Comments on: Should we say "I do" early for health insurance?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 01:57:49 +0000

We did this, but now we are planning our wedding and have no idea what to do about the signing of the marriage license aspect. NO ONE knows other than our parents, and we are having a friend marry us, so he will expect to have to sign the certificate and my sister and his brother (maid of honor and best man) expect to sign as witnesses…but we have NOTHING for them to sign because we are already married!! We didn't think of this aspect and we aren't sure what to do about it. Any suggestions?

By: Lyn

Lyn — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 04:32:00 +0000

I have been secretly married for over a year, and our wedding is this summer. My parents know, but his do not. He did not have insurance, so we are now covered on mine. Its a sad that only some people have the luxury of having health insurance and we have to do things like this. It is however a fun little secret, and we call each other husband and wife when we're alone. I say go for it!

By: laura

laura — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 09:33:48 +0000

We have to do our taxes separately, our financial aid separately, our insurance separately. How to get pregnant

By: sherrie

sherrie — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 16:23:13 +0000

I am not thrilled about this idea but it is her life, I also married young at 20 (my highschool sweetheart) and have been for over 22 years, so I know that marriages can last – divorce rate in my family is very low -out 6 brothers and sister only one.
I have no problem with the engagment but the part that is killing me ths is my daughter, and not what I pictured her wedding to be, but the biggest part is we are a very close family – and thought of keeping this all a secret seems wrong.
Am I wrong? they have said that they do not look at this as their wedding but as a legal matter.

By: sherrie

sherrie — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 16:22:52 +0000

my daughter (21) is about to marry her boyfriend of 3.5 years (highschool sweetheart -and friends even longer) secretly with a beautiful quiant beach ceremony – for the purpose to keep him in the country. He is a very bright wonderful youngman who happened to be in a bad situation – no fault of his own (parents made a mistake with papers -he has been in this country for over 15 years). These two kids do love eachother and planned on marrying but after college, maybe at 24. Those that are included with the ceremony the parents and their siblings, they are planning to announce an engaggement to the rest of the world the same weekend and proceed with a long engagment, and have the tradional wedding as palnned.

By: Lynnette A

Lynnette A — Wed, 06 May 2009 22:24:50 +0000

If your health insurance accepts domestic partners then you can be domestic partners until you are married. It's not just for gay people

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By: Lauren

Lauren — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 04:16:08 +0000

It is precisely that reason that I get to refer to my significant other as my husband when we're ALONE. We got hitched over Christmas because my Cobra benefits were obscene and he was entering an occupation with exceptional healthcare for dependents. We're doing the whole "shindig" for the friends and family later this year. It's kind of neat to have this little secret that only we know. But is it weird that I found it more romantic that he propose we get married so I could have insurance than when he surprised me with flowers?

By: Katie

Katie — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 06:45:15 +0000

I can understand that you need to get married for financial reasons and that you don't want to spoil the surprise for certain people (namely your parents). What if something slips? Honesty is always best, so why not compromise? Have the civil ceremony with M&D and then have a reenactment of the wedding (or renew your vows) with the big party you've always wanted.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 04:29:49 +0000

Okay, I feel really good to know I am not the only person in this situation! My boyfriend of 7 years has great health insurance, and it would be free to add me on. We want to get married, but due to financial reasons and time we have to wait. I wanted to know if you sign the documents at the courthouse, what happens at the ceremony? Can this really be done without ANYONE knowing? Would they still read you your vows and everything official?