Comments on: Proposing Part 2: How to propose to your boyfriend http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Sun, 12 Feb 2012 13:08:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Erin http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-1#comment-133503 Erin Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:40:15 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-133503 This is basically how it went for us. We talked about it a lot, decided that yes, we are both committed to getting married. We decided on a general timetable (a while from now - we're both still in school), worked things out in our mind, and announced it to the world. I don't think there needs to be a huge scene in the decision to get married. I'm more concerned that we love each other and are committed to spending the rest of our lives together, which is, of course, what really matters. Besides, it does take the gender inequality out of it - mutual decisions for the win! This is basically how it went for us. We talked about it a lot, decided that yes, we are both committed to getting married. We decided on a general timetable (a while from now – we're both still in school), worked things out in our mind, and announced it to the world. I don't think there needs to be a huge scene in the decision to get married. I'm more concerned that we love each other and are committed to spending the rest of our lives together, which is, of course, what really matters. Besides, it does take the gender inequality out of it – mutual decisions for the win!

]]> By: Freespyryt http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-123947 Freespyryt Sat, 19 Nov 2011 14:38:30 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-123947 Well I was also on the fence about this whole thing, but after reading all the comments, I've decided to go for it. Really the only thing holding me back was what other people would think, but who cares? We'll be happy. I was actually joking with him last week and asked "what would you do if I proposed to you?" and he said "Probably say yes?" We've talked about it before, and marriage, so I know we want to spend the rest of our lives together, but I'm a TOTAL romantic and grab life by the balls kind of girl and he's more reserved and logical. I know that he doesn't care for gender roles at all, so that won't be an issue. My plan is to buy him a ring with my fingerprint on it and lyrics from our song etched on the inside with a weighted companion cube ring box. I'm going to take him out to a nice dinner at a place we both love and then take him back home to cuddle and have a youtube video that I will play for him with our song playing and pictures of our memories and then have my computer camera turned on (hopefully he won't notice that part) and then after he's watched it, I'll get down on one knee and propose! Hopefully this will be done by February because I totally don't know if I can keep this inside much longer. Well I was also on the fence about this whole thing, but after reading all the comments, I've decided to go for it. Really the only thing holding me back was what other people would think, but who cares? We'll be happy. I was actually joking with him last week and asked "what would you do if I proposed to you?" and he said "Probably say yes?" We've talked about it before, and marriage, so I know we want to spend the rest of our lives together, but I'm a TOTAL romantic and grab life by the balls kind of girl and he's more reserved and logical. I know that he doesn't care for gender roles at all, so that won't be an issue. My plan is to buy him a ring with my fingerprint on it and lyrics from our song etched on the inside with a weighted companion cube ring box. I'm going to take him out to a nice dinner at a place we both love and then take him back home to cuddle and have a youtube video that I will play for him with our song playing and pictures of our memories and then have my computer camera turned on (hopefully he won't notice that part) and then after he's watched it, I'll get down on one knee and propose! Hopefully this will be done by February because I totally don't know if I can keep this inside much longer.

]]> By: corky http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-122910 corky Mon, 14 Nov 2011 14:07:38 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-122910 Hey, I was just wondering what you made the box out of? Hope you don't mind me nabbing this idea I just think it's so sweet perfect and quirky! :D xx Hey, I was just wondering what you made the box out of? Hope you don't mind me nabbing this idea I just think it's so sweet perfect and quirky! :D xx

]]> By: Claire http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-122203 Claire Tue, 08 Nov 2011 08:08:38 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-122203 I'm in the same boat! I want to propose but I really want a ring too! I've got a habit of buying myself things when I'm buying other people presents (I know it sounds selfish, but I pretty much never buy myself anything any other time) and Mr. always jokes about it. I'm a bit worried he'll think I'm greedy or something, or wreck the moment teasing me for getting myself a ring. I'm thinking that I'll get him a ring for the proposal but tell him I want a ring too. Tay you commented over a year ago, but I wish I knew what you decided on! And one last thing about the amount of time together - it doesn't matter! My partner and I have been together 7 years, but we got tattoos of eachother's names within the first couple of weeks of being together. We know it's forever, and I've never cared about a boring old wedding. Until now! I'm in the same boat! I want to propose but I really want a ring too! I've got a habit of buying myself things when I'm buying other people presents (I know it sounds selfish, but I pretty much never buy myself anything any other time) and Mr. always jokes about it. I'm a bit worried he'll think I'm greedy or something, or wreck the moment teasing me for getting myself a ring. I'm thinking that I'll get him a ring for the proposal but tell him I want a ring too.

Tay you commented over a year ago, but I wish I knew what you decided on!

And one last thing about the amount of time together – it doesn't matter! My partner and I have been together 7 years, but we got tattoos of eachother's names within the first couple of weeks of being together. We know it's forever, and I've never cared about a boring old wedding. Until now!

]]> By: Jasmine http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-107004 Jasmine Tue, 16 Aug 2011 05:09:51 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-107004 After reading this site about 2 months ago you ladies really inspired me so I proposed to my man! Thank you! Mine wasn't very fancy. I bought him a black titanium ring with a single diaond (manly and gorgeous) and I had been saving it for a few weeks pondering on how I'd propose and one Thursday afternoon I just knew I had to do it today. Nothing went according to plan though! I bought a cake and had the lady write "Will you Marry me?" on it, I rushed over to his house which is 2 hours from mine and I was going to decorate his apartment with candles and junk because he wasn't suppoed to be there but he WAS! SO I acted normal, we went grocery shopping together and had a midnight candlelit dinner of salad in our PJs on his patio. I cleared the dishes and came back out with the cake, the look on his face was priceless. I told him not to answer me yet, got on my knee, whipped out the ring (didn't fit) and gave him my speech but I was so nervous I forgot half of it and he said of course I will marry you. He was speechless! After reading this site about 2 months ago you ladies really inspired me so I proposed to my man! Thank you!

Mine wasn't very fancy. I bought him a black titanium ring with a single diaond (manly and gorgeous) and I had been saving it for a few weeks pondering on how I'd propose and one Thursday afternoon I just knew I had to do it today. Nothing went according to plan though! I bought a cake and had the lady write "Will you Marry me?" on it, I rushed over to his house which is 2 hours from mine and I was going to decorate his apartment with candles and junk because he wasn't suppoed to be there but he WAS! SO I acted normal, we went grocery shopping together and had a midnight candlelit dinner of salad in our PJs on his patio. I cleared the dishes and came back out with the cake, the look on his face was priceless. I told him not to answer me yet, got on my knee, whipped out the ring (didn't fit) and gave him my speech but I was so nervous I forgot half of it and he said of course I will marry you. He was speechless!

]]> By: Lisa http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-94242 Lisa Thu, 07 Apr 2011 18:42:27 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-94242 Well ladies, after reading all of your posts and stories I have decided to go ahead with my plans of proposing to the love of my life tonight. He and I have been together for a year but we both know that we are soul mates and that we have found the person that we are meant to be with. Wish me luck!!! I'll keep you posted as to the results. Well ladies, after reading all of your posts and stories I have decided to go ahead with my plans of proposing to the love of my life tonight. He and I have been together for a year but we both know that we are soul mates and that we have found the person that we are meant to be with. Wish me luck!!! I'll keep you posted as to the results.

]]> By: elizabeth http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-75009 elizabeth Mon, 30 Aug 2010 06:09:26 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-75009 So my boyfriend and I have known eachother since we were kids. We've been dating for a couple years. He's the one. I've known it since we were little. We've been talking "forever" recently, but no questions have been popped. I decided that I dont have to wait around for him to ask. This weekend were heading home for holiday and I'm going ask for his mother's blessing. I want the proposal to be really special though. He has a favorite sports team and I thought about buying tickets to a game and asking him there. Maybe even having "Will you Marry Me?" put up on the score board. But i kind of feel like its been done. ANy thoughts? So my boyfriend and I have known eachother since we were kids. We've been dating for a couple years. He's the one. I've known it since we were little. We've been talking "forever" recently, but no questions have been popped. I decided that I dont have to wait around for him to ask. This weekend were heading home for holiday and I'm going ask for his mother's blessing. I want the proposal to be really special though. He has a favorite sports team and I thought about buying tickets to a game and asking him there. Maybe even having "Will you Marry Me?" put up on the score board. But i kind of feel like its been done. ANy thoughts?

]]> By: Mika http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-74210 Mika Sun, 15 Aug 2010 20:02:40 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-74210 I just stumbled on this website via a discussion board- and I love it! I have been debating on proposing to my boyfriend. The few people I have ran this idea by aren't too fond of it, so I have been straddling the fence. After reading this and the comments, i realize that I don't care anymore- I am about to start planning :-) I just stumbled on this website via a discussion board- and I love it! I have been debating on proposing to my boyfriend. The few people I have ran this idea by aren't too fond of it, so I have been straddling the fence. After reading this and the comments, i realize that I don't care anymore- I am about to start planning :-)

]]> By: Tay http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-73374 Tay Sun, 01 Aug 2010 18:09:32 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-73374 I absolutely love this idea and I'm so glad there is a forum to share stories! My boyfriend and I are going on vacation with his immediate family in a few weeks. I think he might propose then, but if not, I'm going for it. I'm all for equality in the relationship and I have the feminist manifesto posted in our entryway, so I doubt he would be terribly surprised. I've even joked about it because my mother proposed to my father, I asked him out first, and two weeks ago his best friend told me if I like it, I should put a ring on it. So who knows! Here is one question: if I propose and get him a ring, is it weird to get one for myself too? I'd rather pull out two rings and put them on each other, instead of having it be a one way deal. Any thoughts, anyone? PS- Did I mention I love this website?? I didn't even want a wedding, but now I realize I just have to make it completely "us" and not be bothered with other people's expectations of conventional weddings. Thank you!! I absolutely love this idea and I'm so glad there is a forum to share stories! My boyfriend and I are going on vacation with his immediate family in a few weeks. I think he might propose then, but if not, I'm going for it. I'm all for equality in the relationship and I have the feminist manifesto posted in our entryway, so I doubt he would be terribly surprised. I've even joked about it because my mother proposed to my father, I asked him out first, and two weeks ago his best friend told me if I like it, I should put a ring on it. So who knows! Here is one question: if I propose and get him a ring, is it weird to get one for myself too? I'd rather pull out two rings and put them on each other, instead of having it be a one way deal. Any thoughts, anyone?

PS- Did I mention I love this website?? I didn't even want a wedding, but now I realize I just have to make it completely "us" and not be bothered with other people's expectations of conventional weddings. Thank you!!

]]> By: Roxi http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/how-to-propose-to-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2#comment-69282 Roxi Tue, 15 Jun 2010 17:25:23 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1499#comment-69282 I proposed to my boyfriend even though I KNEW he didn't care about weddings and all that fun stuff. I planned this almost 6 months ahead of time; trying to be secretive (Didn't work; he figured me out almost instantly) and on december 11th of 2009, I proposed to him in front of all his friends; I sang ''our'' song, and then told him every single stupid thing I liked about him and I didn't even get to say Will you... he had already said yes and everyone in the room (especially his guy friends) were crying. Probably the happiest day of my life up to now :) I'm glad I did it, and he's glad I did it too :) I proposed to my boyfriend even though I KNEW he didn't care about weddings and all that fun stuff. I planned this almost 6 months ahead of time; trying to be secretive (Didn't work; he figured me out almost instantly) and on december 11th of 2009, I proposed to him in front of all his friends; I sang "our" song, and then told him every single stupid thing I liked about him and I didn't even get to say Will you… he had already said yes and everyone in the room (especially his guy friends) were crying.

Probably the happiest day of my life up to now :) I'm glad I did it, and he's glad I did it too :)

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