran with our theme. We had to ditch our handmade flowers and favours due to logistical issues (we drove 3500kms for our wedding) and change our function venue with less than 2 and a half weeks notice. Our entire wedding was organised online with hundreds of hours spent scouting websites for dresses, venues, florists, photographers etc etc etc.

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By: danger

danger — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 07:20:30 +0000

Squirrel – we're probably going to make a photobooth out of some fun fabric, a couple of crazy props, a chair, and *fingers crossed* a polaroid camera! (Though I'll be okay if we just go with digital.) You could even have your guests use disposable cameras to take fun posed shots in your homemade "photobooth."

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By: Squirrel

Squirrel — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 00:36:33 +0000

Everything anyone ever does – whether it's decorating their home, to a birthday party to your wedding. There are always going to be elements that you want but can't have. I've learnt that due to living where I live. while I'm in a capital city in Australia we are isolated and don't get to have access to many things people take for granted. For example I would have loved to have a photo booth at my wedding but due to where I live it is just not possible – no one hires them or has them at all. This is common with many things – dresses, shoes etc. It's the society we live in today, many people feel that they must have everything or people won't think much of them.

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By: QueenBee

QueenBee — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 06:09:49 +0000

My wedding was a year ago and I still love checking out OBB once in awhile! Thanks for making those points though Ariel, as it is just as easy to get sucked into the "why didn't I do THAT" routine as it is to try to incorporate stuff into an upcoming wedding. My single regret is that I did not find your website BEFORE I got married, as it would have made me feel better about insisting on a knee length 1950's bridal dress when everyone around me told me it wasn't traditional enough – and don't even get me started on the fact that I wore flowers in my hair and no veil! It would have been great to know there were so many fabulous OBB's out there.

And I still go gaga over the ornate hairstyles and creativity you display on the site- wedding porn is enjoyable for everyone!!!

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