Comments on: Not so offbeat after all http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Fri, 25 May 2012 09:38:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Katy http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-62933 Katy Thu, 25 Mar 2010 15:34:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-62933 Sorry for commenting on an old post but I just had to say that website is the one that drove me here and reading that thread has reminded me why! So many pronouncements on what everyone 'must' do to have...not even a good wedding but just an acceptable one that won't leave all their guests totally disgusted at what horrible people they are. And so much of it is stuff I either would hate doing (and thinking clearly know my family and friends would hate as well) or could never in a million years afford. Attempting to follow their rules was seriously making me paranoid before I found places like here and Indiebride offering a much saner perspective! (I also love the assumption that no one could ever be inconvinienced or forced to pay out to attend a formal wedding, no matter how formal, but as soon as you're doing something non-traditional it's a problem for your guests, even if you're asking them to wear whatever they like.) Sorry for commenting on an old post but I just had to say that website is the one that drove me here and reading that thread has reminded me why! So many pronouncements on what everyone 'must' do to have…not even a good wedding but just an acceptable one that won't leave all their guests totally disgusted at what horrible people they are. And so much of it is stuff I either would hate doing (and thinking clearly know my family and friends would hate as well) or could never in a million years afford.
Attempting to follow their rules was seriously making me paranoid before I found places like here and Indiebride offering a much saner perspective!

(I also love the assumption that no one could ever be inconvinienced or forced to pay out to attend a formal wedding, no matter how formal, but as soon as you're doing something non-traditional it's a problem for your guests, even if you're asking them to wear whatever they like.)

]]> By: Jasmine http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-4745 Jasmine Sat, 05 Jan 2008 23:51:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-4745 I actually started that thread to get a read on how more 'conservative' relatives may see things. Some things I didn't think would be a problem were a HUGE issue with these folks. I actually started that thread to get a read on how more 'conservative' relatives may see things. Some things I didn't think would be a problem were a HUGE issue with these folks.
]]> By: cat http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-4352 cat Wed, 19 Dec 2007 04:01:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-4352 ~sighs~ they need to read your book, ariel. :) ~sighs~ they need to read your book, ariel. :)
]]> By: Lily http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-4321 Lily Tue, 18 Dec 2007 00:59:28 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-4321 Amen Zan! I can feel when I start drifting in the direction of full out bitch bride. I've found the easiest way to regin myself in is to remember "fun not perfect." Fun for me, fun for him, and fun for everyone involved, not only on the day, but also leading up to it! There was also a discussion about this on the Tribe site in relation to <a href="http://offbeatbride.ning.com/forum/topic/show?id=1190964%3ATopic%3A25346" title="it's so trendy being Green...." rel="nofollow">green weddings.</a> Amen Zan!

I can feel when I start drifting in the direction of full out bitch bride. I've found the easiest way to regin myself in is to remember "fun not perfect." Fun for me, fun for him, and fun for everyone involved, not only on the day, but also leading up to it!

There was also a discussion about this on the Tribe site in relation to green weddings.

]]> By: zan http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-4311 zan Mon, 17 Dec 2007 18:34:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-4311 Who says being a bride does not mean your are not a bitch? Whether you are a bitch with a mohawk or a bitch with a Jennifer Aniston haircut, you are still what you are, and planning a wedding will bring it out in full force. Like Ariel said in her book, remember that you are outnumbered and you have to deal with these people after the wedding. Who says being a bride does not mean your are not a bitch? Whether you are a bitch with a mohawk or a bitch with a Jennifer Aniston haircut, you are still what you are, and planning a wedding will bring it out in full force. Like Ariel said in her book, remember that you are outnumbered and you have to deal with these people after the wedding.
]]> By: Ariel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-4309 Ariel Mon, 17 Dec 2007 18:22:13 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-4309 Oh, I totally agree that the rest of the thread is a complete waste of time. But this one particular quote is a good one, and worth taking to heart. Oh, I totally agree that the rest of the thread is a complete waste of time. But this one particular quote is a good one, and worth taking to heart.
]]> By: Rachel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all/comment-page-1#comment-4308 Rachel Mon, 17 Dec 2007 18:12:18 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/not-so-offbeat-after-all#comment-4308 I read the rest of the thread and kind of wished I hadn't. While some of what they said made sense (make costumes optional for guests)I also thought they were being "judgey" and closeminded about weddings. Who says that a reception has to be any different from a normal get together with friends and family where it's potluck? BTW, I'm not having a potluck (don't trust a lot of our guests to bring edible food - cooking is not a strength of many), but I don't see anything wrong with it. I read the rest of the thread and kind of wished I hadn't. While some of what they said made sense (make costumes optional for guests)I also thought they were being "judgey" and closeminded about weddings. Who says that a reception has to be any different from a normal get together with friends and family where it's potluck? BTW, I'm not having a potluck (don't trust a lot of our guests to bring edible food – cooking is not a strength of many), but I don't see anything wrong with it.
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