Non-matching bridesmaid dresses
I am an Auckland, New Zealand OBB and am thinking of asking my three brideswomen to just pick a dress they like (maybe within a colour scheme…?) I don’t think they have to be matching because they are all uniquely beautiful and hopefully will feel more comfortable in something that they have picked out themselves. Have you got any pics of non-matching brideswomens’ dresses? -Sabrina
This is actually a very popular choice among offbeat brides — encouraging bridesmaids to wear something that generally coordinates, but isn’t matchy-matchy. I’ve heard stories of some bridesmaids being uncomfortable with the idea (I guess freedom can be overwhelming?), but giving your brides dress liberation can be a great way to make sure that your ladies enjoy maximum awesomeness on your wedding day.
As for pictures — damn right I’ve got some!
Click each photo for more info. They’re all linked to their original sources.
(via Gwyneth Colleen Photography)
(Via Dingmoonment)
(via Offbeat Bride pool on Flickr)
(via Offbeat Bride pool on Flickr)
(via kvetch.indiebride)
(via If you’re a member of the OBT, there’s also this thread full of non-matching bridesmaid photos.
Comments
32 responses to this entryDomestiGal Jen
September 4th, 2008 · 8:09 AM · #YESSSSS! I have been thinking of doing different dresses for my bridesmaids but could barely find any other examples… I LOVE these. Perfect timing! Thank you!
Julia
September 4th, 2008 · 8:13 AM · #I wanted my bridesmaids (my sister and my best friend) to have non-matchy dresses…left it completely up to them. They picked the exact same dress in the same color : ) I mean, it is a beautiful dress, but I thought it was kind of funny that they ended up matchy after all.
blablover5
September 4th, 2008 · 8:20 AM · #Everyone always seems to floored when I tell them that my bridesmaids just picked some blue dresses out of their closest and are gonna wear those.
Jessica
September 4th, 2008 · 8:41 AM · #I love it! I’m planning on going this route with my maids.
BlueyJ
September 4th, 2008 · 8:59 AM · #This is what I wanted! But my BM’s wanted to match. O-kay!!!! At least we found something they both loved. All these girls look so lovely!
Sarah
September 4th, 2008 · 9:06 AM · #Great idea. One of my favorite brides just told her 3 best friends “Pick out a slammin’ dress and I’ll pick up the tab.” The bridesmaids were so happy and they made extra sure to help with every last detail thanks to the bride’s thoughfulness.
Brandi
September 4th, 2008 · 9:48 AM · #I did this for my girls. I just told them a general idea of what I wanted (black lace dresses, somewhere around knee to mid calf length) and let them pick whatever they wanted. They all looked amazing!! I did buy them all their jewelry, little gloves and made them hair doodads.. so they did have matching elements, but I certainly didn’t want to tell them to wear the same thing. Plus I had two pregnant bridesmaids.. so I just wanted them to have some freedom! Also the other perk is that they can control what they spend. I know that at least two of my girls spent less than 30 bucks, so that made me happy!
Here’s a (horrible)pic: http://www.auroraskye.com/photos/meandgirls.jpg
Rachel
September 4th, 2008 · 10:01 AM · #My girls are all wearing black dresses in whatever style they want! I told them that my only two rules were that it be tea length and that it is something they will wear again. That way they can get something within their own budget and be comfortable since they are all different body types.
jennifer
September 4th, 2008 · 10:14 AM · #when i thought i was having 2 BM, i told them to wear black because they both look good in it and would be able to wear it again, but now i’m down to 1 BM. i told her to wear whatever she wanted but she said that she liked my reasons for a black dress and is sticking with it.
katie
September 4th, 2008 · 10:26 AM · #i love this look, but i feel like it would be really hard to pull off. do the bm’s have to coordinate to make sure they aren’t totally clashing? or do you just tell them all to “buy a mostly green dress”?
Coin
September 4th, 2008 · 11:01 AM · #Those pictures are excellent! I’m doing this with my two bridesmaids because I wanted them to feel very comfortable and maybe even to be able to wear the dresses again. My only requirement was that they be a generally dark brown color.
For one of the bridesmaids, it worked perfectly. She’s happy and she’s planning on wearing her dress to her company Christmas party. Bridesmaid number two however has been a NIGHTMARE. She doesn’t like brown, she keeps trying to force the other bridesmaid to match w/ her because she thinks it’s “stupid ” if they “look patchwork”, she complains about wearing a dress and when I tell her she can wear a suit w/ skirt or pants she says she has to wear a dress. GAH!
I guess I’m just warning that this is a wonderful idea but not a panacea. If one of them wants to be difficult, they will still be difficult, no matter how nice you are.
swirlgrrrl
September 4th, 2008 · 12:36 PM · #i asked my best lady to wear a black dress of her choosing. she still wanted a bit of guidance though, so we went shopping together. she finally had it narrowed down to two great dresses, and asked me to choose which i liked. trying to remain un-bridezilla, i again asked her to choose. finally, she looked at me squarely and said, “pick a frickin’ dress,” and i did. so it was a collaborative effort!
katie
September 4th, 2008 · 12:46 PM · #Ya know, I tried to do this. And the girls rebelled and told me they didn’t want to have to think about what dress they were wearing. They just wanted me to pick. One of them actually cried. Not exactly what I was going for!
Sabrina
September 4th, 2008 · 1:41 PM · #Wow, thanks everyone for your comments and your pics (they are stunning!). Much appreciated
Jill
September 4th, 2008 · 3:36 PM · #yay! these are great. i was even anti color scheme/coordination to start with, but i’ve been coming around to suggesting a color and letting my girls go for it.
Elena
September 4th, 2008 · 3:38 PM · #I also asked my sisters to choose whatever dress they liked and they were really resistant. I think they are going to end up in the same dress. But no matter what, they are going to look beautiful!
Brooke
September 4th, 2008 · 4:55 PM · #Elena, I’m having the same problem with my sisters… two of them are trying to insist to the other two that they should all go to David’s Bridal together so that they can get them all in exactly the same color, and possibly even style.
darleene
September 4th, 2008 · 7:21 PM · #OHMYGOD, I wish I’d been given this option when I was a bridesmaid.
Kim
September 4th, 2008 · 11:22 PM · #A friend of mine did this — she mailed color cards (like the kinds you get for paint colors) to everyone in the wedding party and told them to find a dress in the general color scheme… I thought that was super smart. And it worked out beautifully!
kat
September 5th, 2008 · 2:45 AM · #we did this too - i wanted all my girlies to be as happy as me in their dresses! and what with them all being different shapes and sizes it just made sense for them to choose their own dress
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Kimberleee
September 5th, 2008 · 4:14 AM · #I am so excited to see these dresses all work out, especially since my wedding is in 22 days and I am planning for the same thing. The wedding is a beach wedding and the theme is tropical, so I asked all my bridesmaids to pick out a knee length cocktail dress in any bright color of their choosing. It was actually harder for them then if I had just told them to get a color and a dress, but, at least I know they have a dress they wanted.
Jessica
September 5th, 2008 · 12:13 PM · #I am going to be a bridesmaid this November, and I desperately wish the bride let us pick our own dresses. It just seems cruel to expect a gal with DDDs to go strapless.
Julia
September 5th, 2008 · 8:34 PM · #My girls all wore different styles & different colours… adding my pics to that thread right now!
Meg
September 7th, 2008 · 6:54 PM · #I’m getting married in November, and my two sisters are my bridal attendants. I didn’t want them to have to buy a dress that would make them uncomfortable and that they would never wear again. One sister is wearing a gray silk suit she already had, the other found a pink dress on clearance for $15! Also, rather than make the groom and his attendants rent tuxes, they are all wearing gray suits and we found matching ties for them to wear to coordinate the wedding colors, as well as the same color ribbon to put on the bouquets and corsages (which we’re doing DIY). I’ll send photos after the wedding!
Terra
September 8th, 2008 · 1:23 PM · #Amen to this– I think my favorite 4 words when being a bridesmaid are: “Choose your own dress”. My sister had us all wear black dresses (even though a July country wedding). They looked great! And don’t you want your best gals who stand up with you to feel beautiful, sexy and comfortable in what they are wearing? They should be enjoying themselves as well.
Plus from an aesthetic point of view, different dresses are just more interesting to look at.
Nancy
September 8th, 2008 · 2:45 PM · #This is an interesting blog. Those pictures are great!
Angie
September 8th, 2008 · 7:44 PM · #I told my ladies to wear whatever they want to wear… as long as they are comfortable and happy!
Melissa Grant
September 9th, 2008 · 7:02 PM · #I think there are so many great ideas here! My fiance and I are gettin’ hitched in either February or early March so we’re under the gun. The paint chip idea with varying colors of the same family is brilliant - I’m totally using that. We’re doing blues for our wedding color - any suggestions on flowers?
Miss Jess
September 10th, 2008 · 11:41 AM · #I told my two maids of honor to just pick out a vintage-styled red dress of any kind for themselves that they thought was hot tamale (and that they’d actually wear again), and we’ll go from there. They are perfectly happy with the idea, as am I! It works out VERY well because they have different body types and different taste - so they can have what they feel and look the best in!
Aspen
September 15th, 2008 · 1:15 PM · #My sister had us do that for her wedding and it looked lovely. She just told us which colors to wear (each of us had a different color). Her color scheme was TX Wildflowers, so I think it worked out.
BaseballBride
September 23rd, 2008 · 9:58 PM · #I totally tried to go this route but like others my Bridesmaids all wanted the same dress. I gave in and said fine, at least my MOH is wearing a different dress!
CNH
September 28th, 2008 · 3:07 AM · #Don’t know if this has been suggested already, but a friend of mine just got married and did a different version of this. She had each of her bridesmaids in the dress STYLE they had agreed on (her attendants ranged in body type from waif-like to plus-size), but the color was the same for all of them. I liked the combo, it wasn’t ridiculously cookie cutter identical, but not so out-there as to bother the rather traditional parentals.