Comments on: People know me by different names — what do I put on the invite?

By: Tricia

Tricia — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 04:21:27 +0000

My guess is as long as you include your last name on the invites, your guests will know who you are talking about

By: lulu

lulu — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 17:38:22 +0000

Yep, I've mostly been using Lulu – the name my sweetie and half of my friends know me by. I've also used Lulu as my middle name with my given name. But just about everyone knows me by my unofficial last name, so that's been the key to the mystery of me.

By: kendall

kendall — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 07:06:24 +0000

I'm genderqueer and I have 3 names, the name I get most often, the name I get on government forms, and the name I choose when I'm in a queerfriendly space and get to have a real choice in the matter… My fiancee to be [we're getting married, but I haven't got rings yet, but we've picked out the rings] she worries that when we do our vows she won't know who she's talking to, she's never once called me my legal name…I only call her legal name…so it's a slippery slope, also it looks like the wedding will be more older relatives than our hip young friends, so I'm looking at female pronouns and my proper name, gag.

My name is Katelyn but I go by Kater and Kenny most often…oh the internet

By: Celishia

Celishia — Thu, 15 May 2008 18:00:42 +0000

My name is Celishia, but one side of my family calls me Cilly and family friends do too. My finance's name is Mike but ALL his friends call him Norm and have for 18 years. The front of our invitation says Michael & Celishia and all the formal stuff, but flip it over and it says Norm & Cilly are getting married! and gives more detail. As one bride said, names have power and we both like our names!

By: Cyn

Cyn — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 22:12:33 +0000

My full name is Lucinda (barf!) but everyone knows me as Cyndy. My invite has my full name on it (eeewww), but I did an outer tag that has Cyndy & Jeff on it.

By: ame

ame — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 20:45:57 +0000

my friend who's doing our invitations came up with an awesome combination (without even me telling her i was struggling with the idea!). the invite is a brochure-like format, held together with a sleeve. when you pull the sleeve off (before you open the invite) it says my better known, informal name. on the inside where the official invitation is, it says my given, more formal name. yay!

By: Brady

Brady — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:28:08 +0000

I changed my name as I entered adulthood (and this is something I struggle with as I discuss future last names with my partner).

I split the hyphenated last name of my youth into a first and last name and am quite happy with the result.

I have successfully abandoned my first name (only relatives who know my lineage instead of my first name know me by it).

My marriage invitations will include my chosen name.

That, along with the names of my parents, will certainly clue my further relatives in as to my identity.

And any future relatives/friends will know me as I like best to be called.

Names have power.

Here's just another suggestion.

By: Yoko

Yoko — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 21:03:30 +0000

My given name is Emily, which I went by until college when I started going by Emma. Literally half the ppl in my life know me as one and half as the other. For our invites the top line said "Cory & Emma are geting married!" followed by my awesome handmade flower stamp:) then Emily — & Cory — requested your presence…blah, blah, blah. Worked perfectly for us!

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 10:55:04 +0000

I think I will also be doing something like this! Given that most people don't know my middle name, and fewer still call me by it, I opted to drop my middle name for my nickname in quotations.

By: Jaymie

Jaymie — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 07:10:52 +0000

So "to the point." This is why we love Ariel <3