Raina & Mike's library wedding
Remember Raina, the autumn bride who wore her mom's dress? Here's the full scoop on her library wedding!
The offbeat bride: Raina, Graphic Designer
Her offbeat groom: Mike, freelance photographer and TV production guy
Location & date of wedding: The Clayville town library in Clayville, NY
What made our wedding offbeat: We really wanted to save a lot of money and keep it simple, simple, SIMPLE! We only had seven people at the ceremony besides the two of us.
We did it at the tiny library in the town I grew up in. It was perfect because it was so small on the inside, and it happed to be a church at one point which lent itself to the layout of the ceremony well. We didn't have a religious ceremony but it was kind of cute to be in an old church turned library (and my job involves designing book jackets, so it was extra special!).
… We spent literally under 600 dollars on EVERYTHING!
We spent the tiniest fraction of money you can on a wedding — we did this because we live in Brooklyn (high rent!) and our parents didn't have money to give us so we knew we just had to be creative. The first step was to cut out guests and the whole idea of a reception.


Our biggest challenge: Our biggest challenge was dealing with all of the family drama that came along with not inviting my grandmother, and our aunts and uncles and cousins. We had to hear a lot of snide remarks, and people being hurt that we didn't invite them! Our friends all understood — it's so hard to be young and live in such an expensive city, so they were just happy that we were doing it OUR way. Family, however, just didn't understand why we weren't doing this huge, 200 guest shindig. I just have NEVER wanted that, or the stress that comes with it.



My offbeat advice: Do what YOU want!!! I feel like I always read this advice on offbeat bride, but it's so, so important. If you want a small wedding, find a way! If you want a huge one, find a way! Make a budget, too. If it's 500 dollars, trust me, you can do it. If you want a huge wedding, that's fine, just plan out exactly what your vision is before you go forward. You can do it!
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/miketurz/sets/72157602806556677/show/
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About Ariel Meadow Stallings
Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives, loves, and dorks out hard in Seattle, WA.








Jennifer said
Beautiful. Just beautiful. I love the library aisle!
I particularly enjoyed reading about you having your father walk you down the aisle. I don't agree with the whole 'giving my daughter away' thing either… I'm my own woman, but I am looking forward to that walk as I know my Dad really, really is too.
Steph said
This is beautiful, beautiful! I am a librarian, and would love to get married in a library! Congratulations on keeping to your vision, and on a lovely day!
tania said
I am giddy with envy (if that's possible!). What a beautiful, unique, amazing setting. Congratulations on a beautiful wedding and your marriage.
Jillian said
Absolutely gorgeous! My mum worked in a library when I was younger so I love hanging out in libraries. Plus, how adorable are you and your dad? Bravo!
michelle said
omg, i love this! now i wanna get married just so i can have a buncha books present.
Liene said
so beautiful!
Raina said
Thank you all for your comments and compliments! I'm so glad you all enjoyed the photos!!
Jody said
Absolutely amazing. I love the simplicity and the love that is evident between the two. The fall scenery is breath-taking. I love everything about it.
lisa said
Very pretty
Do you have a close up picture of the back of your hair? I love it!
Raina said
Hi Lisa! I don't have one really — but if you look at the image full size you can get a better idea of how it looked.
cyndilee said
I loved your wedding and the pictures are great as well! I agree anyone can get married anywhere (well almost everywhere)and yes a wedding under 600 is possible! I did my second wedding for under 300 including a hand made wedding gown!and a light refreshment at the reception!. So it can be done! congrats to bride n groom!
Audrey said
This was such an encouraging story. I'm going to have to deal with members of family complaining that they wont be invited with lots of gossip to follow! It's stressful to even consider but it's great to read that it's been done before! Congrats on your marriage and sticking with what you really wanted on your special day!
Jasmine said
So beautiful and simple!
Lauren said
I love the idea of getting married in a library; how incredibly romantic is that? The bride also looks like a vision; I wish I could steal her dress. Swoon!
The one part I respectfully disagree with is the idea that you have to either a) not invite grandma or b) have a 200 person wedding. Although I totally understand the terror being sucked into some massive event as soon as you start relenting on your guest list etc, there are happy mediums you can find that will keep you and your family (more or less) happy. After all, it is their day too!
For example, doing a tiny wedding and a slightly larger pot-luck/picnic reception for immediate family is a great option for brides who want to keep things small, low cost and keep their fams happy! Or doing a tea after the honeymoon with immediate family at your grandparents or parents house. It's worth thinking about low-key options like this, especially if people are really going to get hurt by not being included in some way (and who wants to start their married life off to drama and bad feeling?).
Anyways, just my minor opinion! LOVE this wedding!
Raina said
Hey Lauren! I do totally get what you're saying. My mother in law actually threw us a little family picnic a few months later (really simple, just immediate family and an afternoon in the back yard) and it was nice to get to see some other family members we might not have seen otherwise. Not what I wanted, but since it was so important to my MIL, I let her throw it and we had a nice, low-key afternoon so everyone could feel involved. My family, on the other hand, has had more than their share of giant weddings and family events, so they were more than OK with not having ANOTHER event to attend! To each their own
Raina said
Oh! One more teeny thing, we DID in fact invite my Grandmother (who was our only living grandparent between the two of us at the time, and has since passed away), but she was ill and didn't feel up to it. When I wrote this I should have clarified that we didn't NOT invite here, she just did not attend.
Pink said
omg how romantic! not to mention your celebrity "guests" like dickinson, poe, twain, thoreau, etc… awesome!!
Raina said
Thank you!! Can we also mention that Harry Potter was in attendance?
babysmalls said
The dress. I loves it.
Katie said
Your pictures are lovely. They appeal to me for so many reasons. For one reason, I lived at Frost Valley YMCA in Claryville NY for 2.5 years, and I never even knew Claryville had a library. I would always go to the Grahamsville library. I also like the way you kept it small.
Ewelina said
your wedding makes me cry
It's gorgeous and unconventional and romantic
Carolina said
I LOVE your dress! Your mom had great taste!