Comments on: Copy 'n' paste conflict resolution (aka How to say "fuck off" and "I love you" and "this conversation is over" all at the same time) http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Fri, 25 May 2012 21:26:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jaimie http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-1#comment-94749 Jaimie Tue, 12 Apr 2011 01:04:11 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-94749 In that case, "No, thank you" is probably your best bet. Short, sweet and directly to the point. Like a sugar-covered dagger. In that case, "No, thank you" is probably your best bet. Short, sweet and directly to the point. Like a sugar-covered dagger.
]]> By: A http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-2#comment-82400 A Mon, 06 Dec 2010 04:12:39 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-82400 Regarding invites and finances: "I wish I could have you all there to celebrate with me, but unfortunately our budgetary constraints meant that we had to keep the guest list *really* small. I hope that we can celebrate together another time in a more affordable setting." Regarding invites and finances:
"I wish I could have you all there to celebrate with me, but unfortunately our budgetary constraints meant that we had to keep the guest list *really* small. I hope that we can celebrate together another time in a more affordable setting."
]]> By: D'lenn http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-3#comment-77165 D'lenn Mon, 11 Oct 2010 23:16:31 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-77165 The very simple, said quite airily. "oh we decided......." seemed to head off some snarky comments surprisingly well. The very simple, said quite airily.
"oh we decided……." seemed to head off some snarky comments surprisingly well.
]]> By: PurpleLily http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-1#comment-75166 PurpleLily Wed, 01 Sep 2010 23:33:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-75166 The same thing happened to me! I really wanted my bridesmaids to wear a dress that suited them and that they would wear again so I put across the idea of them just buying a blue dress that they liked, but they preferred the idea of me just chosing one dress that they could all buy and that would be "another thing out of the way". So I picked out an Ezibuy dress that I liked (and just happened to be on sale) and they're trying them on tomorrow:) I'm having difficulties with my parents and as they have generously offered to pay for a large percentage of our wedding it is really hard to stand up to them as I would normally do. My Mother thankfully loves my short 50s style dress with coloured petticoat but is very determined that other things are more traditional like flowers, table decorations, favours etc and my Father doesn't really like our reception venue. It just makes things a little stressful when it doesn't need to be. not only that but we are having arguments over our guest list as he wants to invite his friends which is fine but we are only inviting 60 guests and there are alot of friends that my FH and I would like to be there. All this on top of completing the last year of my law degree arrrggghhh! The same thing happened to me! I really wanted my bridesmaids to wear a dress that suited them and that they would wear again so I put across the idea of them just buying a blue dress that they liked, but they preferred the idea of me just chosing one dress that they could all buy and that would be "another thing out of the way". So I picked out an Ezibuy dress that I liked (and just happened to be on sale) and they're trying them on tomorrow:)

I'm having difficulties with my parents and as they have generously offered to pay for a large percentage of our wedding it is really hard to stand up to them as I would normally do. My Mother thankfully loves my short 50s style dress with coloured petticoat but is very determined that other things are more traditional like flowers, table decorations, favours etc and my Father doesn't really like our reception venue. It just makes things a little stressful when it doesn't need to be. not only that but we are having arguments over our guest list as he wants to invite his friends which is fine but we are only inviting 60 guests and there are alot of friends that my FH and I would like to be there. All this on top of completing the last year of my law degree arrrggghhh!

]]> By: Hollins91 http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-3#comment-64936 Hollins91 Sat, 10 Apr 2010 23:13:41 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-64936 great advice great advice
]]> By: Jo http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-3#comment-63937 Jo Mon, 05 Apr 2010 07:40:21 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-63937 Just say close friends and family are invited - I have been having friends of my mum and dad asking the same thing and it's like well it's our wedding not my mum and dad's Just say close friends and family are invited – I have been having friends of my mum and dad asking the same thing and it's like well it's our wedding not my mum and dad's
]]> By: HollyG http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-3#comment-63921 HollyG Mon, 05 Apr 2010 02:42:22 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-63921 How about an answer to a friend--who is NOT invited to the wedding--coming up to you at a social function and asking point-blank: "So am I invited?" Jesus! This has happened to us with three different people. Right out of the blue, out of nowhere. Sigh... How about an answer to a friend–who is NOT invited to the wedding–coming up to you at a social function and asking point-blank: "So am I invited?"

Jesus! This has happened to us with three different people. Right out of the blue, out of nowhere. Sigh…

]]> By: Savannah McArdle http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-3#comment-57950 Savannah McArdle Thu, 21 Jan 2010 06:00:37 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-57950 I need this! I'm a very shy and non-confrontational person and ! I already know that people are going to be very opinionated about my and my fiance's choice of a pirate themed wedding with a lot of non traditional elements. I'm afraid I'm going to have a hard time dealing with the inevitable criticism, but I want to stay strong because my love and I want this... I gotta work on not being such a wimp! I need this! I'm a very shy and non-confrontational person and ! I already know that people are going to be very opinionated about my and my fiance's choice of a pirate themed wedding with a lot of non traditional elements. I'm afraid I'm going to have a hard time dealing with the inevitable criticism, but I want to stay strong because my love and I want this… I gotta work on not being such a wimp!
]]> By: Leah http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-3#comment-54193 Leah Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:18:48 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-54193 Another good tactic is safety in numbers, H2b's gran was freeking out about his 'jokes' about my dad droping me off at the alter (we are *hopefully* having a church wedding) on his motorbike, whilst I was keeping a straight face and telling her this was indeed the case his cousins/aunt gathered round to support the idea and tell me how cool it was- overrulled gran! Another good tactic is safety in numbers, H2b's gran was freeking out about his 'jokes' about my dad droping me off at the alter (we are *hopefully* having a church wedding) on his motorbike,

whilst I was keeping a straight face and telling her this was indeed the case his cousins/aunt gathered round to support the idea and tell me how cool it was- overrulled gran!

]]> By: Kelly http://offbeatbride.com/2009/01/copy-n-paste-conflict-resolution/comment-page-2#comment-49150 Kelly Tue, 04 Aug 2009 01:40:22 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/?p=1527#comment-49150 Got engaged 4 days ago. Yep, 4 days. I've already been told that we can't get married in June or July because that won't work for one friend, that we can't get married in the park we want because it has sentimental value to another, that we can't get married the day we want because the trees won't have leaves yet, and that the dress I have picked out isn't cutting-edge-designery enough. Oh, and apparently I have to have a ton of bridesmaids and they all have to look alike. One friend's mom started researching venues and availability WITHOUT ASKING (I've met her 3 times). This post is going to save my life. Printing NOW. Got engaged 4 days ago. Yep, 4 days. I've already been told that we can't get married in June or July because that won't work for one friend, that we can't get married in the park we want because it has sentimental value to another, that we can't get married the day we want because the trees won't have leaves yet, and that the dress I have picked out isn't cutting-edge-designery enough. Oh, and apparently I have to have a ton of bridesmaids and they all have to look alike. One friend's mom started researching venues and availability WITHOUT ASKING (I've met her 3 times). This post is going to save my life. Printing NOW.
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