Comments on: A little role reversal

By: Arachna

Arachna — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 17:53:02 +0000

People who play into antiquated gender roles almost never "see it" as doing so. I'm not necessarily saying the photographers are doing one or the other – but them not "seeing it" seems irrelevant to either judgment.

If the reasons you posit were the driving force – creativity, who is more comfortable etc. – what could explain that we never see photos like the above? Is it likely/possible than women are always more comfortable in front of a camera? And like you say considering concerns about getting the dress dirty – one would expect to see more pictures with the groom at her feet instead of 95% the bride at his feet.

No one is proposing that we let gender stereotypes get in the way of doing creative things. We are proposing that we don't let gender stereotypes prevent us from doing interesting things i.e. never let it occur to us to put the groom at the bride's feet. Going with "same old same old" is not very creative.

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By: Ariel

Ariel — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 14:50:09 +0000

HA! Jennifer, I actually featured that wedding (and that dress) last year ... Chaya (aka Daintycore) made most of my wedding dress.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 12:43:21 +0000

Ah, found them. Jennifer & Dan's wedding pics are here:

http://daintycore.com/atelier/…enwedding/

Her dress is pretty fabulous too.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 12:40:35 +0000

Lovely! I am trying to track down some photos online, but two friends of mine married six years ago or so and the groom also dyed his hair red to match her roses.

By: Diamond

Diamond — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 18:58:41 +0000

Got to confess I'd never seen the bride-at-the-groom's-feet pose before, but then I don't have a lot of married friends. Wow, is that creepy. The kneeling bride is creepy and the headless groom is creepy, both–dehumanizing x 2, anybody? I think if a photographer asked me to pose like that, I'd tell him to take a hike.

By: Nina

Nina — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 17:43:06 +0000

I've never quite gotten the bride at the groom's feet business.

The groom's hair goes so smashingly with her bouquet in this one that it's hard to imagine not taking this shot! And I like his sunglasses.

By: Cate

Cate — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 02:05:38 +0000

You know, I really don't mind who is at whose feet but to me it feels very wrong to cut off peoples heads (read faces there). It may make for a clever or arty shot but it seems to deny the humanity of the subjects. We are known by our faces not our knees and it is in the subtle expressions on our faces that we communicate to others

By: Craig

Craig — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 01:30:38 +0000

In all my weddings I've never shot a bride at the grooms feet… It always felt too weird… but I do like this role reversal though! Maybe I'll try it next time I get a bride with pink hair? I won't chop her head off though?

By: Alexzandra

Alexzandra — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 22:25:29 +0000

I think the photographer did a great job. The chairs in the middle of a field were cool, but too posey for me personally. I wish there was a facial shot of the bride with the groom at her feet. I have a thing for near groveling photos.