One of my favorite dress-makers in action!

The offbeat bride: Dawn Hajnos (Doula/Artist/Student Midwife)

Her offbeat partner: Jason Keil (Woodworker/Artist/Painter)

Location & date of wedding: Honeymoon Island State Park, Dunedin Fl & The Spirit of the Suwannee Music Park Live Oak, FL. Oct 9th and 13th 2007.

What made our wedding offbeat: Our wedding belonged to Us. We invited only our best friends who, thankfully are married to each other and our close family friend officiant. We got married in a tide pool at Honeymoon Island State Park in Dunedin Fl. After we said our vows the four of us island hopped along the gulf of mexico. Our plans were not popular with some of our friends and family but it was what we wanted and we refused to settle….It was the most relaxing loving, perfect day with NO stress.
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How cute are these gamer invites for Hope & Jeremy’s wedding?

It’s like pac-man, only with less ghosts and more love.

This is like the antithesis to those lame-ass “Game Over” tshirts. And goes great with that Mario Bros groom’s cake.

Ah, gamer luv!

(Thanks to hopemeng for the photo!)

When brides don’t squeal enough

My real name is Michelle Jennifer, but i grew up going by jennifer and then when i was 20-ish my friends started calling me Rainbo. My fiance’s parents don’t feel comfortable with the Rainbo thing, so they call me Michelle. So when sending out invites, do I do three separate designs, one for each name? If i just go with what most people call me, there will be a whole slew of peeps on my fiance’s side that won’t have a clue who that person is.

Dude, just include all of your names on the invitation, ie Michelle Jennifer “Rainbo” Smith. Or whatever your last name is. Easy! …Next!

If you’re in Philadelphia, check out this non-traditional wedding show

Remember mywedding.com? They were the offbeat monthly sponsor last August, and they’ve got a couple new features that y’all should know about:

1. Wedding invitations that match your website!
This is a feature that’s really starting to take off on the web, and with good reason. It’s nice to do one-stop visual aesthetic shopping, and mywedding.com’s got a great selection of non-froof designs for both web and invites.

2. Social network wedding registry!
Mywedding.com partnered with a Seattle start-up called Wishpot, which allows you to create a wedding registry that goes across stores all across the web. You can add items from any online retailer — and yes, that includes Etsy! Then, your Wishpot registry displays automagically on your mywedding.com free wedsite. (Here’s more about how Wishpot works.)

Head on over to mywedding.com and get started today on your free wedding website — and get in on some matching invites and cross-store gift registry.

I recently received some questions from a journalist for an article she’s writing about bridesmaids. I thought I’d include my answers here.

What do you think are some of the (perceived or actual) down sides of being a bridesmaid, and how can a forward-thinking bride avoid putting her maids through those experiences?

In the process of researching my book, I spoke to one former bridesmaid who’d been chastised by the bride for getting her shoulder-length hair cut into a bob before the wedding. The bride fuh-REAKED out, because now this one bridesmaid wouldn’t be able to have the pre-set bridemaid updo.

Brides and bridesmaids need to be well matched! If pre-ordained matching up-dos are important to you, then pick bridesmaids who are into meticulous aesthetics.

While this story is pretty fucked up, the thing it makes the most clear to me is that brides and bridesmaids need to be well matched! If, as a bride, things like pre-ordained matching up-dos are super insanely important to you, then pick bridesmaids who are into meticulous aesthetics.

I think it’s really important to have a discussion up-front about what the expectations are. Just ask the bride straight out what she wants and expects from you. If it doesn’t sound like your cup of tea, tell her you love her and would love to help with the wedding in some other way, but that you’re just not in the right headspace to be the bridesmaid she needs. No one’s to blame — it’s no one’s fault. You’re better off having this discussion be a little awkward than dealing with months (or years!) of stress around a wedding you don’t want to be in.

What are some of the things that make a bridesmaid’s experience a positive one?
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