Naomi & Casey's punk rock Iowa wedding
The offbeat bride: Naomi
Her offbeat partner: Casey
Location & date of wedding: First Assembly Church Chapel in Cedar Rapids, IA. November 1, 2008
What made our wedding offbeat: For starters, I wore a black dress. It was actually a bridesmaid's dress, which made it tons cheaper.
Then, we did almost everything ourselves. I made our invitations on postcards. No real flowers — my bouquet was handmade from little christmas bulbs and tulle. Oh, and little white lights. Yes, it lit up!
Every tradition in weddings we pretty much went against. No unity candle, I stood on the 'wrong' side, my mom and dad walked me down, Casey had his parents walk him down.
There was no white was at our wedding — it was all black and bright blue.
My ring is a black onyx, and we had very few traditional pictures taken. They were all unique and fun and captured who we are. The wedding party walked down to Ratatat songs, and I walked down to the acoustic version of "Hey Ya" by Outkast. No wedding programs — we made a slideshow to introduce everyone.
I made all the confetti. I made tons of 3-D paper stars instead. I made my birdcage veil instead of a traditional veil. We had cupcakes and soda and blue popcorn instead of a full meal, since the wedding was at 7pm. We had Dance Dance Revolution at our reception, and a little photobooth as well. We also hooked up another video game station to play Smash Brothers or whatever they wanted to play. No formal dances. Nothing sappy about it. Just a fun time.
Our biggest challenge: The biggest problem for us was getting everything planned in such a a short amount of time without taking off any work. We had everything down, including pre-marriage counseling in three months. My family and Casey's family were pretty much expecting a crazy non-traditional wedding, so we didn't have too many people look down on us for the choices we made.
My favorite moment: My favorite moment of the whole event had to be all the comments and smiles people gave us after the ceremony. They all said it was a very refreshing wedding and very unique. Like nothing they've ever been to. I also loved knowing that everything was paid for and we had money left over in our pockets, and realizing just how punk rock and classy you can make a wedding with such little cash.
A few of my vendors: I got my dress and the girls' dresses at Brides and Weddings at Manchester, IA. They were great and made me feel so important and embraced my offbeat style. David's Bridal looked at me funny and embarrassed me.
I got our invitations printed at Nextdayflyers.com. they are SUPER cheap and great to work with. They called me on the phone and knew me by name.
Casey got his shoes custom made on the Converse website. I got my converse made there too. I wore them at the reception.
My offbeat advice: Go out and buy or rent books on how to make things yourself. Like your bouquet or centerpieces or your veil. Stay away from wedding shops, wedding floral shops, even the wedding aisles at stores. Anything with 'wedding' in the title jacks up the price ten times! You can find most everything you need in the craft aisles, in department stores, online, anywhere.
Be creative where you shop. I found my rhinestone pin that was in my birdcage veil at Goodwill.
DON'T USE CREDIT CARDS. Try making your own invites. Getting them printed online is a LOT cheaper than going to a printing place in your town or having a company design them.
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn: Click the cuties below to see the 200 amazing photos for Naomi & Casey's wedding:

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About Ariel Meadow Stallings
Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives, loves, and dorks out hard in Seattle, WA.







amber aka akaisha said
the pictures are amazing! wow, i love everything.
Loaf said
Awesome. CR is my hometown!
This is very cool.
CR said
You two are adorable. AND you've completely inspired me on how to create engagement photos and save-the-dates that are 100% true to my fiance and I.
Good going!
Jenny said
Love the shoes and the bouquet and LOVE the Thank You pic. What a fun wedding!
amb said
I LOVE your wedding! it looks like it was a lot of fun, and your personalities really shine through. And the pics are gorgeous!!
Jaimee said
Absolutely gorgeous….the perfect blend of elegant and edgy!
Roxanne said
I love the bouquet!! So awesome!
Kristen said
I love that first picture! The multicolored balloons with all black outfits is awesome and playful!
Sara said
I am LOVING your wedding! That bouquet was awesome… great idea for a non-floral bouquet!
shastina said
how fun?!
your colors are exactly what i'm looking to do for my july wedding! where did you find your groom's tie? love it.
amen for DIY brides!
Rozi said
I want DDR at my wedding to! I can ask my brother, since he has all the kit (dance mat, step mania etc.).
Sezzy said
Hazard said
"I also loved knowing that everything was paid for and we had money left over in our pockets, and realizing just how punk rock and classy you can make a wedding with such little cash."
Agreed!
Beautiful wedding!
b.rod said
Awewsome wedding, and may I say, one of the most drop-dead-gorgeous couples I've ever seen!
Amy said
I love it. Beautiful couple.
PS. Ariel, I have linked your book on my blog in my section called Reading List for Best books for Feminists.
Brandi said
Super cute!
Jennie said
I used to go to First Assembly when I was a kid! Congratulations on rawking out your wedding.
Karolynn said
I'm so glad to see another Offbeat Iowa Bride! Your wedding looks amazing. Congrats!
Naomi said
thanks for the comments guys. check out jbeyer.com for photographer ideas if you wanna.
the groom's ties were from the Brides and Wedding Shop in Manchester, IA. But they were ordered from a pretty popular magazine they vend with. I've seen them in other shops. (they're in a book where you can order the tuxes and stuff)…but i forget what the company is called. sorry.
Tash said
Such an awesome wedding! Maybe I haven't been browsing Offbeat long enough, but I've never seen a black wedding dress before – it looks amazing. What a cool day, you guys must've had the best fun. Aagh it just looks awesome!
Ariel said
Tash, here are shots of other black wedding dresses on offbeatbride!
essie said
looks like you had a great time! i love the little bow in your dress – it really makes it!
allison said
you have officially inspired me!!
my man and i are both previously married and each have done the big "white wedding" thing….we want something completely different, yet i was feeling nervous about it for some reason~ seeing how GORGEOUS your photos are assures me that unique and classy will go hand in hand for us too~~
Charity said
your pics are amazing.
I like what you did at your reception, my fiance and i have been throwing ideas around and we talked about setting up video games and such. lol.
Loved the dress
Tierney said
can I just say that your bouquet is AMAZING! and it's nice o see someone wearing their piercings at their wedding… I'm torn over whether to wear all of mine or not