Comments on: Reader Survey results http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:30:00 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jordan http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32915 Jordan Thu, 22 Jan 2009 05:03:27 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32915 I second the comment from the respondent who suggested an Ariel-penned "Offbeat life" book for women and girls. I would TOTALLY give that to my little sisters for their 16th birthdays. :-) I second the comment from the respondent who suggested an Ariel-penned "Offbeat life" book for women and girls. I would TOTALLY give that to my little sisters for their 16th birthdays.

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]]> By: Rachael http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32896 Rachael Thu, 22 Jan 2009 01:45:16 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32896 Thank you so much for the wonderful writing and the porn for all genders and sexualities. Hee. Hee. Personally, I am a straight girl who has struggled with the idea of matrimony. My "people" seem to have screwed it up royally, and I have had a hard time justifying participating in such an "exclusive" institution, even though I am set to this summer. I can't wait for the day when a wedding is just a wedding and a marriage is real, whether it's a bride and groom, a bride and bride, a groom and groom, or a bride who once was a groom and a groom who once was a bride. I really feel this site will have a big hand in making that happen. Thanks! Thank you so much for the wonderful writing and the porn for all genders and sexualities. Hee. Hee.
Personally, I am a straight girl who has struggled with the idea of matrimony. My "people" seem to have screwed it up royally, and I have had a hard time justifying participating in such an "exclusive" institution, even though I am set to this summer. I can't wait for the day when a wedding is just a wedding and a marriage is real, whether it's a bride and groom, a bride and bride, a groom and groom, or a bride who once was a groom and a groom who once was a bride. I really feel this site will have a big hand in making that happen. Thanks!

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]]> By: Eliza http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32890 Eliza Wed, 21 Jan 2009 23:54:18 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32890 Just wanted to echo what Kate said about offbeat grooms - it has taken my partner and I a long time to get to a place where we feel good about discussing engagement, because neither of us could stomach the thought of a "weddingy" wedding, like the ones we're frequently invited to. It's been much easier for me to get a sense of other options that we'd have, and how to do it in an "us" way, largely because of this site - thankyou!! But I'm not sure there'd be anywhere for him to go that would serve a similar function - I think he would see OBB and think it was largely focused on female aspects (even though I think it's quite balanced.) It would be great for Dre to do a guest post or two, maybe? Or something similar that we can show our offbeat-grooms-to-be so that they can get a sense of offbeat weddings from a guy perspective? [I recognise that lots of guys would be totally able to sift out or take on board the more feminine aspects of the thing, but I suspect mine - and many others - might not react that way.] Just wanted to echo what Kate said about offbeat grooms – it has taken my partner and I a long time to get to a place where we feel good about discussing engagement, because neither of us could stomach the thought of a "weddingy" wedding, like the ones we're frequently invited to. It's been much easier for me to get a sense of other options that we'd have, and how to do it in an "us" way, largely because of this site – thankyou!! But I'm not sure there'd be anywhere for him to go that would serve a similar function – I think he would see OBB and think it was largely focused on female aspects (even though I think it's quite balanced.) It would be great for Dre to do a guest post or two, maybe? Or something similar that we can show our offbeat-grooms-to-be so that they can get a sense of offbeat weddings from a guy perspective? [I recognise that lots of guys would be totally able to sift out or take on board the more feminine aspects of the thing, but I suspect mine - and many others - might not react that way.]

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]]> By: Kate http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32875 Kate Wed, 21 Jan 2009 21:55:12 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32875 I love this site. I really do. My one upgrade was to include more content for grooms. In our planning, it's my fiance who seems to be "groomzilla" and I'm way more laid back about the details. He feels wierd on most wedding sites though because most are clearly geared towards women. At one point I remember you noting that while you did receive contributions for lesbian weddings, you didn't often get them for gay weddings. I wonder if it's because grooms are put off by the "bride" in Offbeat Bride? Perhaps they don't realize that you are really supporting anyone of any gender involved with weddings? I'm not sure of the technical things needed to attract more of those readers though. Still - I can't wait to keep reading! I love this site. I really do. My one upgrade was to include more content for grooms. In our planning, it's my fiance who seems to be "groomzilla" and I'm way more laid back about the details. He feels wierd on most wedding sites though because most are clearly geared towards women.

At one point I remember you noting that while you did receive contributions for lesbian weddings, you didn't often get them for gay weddings. I wonder if it's because grooms are put off by the "bride" in Offbeat Bride? Perhaps they don't realize that you are really supporting anyone of any gender involved with weddings? I'm not sure of the technical things needed to attract more of those readers though.

Still – I can't wait to keep reading!

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]]> By: Ariel http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32867 Ariel Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:36:41 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32867 Kathryn, that exact thing exists: it's called the <a href="http://offbeatbride.ning.com" rel="nofollow">Offbeat Bride Tribe</a>. Kathryn, that exact thing exists: it's called the Offbeat Bride Tribe.

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]]> By: Kathryn McKinley http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32863 Kathryn McKinley Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:47:26 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32863 I didn't participate, sorry. :( But I wanted to let you know, I began following your website about over a year ago, while helping a friend find a cool plus size wedding gown. Ever since I have been addicted to the site, I love reading about how creative people are and still financially savvy. My only wish, now as someone who is looking at walking down the isle in the near future, is that I wish there was a forum section to talk to people about having alternative weddings, exchange ideas and thoughts. Otherwise, married or not. I plan on remaining an OBB Addict. Addicted always, -Kathryn I didn't participate, sorry. :(

But I wanted to let you know, I began following your website about over a year ago, while helping a friend find a cool plus size wedding gown. Ever since I have been addicted to the site, I love reading about how creative people are and still financially savvy.

My only wish, now as someone who is looking at walking down the isle in the near future, is that I wish there was a forum section to talk to people about having alternative weddings, exchange ideas and thoughts.

Otherwise, married or not. I plan on remaining an OBB Addict.

Addicted always,
-Kathryn

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]]> By: Mrs Marmalade http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32822 Mrs Marmalade Wed, 21 Jan 2009 09:50:43 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32822 Keep OBB queer! Pfft... silly people saying the gay thing is over the top - it's all weddings! It's all people loving each other! It's all 'porn' to look at! Who cares what dangly/non-dangly bits we have! :-) Keep OBB queer!
Pfft… silly people saying the gay thing is over the top – it's all weddings! It's all people loving each other! It's all 'porn' to look at! Who cares what dangly/non-dangly bits we have!

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]]> By: Annie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32806 Annie Wed, 21 Jan 2009 07:01:29 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32806 Ariel, I am one of your international readers from Berlin, Germany and although most of the weddings are American they are still over the top inspiring. I often spend quite some time to search for similar vendors in Germany. It's hard work at times, but it is also a lot of fun ;-) Thanks for all the inspiration and keep them coming! Ariel,
I am one of your international readers from Berlin, Germany and although most of the weddings are American they are still over the top inspiring.
I often spend quite some time to search for similar vendors in Germany. It's hard work at times, but it is also a lot of fun ;-)

Thanks for all the inspiration and keep them coming!

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]]> By: heather b. http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32805 heather b. Wed, 21 Jan 2009 07:00:47 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32805 no question mark necessary on the "thank you" part. that's an enthusiastic THANK YOU!!! no question mark necessary on the "thank you" part. that's an enthusiastic THANK YOU!!!

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]]> By: heather b. http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/reader-survey-results/comment-page-1#comment-32804 heather b. Wed, 21 Jan 2009 06:59:44 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1490#comment-32804 (coming out of the woodwork to say): i think i said this: "It feels so good to see people like me respected, validated, represented, and in love." & if i didn't, well, i'm glad someone else feels the same way. also, thank you for being so "over the top"? (do you think anyone would ever request that you not be over the top with straight weddings? honestly.) (coming out of the woodwork to say):
i think i said this: "It feels so good to see people like me respected, validated, represented, and in love." & if i didn't, well, i'm glad someone else feels the same way.

also, thank you for being so "over the top"?

(do you think anyone would ever request that you not be over the top with straight weddings? honestly.)

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