Comments on: Proposing Part 1: Why you should propose to your boyfriend http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Fri, 19 Mar 2010 12:34:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jac http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-61510 Jac Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:19:03 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-61510 I proposed the FH. I did it totally by accident; we were just snuggling one day in bed and it popped out. We were both fairly anti-marriage so I have no idea why I said it, and he said no; he wanted to be with me forever but he didn't want to get married. We talked about it a couple of times over the next few weeks, and one morning he came home from an all-nighter feeling quite ecstatic (if you get my drift) and said it would be really nice to get married. I told him to wait until he'd sobered up and I'd ask him again; he did and I did and he said yes :) I then got him a ring and he got me a ring and I did the bended knee thing over a chip supper. Romance ain't dead, no siree. I proposed the FH. I did it totally by accident; we were just snuggling one day in bed and it popped out. We were both fairly anti-marriage so I have no idea why I said it, and he said no; he wanted to be with me forever but he didn't want to get married. We talked about it a couple of times over the next few weeks, and one morning he came home from an all-nighter feeling quite ecstatic (if you get my drift) and said it would be really nice to get married. I told him to wait until he'd sobered up and I'd ask him again; he did and I did and he said yes :) I then got him a ring and he got me a ring and I did the bended knee thing over a chip supper. Romance ain't dead, no siree.

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]]> By: rayna http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-61351 rayna Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:17:05 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-61351 great plate kinda reminds me of my experience with my fiancee in Chicago and i live in Oregon. we had been talking of marriage for awhile and i explained to him i do too. we are very happy together being a long distance relationship and in fact the very first one to be working. however he beat me to the punch line and proposed to me what a romeo and i aint no juilet..we decided to have a secret engagement ceromony while i am in Chicago this summer via Handfasting. i am so looking forward to it.. and we decided on celtic bands. What more of a birthday gift could i want..he is a great guy and we decided to be very off beat in our wedding too goin goth. . i say stay engaged a yr the least. great plate kinda reminds me of my experience with my fiancee in Chicago and i live in Oregon. we had been talking of marriage for awhile and i explained to him i do too. we are very happy together being a long distance relationship and in fact the very first one to be working. however he beat me to the punch line and proposed to me what a romeo and i aint no juilet..we decided to have a secret engagement ceromony while i am in Chicago this summer via Handfasting. i am so looking forward to it.. and we decided on celtic bands. What more of a birthday gift could i want..he is a great guy and we decided to be very off beat in our wedding too goin goth. . i say stay engaged a yr the least.

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]]> By: Little Red Lupine http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-60983 Little Red Lupine Sat, 27 Feb 2010 23:56:35 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-60983 My boyfriend is proposing to me. I am waiting, but in our relationship it makes sense. He has some trauma in his past that has made it hard for him to adjust to finally having an amazing girlfriend who adores him and would never attack him with scissors (true story, and the least of the things he's been attacked with by former girlfriends!). I have patiently given him time to accept our relationship, and it has been worth it every step of the way. We have had numerous conversations about getting married, and he started hinting last summer about proposing at some point in the future, when he was ready. I informed him then that when he asks, I will say, "Yes." His hinting has become less subtle, right down to his slipping and telling me most of his plan, mostly because he is so used to talking to me about things that in his excitement he forgot to keep it secret! He has since explained to me that proposing and choosing the ring is really important to him because it is his way of saying he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, have children with me, and telling me how important I am to him. There is no way I could step on his toes and propose! And as we met online and I initiated contact, kissed him first, said, "I love you first" (just like another poster!) it's his turn. I am quite certain that his plan has been given up in favour of proposing sooner. Neither of us is good at waiting! My side will be to find an earring for him that we both consider the "right" earring, although that will probably take longer than his proposal. But after reading the comments I may just propose back when we find that earring. My boyfriend is proposing to me. I am waiting, but in our relationship it makes sense. He has some trauma in his past that has made it hard for him to adjust to finally having an amazing girlfriend who adores him and would never attack him with scissors (true story, and the least of the things he's been attacked with by former girlfriends!). I have patiently given him time to accept our relationship, and it has been worth it every step of the way. We have had numerous conversations about getting married, and he started hinting last summer about proposing at some point in the future, when he was ready. I informed him then that when he asks, I will say, "Yes." His hinting has become less subtle, right down to his slipping and telling me most of his plan, mostly because he is so used to talking to me about things that in his excitement he forgot to keep it secret!

He has since explained to me that proposing and choosing the ring is really important to him because it is his way of saying he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, have children with me, and telling me how important I am to him. There is no way I could step on his toes and propose! And as we met online and I initiated contact, kissed him first, said, "I love you first" (just like another poster!) it's his turn.

I am quite certain that his plan has been given up in favour of proposing sooner. Neither of us is good at waiting! My side will be to find an earring for him that we both consider the "right" earring, although that will probably take longer than his proposal. But after reading the comments I may just propose back when we find that earring.

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]]> By: gertie8 http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-60578 gertie8 Fri, 19 Feb 2010 17:44:48 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-60578 although we haven't actually proposed to each other as yet, i've got a plan! My man really loves comic books and has just created the first issue if his own (aptly named Romance is Dead' ) so a couple of years ago I thought about creating a little comic of my own and have the last page a drawing of us with me popping the question - being a procrastinator (not because I didn't want to finish it but lots of other crafty thing got in the way!) this is still not finished! Although I'm not sure if I need to as he's hinted that he has also a plan... But we could take inspiration from some of these other comments and both of us could propose... although we haven't actually proposed to each other as yet, i've got a plan!

My man really loves comic books and has just created the first issue if his own (aptly named Romance is Dead' ) so a couple of years ago I thought about creating a little comic of my own and have the last page a drawing of us with me popping the question – being a procrastinator (not because I didn't want to finish it but lots of other crafty thing got in the way!) this is still not finished!
Although I'm not sure if I need to as he's hinted that he has also a plan…
But we could take inspiration from some of these other comments and both of us could propose…

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]]> By: sarah http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-60471 sarah Thu, 18 Feb 2010 21:53:26 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-60471 I proposed to Mark. Three months into our relationship, we were watching home movies and Mark looked at me and said, "I want to marry you someday. Do you want to be my wife?" I agreed but nothing came of it. A year and three months later, I stayed up all night and decorated our home with crayon pictures that I had spent months drawing. One said everything I loved about him and then asked "Mark, will you marry me?" He ran into the bedroom the next morning where I was still sleeping and woke me up and said "yes" about a million times. Two weeks later, he took me to the park where we ride our bikes and dropped down to one knee in front of this beautiful lake and presented me with the ring. It was kind of a fun way - we kept asking each other. I knew from the instant we met that he'd be my hubby. I proposed to Mark. Three months into our relationship, we were watching home movies and Mark looked at me and said, "I want to marry you someday. Do you want to be my wife?" I agreed but nothing came of it. A year and three months later, I stayed up all night and decorated our home with crayon pictures that I had spent months drawing. One said everything I loved about him and then asked "Mark, will you marry me?" He ran into the bedroom the next morning where I was still sleeping and woke me up and said "yes" about a million times. Two weeks later, he took me to the park where we ride our bikes and dropped down to one knee in front of this beautiful lake and presented me with the ring. It was kind of a fun way – we kept asking each other. I knew from the instant we met that he'd be my hubby.

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]]> By: brideofthesea http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-57472 brideofthesea Fri, 15 Jan 2010 15:08:24 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-57472 I proposed, too, and as someone else said before, I was so impatient that I just kind of did it on a random day instead of making any real solid plan. I proposed, too, and as someone else said before, I was so impatient that I just kind of did it on a random day instead of making any real solid plan.

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]]> By: jecibel http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-56484 jecibel Mon, 04 Jan 2010 03:02:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-56484 i proposed, kind of. conversation went from agreeing that we both want kids, and i'd kind of like to raise kids _with him_ to, let's make some kind of committment to each other re raising the kids, to let's have a big party celebrating it, and... a week or so later the word "wedding" was finally mentioned... two months later we bought each other rings... i proposed, kind of. conversation went from agreeing that we both want kids, and i'd kind of like to raise kids _with him_ to, let's make some kind of committment to each other re raising the kids, to let's have a big party celebrating it, and… a week or so later the word "wedding" was finally mentioned… two months later we bought each other rings…

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]]> By: tiara http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-56006 tiara Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:53:42 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-56006 ok i understand and i want to prpose to my boyfriend to buy my question is do i buy my ring and his or just his someone help me please ok i understand and i want to prpose to my boyfriend to buy my question is do i buy my ring and his or just his someone help me please

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]]> By: Greta http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-55571 Greta Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:08:52 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-55571 I also left the door open for him to buy me a ring if he likes, but I'm not putting pressure on him about it. This way he still has the opportunity to surprise me with a proposal if he feels like it. I also left the door open for him to buy me a ring if he likes, but I'm not putting pressure on him about it. This way he still has the opportunity to surprise me with a proposal if he feels like it.

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]]> By: Greta http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-3#comment-55569 Greta Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:06:42 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1498#comment-55569 In our case it made sense for me to propose, because my guy was always much more comfortable with the idea of marriage than I was, so he could never be sure if I'd say yes. He repeatedly told me as much. After waffling on the issue for about a year and practically deciding we WOULDN'T get married on principle, we bought a house together. At this point marriage was superfluous--it was quite clear neither of us was planning to go anywhere. With the pressure off, we could address the issue as a practical matter instead of an emotional one. When we began "joking" about engagement rings and weddings, I suspected we were both ready. When I stumbled upon the perfect location for a proposal, I knew the time had come for me to take the pressure off him and propose. Even though I planned the whole thing in one week, and it didn't go off exactly as planned, it turned out very nicely and I totally surprised him! His engagement "ring" is actually a dagger, since he's into swords, but it came with a matching ring if he ever feels like wearing it. In our case it made sense for me to propose, because my guy was always much more comfortable with the idea of marriage than I was, so he could never be sure if I'd say yes. He repeatedly told me as much. After waffling on the issue for about a year and practically deciding we WOULDN'T get married on principle, we bought a house together. At this point marriage was superfluous–it was quite clear neither of us was planning to go anywhere.

With the pressure off, we could address the issue as a practical matter instead of an emotional one. When we began "joking" about engagement rings and weddings, I suspected we were both ready. When I stumbled upon the perfect location for a proposal, I knew the time had come for me to take the pressure off him and propose. Even though I planned the whole thing in one week, and it didn't go off exactly as planned, it turned out very nicely and I totally surprised him! His engagement "ring" is actually a dagger, since he's into swords, but it came with a matching ring if he ever feels like wearing it.

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