Comments on: Guestlist drama in Northwest Herald

By: Hannah

Hannah — Mon, 05 May 2008 03:20:06 +0000

I'm going through lots of drama with my guy's family right now. His grandmother thinks "her side of the family" is under-represented, meaning her long lost, out of state brother and his kids. These are distant relatives to my fiance. He never even met them until adulthood, and has only been in their company a handful of times. And did I mention invitations have been out for a month?
It's so hard, because I'm a control freak and I'm really angry that they'd pull what I see as a power play. But I also have to consider how standing our ground might hurt my guy's relationship with his grandparents.
I'm with Vanessa – we invited people we are close with, whether blood relations or not. I don't want to be bullied into opening up the guest list to random people when there are scores of non-invitees who are technically "closer" to us than these distant relatives. Rah! I think most offbeat peeps deal with this, because a lot of us want small, simple weddings that actually make sense (i.e. let's only invite who we like!)

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 00:43:02 +0000

we're getting married in a little less than 3 months, and made a rule that we were only inviting people who we actively love and who love us, and people we have seen in the last year (or at least made regular contact). It left big gaps in the whole family tree, my god parents aren't invited, either are some of my cousins. But I never seen them, they never contact me. Why should I have to pay for a family reunion?

By: ShiloM

ShiloM — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 15:55:28 +0000

Is it weird that I budgeted for 150 guests, and now including the +1's fall 20 short? I mean I really don't have this problem, and actually feel a little bummed that I don't have more people because looking at my list I can already tick off who won't come. (ungrateful family feuding) I just don't want my venue to look cavernous!