Non-matching bridesmaid dresses
Posted by Ariel · Advice

YESSSSS! I have been thinking of doing different dresses for my bridesmaids but could barely find any other examples… I LOVE these. Perfect timing! Thank you!

Everyone always seems to floored when I tell them that my bridesmaids just picked some blue dresses out of their closest and are gonna wear those.

This is what I wanted! But my BM's wanted to match. O-kay!!!! At least we found something they both loved. All these girls look so lovely!

I did this for my girls. I just told them a general idea of what I wanted (black lace dresses, somewhere around knee to mid calf length) and let them pick whatever they wanted. They all looked amazing!! I did buy them all their jewelry, little gloves and made them hair doodads.. so they did have matching elements, but I certainly didn't want to tell them to wear the same thing. Plus I had two pregnant bridesmaids.. so I just wanted them to have some freedom! Also the other perk is that they can control what they spend. I know that at least two of my girls spent less than 30 bucks, so that made me happy!

Here's a (horrible)pic: http://www.auroraskye.com/photos/meandgirls.jpg

when i thought i was having 2 BM, i told them to wear black because they both look good in it and would be able to wear it again, but now i'm down to 1 BM. i told her to wear whatever she wanted but she said that she liked my reasons for a black dress and is sticking with it.

Those pictures are excellent! I'm doing this with my two bridesmaids because I wanted them to feel very comfortable and maybe even to be able to wear the dresses again. My only requirement was that they be a generally dark brown color.

For one of the bridesmaids, it worked perfectly. She's happy and she's planning on wearing her dress to her company Christmas party. Bridesmaid number two however has been a NIGHTMARE. She doesn't like brown, she keeps trying to force the other bridesmaid to match w/ her because she thinks it's "stupid " if they "look patchwork", she complains about wearing a dress and when I tell her she can wear a suit w/ skirt or pants she says she has to wear a dress. GAH!

I guess I'm just warning that this is a wonderful idea but not a panacea. If one of them wants to be difficult, they will still be difficult, no matter how nice you are.

Ya know, I tried to do this. And the girls rebelled and told me they didn't want to have to think about what dress they were wearing. They just wanted me to pick. One of them actually cried. Not exactly what I was going for!

yay! these are great. i was even anti color scheme/coordination to start with, but i've been coming around to suggesting a color and letting my girls go for it.

Elena, I'm having the same problem with my sisters… two of them are trying to insist to the other two that they should all go to David's Bridal together so that they can get them all in exactly the same color, and possibly even style.

A friend of mine did this — she mailed color cards (like the kinds you get for paint colors) to everyone in the wedding party and told them to find a dress in the general color scheme… I thought that was super smart. And it worked out beautifully!

I am so excited to see these dresses all work out, especially since my wedding is in 22 days and I am planning for the same thing. The wedding is a beach wedding and the theme is tropical, so I asked all my bridesmaids to pick out a knee length cocktail dress in any bright color of their choosing. It was actually harder for them then if I had just told them to get a color and a dress, but, at least I know they have a dress they wanted.

My girls all wore different styles & different colours… adding my pics to that thread right now!

Amen to this– I think my favorite 4 words when being a bridesmaid are: "Choose your own dress". My sister had us all wear black dresses (even though a July country wedding). They looked great! And don't you want your best gals who stand up with you to feel beautiful, sexy and comfortable in what they are wearing? They should be enjoying themselves as well.

Plus from an aesthetic point of view, different dresses are just more interesting to look at.

I told my ladies to wear whatever they want to wear… as long as they are comfortable and happy!

I told my two maids of honor to just pick out a vintage-styled red dress of any kind for themselves that they thought was hot tamale (and that they'd actually wear again), and we'll go from there. They are perfectly happy with the idea, as am I! It works out VERY well because they have different body types and different taste – so they can have what they feel and look the best in!

I totally tried to go this route but like others my Bridesmaids all wanted the same dress. I gave in and said fine, at least my MOH is wearing a different dress!

This is awesome. Ever since the sex and the city movie, i've been looking for non matching bridesmaid dresses. If you can add even more pics, that would be great. I need ideas ideas ideas.

My mom is a dressmaker and is therefore making all our dresses, each BM chose her our pattern, own style entirely. but all 3 dresses are being made in the same fabric. their all uniquely the same. it looks great.

So cute. Super cute. I think we will only have two attendants (one each), and both will be women (our sisters). I am thinking of this route because the fru fru matchy thing isn't for me, or the shopping (bleck). Thanks for the inspiration!!

i'm not engaged but always on here just checking it all out, trying to get ideas for if i ever get married since I want a healthy traditional/offbeat hybrid wedding.

ANYWAY… i've always thought about non-matchy matchy bridesmaid dresses and have always thought i'd outfit everyone in american apparel (BEFORE it became a trend beast) becuz its sweatshop free… anyway my point is, they have a lot of styles in the same color so u can pick a color and have different styles or vice versa, and they have new dresses with little tips on "how to wear it" so that people can style the same dress in many ways. and american apparel dresses are affordable and comfortable, can definitely be worn again… which i think is good for bridesmaids, i always feel bad seeing hideous dresses these poor ladies had to PAY for and cant wear again

My bridesmaids/maid of honor all wore indian Lehenga Choli, it was impossible to find ones that matched, as they were all unique. We had a color theme, and I took each one shopping until we found one that they liked, that I liked, and went somewhat with the color theme. We put the flower girl in simple gold which matched pretty well. It looked absolutely gorgeous! The dresses were red, yellow, orange/burgundy. I know a lot of my girls would have rather worn blue or black, and while I tried to make them happy, they did have to compromise on the color.

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