Comments on: Definition of "getting weddinged"

By: Linz

Linz — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 16:17:22 +0000

I met my fiance while he was studying abroad at my college, from England. The next year, I studied abroad at his school in England! We finally figured out that we're supposed to be more than friends, so he's moving here in a few months to be with me . we'll be signing the papers in december, but no 'big wedding' until next October! we're keeping it a secret from all but the closest family, people just dont seem to understand "why you'd need 2". lame!

By: sarah

sarah — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 20:28:59 +0000

Ok, so there are lots of philosophical things to say about choice and force… But it does seem to me like if, say, a boyfriend loses his job and needs health insurance for an expensive condition, and insurance is prohibitively expensive but without insurance he will go bankrupt from the cost of his treatments or go without treatments at his peril, and he can get insurance without going broke by marrying his girlfriend, they are pretty much being forced to get married. And before someone says this is a weird hypothetical situation, it's really not – lots of people in the USA need medications or treatments, and lots of people lack the insurance to pay for such things. Even if there is no existing illness, if the couple is even remotely contemplating a life together, it makes more sense to marry for insurance and risk having to divorce later than to have one person go without insurance and risk starting a marriage later under a tremendous cloud of debt caused by an accident or sudden illness.

By: Elle

Elle — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 11:22:06 +0000

No one is forcing anyone into these decisions. I don't think the idea is that if you want better benefits, you get married. The idea is that if two people have decided to get married…they get these benefits.

I really don't think it's right to jump into a marriage…which regardless of having different meanings to different faiths and a secular one…has love and commitment at its root.

But it is wrong to tell some people they can catch a break in recognition of them falling in line and getting married, while telling others that if those benefits are only for a certain class: the married class.

By: Elle

Elle — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 11:16:51 +0000

It might be helpful if members of that group could share some experiences on this thread… as the tribe is not open to everyone

By: Bee

Bee — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 23:55:33 +0000

I'm in a similar situation. My (now) husband and I were married at the SF Courthouse in October, almost one full year before our planned weddings in India and the USA. He is from India, and our immigration attorney strongly recommended that he get his Greencard paperwork filed before we got hitched in India. It's kind of weird, because it was just the two of us at the courthouse and we sometimes forget we are married. None of his peeps know we're legally married, but most of mine do. I am wishing I had kept it under wraps until the 'real' wedding in September 2010 – but I was too excited! I just feel a little cheated out of having the whole 'shebang' at once. I feel like we can't have a wedding, like we will have to call it a 'marriage celebration' or just a reception. At the same time, it's really made us analyze what makes a marriage – the legal, social, romantic, spiritual, familial commitments and all. The good news is at least I don't have to worry about us getting cold feet the nights before our 'weddings'!

The *great* irony is I was always very anti-wedding – until I met him and fell so in love. I always swore I would never get married, and now I'm having 3 marriages – to the same person!

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By: Elishia

Elishia — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 21:52:59 +0000

I love the website you set up.

Congratz on getting Weddinged!

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By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 07:18:13 +0000

i knew there were others out there, but i had no idea how many!
hubby/fiance and i met while he was here in the US on an F1 student visa. we got engaged in Dec, did some quick math, and realized by the time we got married his F1/OPT work permit would run out. so rather than get married and have him sitting around the apartment bored/driving me nuts waiting for his green card to go thru, we got married in february (allowing enough time to get a new work authorization before the old one ran out). we're getting weddinged in 10 days – 6 months and two days after getting married. when people look at me like im crazy, i shut them up with "he loves me enough to marry me twice".

By: Ariel

Ariel — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 22:10:14 +0000

Cate: …Welcome to the USA.