Comments on: Why I'm not into Trash The Dress http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Fri, 25 May 2012 05:31:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Valerie http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-52184 Valerie Wed, 07 Oct 2009 02:20:38 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-52184 My husband and I have our own way of trashing my wedding dress. Although nothing really bad has happened to the dress except that it got wrinkled in some areas. But anyways we play dress up, I mean I wear my wedding dress in the privacy of our home and my husband takes me down like a rabbit while I'm wearing my wedding dress. It's really hot cause the whole thing kinda re-lives the moment right after our wedding when he finally had our first private time. We only do it when the timing is ideal like when I'm in the mood and my husband is also in the mood. Works great eveyrtime so far. We both love the dress and looking forward to buying a used one to be used by us just for this purpose. Kinda kinky but definitely rewarding. Destryoing the dress is traumatizing for us unless that dress is ugly. But even then, we don't want to. My husband and I have our own way of trashing my wedding dress. Although nothing really bad has happened to the dress except that it got wrinkled in some areas. But anyways we play dress up, I mean I wear my wedding dress in the privacy of our home and my husband takes me down like a rabbit while I'm wearing my wedding dress. It's really hot cause the whole thing kinda re-lives the moment right after our wedding when he finally had our first private time. We only do it when the timing is ideal like when I'm in the mood and my husband is also in the mood. Works great eveyrtime so far. We both love the dress and looking forward to buying a used one to be used by us just for this purpose. Kinda kinky but definitely rewarding. Destryoing the dress is traumatizing for us unless that dress is ugly. But even then, we don't want to.
]]> By: Jeanine Larosa http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-51580 Jeanine Larosa Mon, 21 Sep 2009 02:14:46 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-51580 OK so i've been reading for a WHILE and i get why the non love for TTD. But as a TTD joiner i have to say i loved my shoot i got some friends together for a weekend away at a rental house with a great lake and train tracks and i jumped in the water and we got amazing shots. Didnt cost me a dime and now i have an amazing shot of me lying in lake clear that reminds me of friends and fun. my dress survived and is back in its special bag awaiting the daughter, niece, grandaughter that one day MIGHT want it but i tell you now if i loose this baby weight and get back in that bad ass gown i'll grab the tequilla and do it again! OK so i've been reading for a WHILE and i get why the non love for TTD. But as a TTD joiner i have to say i loved my shoot i got some friends together for a weekend away at a rental house with a great lake and train tracks and i jumped in the water and we got amazing shots. Didnt cost me a dime and now i have an amazing shot of me lying in lake clear that reminds me of friends and fun. my dress survived and is back in its special bag awaiting the daughter, niece, grandaughter that one day MIGHT want it but i tell you now if i loose this baby weight and get back in that bad ass gown i'll grab the tequilla and do it again!
]]> By: Pingback from french-roast.com http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3628 Pingback from french-roast.com Sat, 17 Nov 2007 01:05:46 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3628 [...]This particular entry on the Trash the Dress blog leaves the writer nonplussed that a writer for Offbeat Bride, a self-explanatory blog, finds TTD so utterly distasteful and has duly filed it under "WTF?!" Yes, it's so shocking that someone who doesn't totally buy into the concepts of "wedding as experience" and "don't worry about the marriage! it's secondary to vanity!" is opposed to this utterly wasteful concept. But you know, Ariel at Offbeat Bride is much more eloquent than I am on this issue. [...] <a href="http://www.french-roast.com/2007_11_01_archive.html#5539098441144773282" rel="nofollow">Read full post</a> [...]This particular entry on the Trash the Dress blog leaves the writer nonplussed that a writer for Offbeat Bride, a self-explanatory blog, finds TTD so utterly distasteful and has duly filed it under "WTF?!" Yes, it's so shocking that someone who doesn't totally buy into the concepts of "wedding as experience" and "don't worry about the marriage! it's secondary to vanity!" is opposed to this utterly wasteful concept. But you know, Ariel at Offbeat Bride is much more eloquent than I am on this issue. [...]

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]]> By: Offbeat Bride | Washington DC wedding photography from A Softer Image http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3187 Offbeat Bride | Washington DC wedding photography from A Softer Image Tue, 23 Oct 2007 14:55:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3187 [...] and PS: Lara also does Trash The Dress sessions — but I think we all know how I feel about TTD. [...] [...] and PS: Lara also does Trash The Dress sessions — but I think we all know how I feel about TTD. [...]
]]> By: Ariel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3173 Ariel Mon, 22 Oct 2007 15:11:56 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3173 Thanks to everyone for sharing their comments and thoughts. I'm gonna go ahead and close comments on this one since I think we've talked out the subject. Pingbacks are still open, however, if you'd like to respond on your blog. Thanks to everyone for sharing their comments and thoughts. I'm gonna go ahead and close comments on this one since I think we've talked out the subject. Pingbacks are still open, however, if you'd like to respond on your blog.
]]> By: Lara http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3167 Lara Mon, 22 Oct 2007 02:53:00 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3167 It totally reminds me of smooshing, which i HATE! It totally reminds me of smooshing, which i HATE!
]]> By: Mary Grace http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3165 Mary Grace Sun, 21 Oct 2007 22:43:13 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3165 Well if you say that TTD is wasteful you're right in a way but at the same time not, as what I feel. If you look at it from the point of wasted resources then even buying a fancy dress for just one occasion (wedding, prom or something else) is wasteful, regardless of what you do with it afterwards. But isn't it partially just a way of saying how important that day and that celebration is to you ? In a way every celebration can be seen as a waste. Look at the old days - they were often short of basics like food, yet they splurged on it when they had a celebration.And the dress is often just a small part of the cost of a wedding anyhow. Is it then wasteful to have an expensive reception at all ? A $ 250 k wedding ? A $ 10 k wedding ? A $1 k one ? Any wedding at all ? I feel that the TTD is a fun idea and I think it will be great fun to go for something like that. I agree that most dresses probably survive TTD very well (certainly if they're polyester and you just get them wet, with a silk dress like mine it can be a little tougher but I think it's usually still ok), but even if it gets totally ruined I can't see that I've sinned somehow. If I look at it from a wastefulness perspective I guess I should maybe not have bought that expensive dress in the first place. But now when I've spent the money for it, why not get the most out of it ? Well if you say that TTD is wasteful you're right in a way but at the same time not, as what I feel. If you look at it from the point of wasted resources then even buying a fancy dress for just one occasion (wedding, prom or something else) is wasteful, regardless of what you do with it afterwards. But isn't it partially just a way of saying how important that day and that celebration is to you ? In a way every celebration can be seen as a waste. Look at the old days – they were often short of basics like food, yet they splurged on it when they had a celebration.And the dress is often just a small part of the cost of a wedding anyhow. Is it then wasteful to have an expensive reception at all ? A $ 250 k wedding ? A $ 10 k wedding ? A $1 k one ? Any wedding at all ?

I feel that the TTD is a fun idea and I think it will be great fun to go for something like that. I agree that most dresses probably survive TTD very well (certainly if they're polyester and you just get them wet, with a silk dress like mine it can be a little tougher but I think it's usually still ok), but even if it gets totally ruined I can't see that I've sinned somehow. If I look at it from a wastefulness perspective I guess I should maybe not have bought that expensive dress in the first place. But now when I've spent the money for it, why not get the most out of it ?

]]> By: Dy-Anne http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3154 Dy-Anne Sat, 20 Oct 2007 15:49:49 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3154 I appreciate your opinon but as a bride that has done a TTD shoot I think that you have missed out on some info. Granted the picture you show on your site is a complete trashing -- nothing can come back from a fire (and i worried about how they did that without trashing the bride and having her end up in intensive care) BUT my dress looked more trashed after my wedding in Vegas from all the asphalt then anything I did in my TTD session. After my wedding and again after my TTD I just tossed my dress in the washer-- YES I said it-- The washing machine. It came out fine both times. Right now my dress is balled up in my office on my sewing desk. I plan on saving my aqua colored sash and having my dress altered so I wear it this year at the christmas party. Then I plan on making pillows out of the extra fabric from the train. I didn't "trash" my dress because I wanted to show committment I wanted to have fun and get some really great pictures out of it. You know what--It was incredibly fun. I would hope that everyone can realize that a TTD session is not always wasteful because many of them do not get dresses that dirty and if they do they CAN be stuck in the washer because they are polyester. But whatever any bride decides to do with her dress is her decision, just make sure the choice is right for you since it is your dress. I appreciate your opinon but as a bride that has done a TTD shoot I think that you have missed out on some info. Granted the picture you show on your site is a complete trashing — nothing can come back from a fire (and i worried about how they did that without trashing the bride and having her end up in intensive care) BUT my dress looked more trashed after my wedding in Vegas from all the asphalt then anything I did in my TTD session. After my wedding and again after my TTD I just tossed my dress in the washer– YES I said it– The washing machine. It came out fine both times. Right now my dress is balled up in my office on my sewing desk. I plan on saving my aqua colored sash and having my dress altered so I wear it this year at the christmas party. Then I plan on making pillows out of the extra fabric from the train. I didn't "trash" my dress because I wanted to show committment I wanted to have fun and get some really great pictures out of it. You know what–It was incredibly fun. I would hope that everyone can realize that a TTD session is not always wasteful because many of them do not get dresses that dirty and if they do they CAN be stuck in the washer because they are polyester. But whatever any bride decides to do with her dress is her decision, just make sure the choice is right for you since it is your dress.
]]> By: Marie http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3150 Marie Sat, 20 Oct 2007 00:28:15 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3150 I read each and every comment here and I have to agree with Zan-do what is right for you. If you are an offbeat bride, there is a place for you. If you are a traditional bride, there is one for you also. The symbolism found in the clean, white dress indicating virginity is simply an aspect that comes from way back in history. It does not mean it has to be adhered to today in the same way. Whichever style of bride you are determines the symbolism of each aspect of your wedding, it is as individual as you are. Therefore, if you bought and paid for a garment, it is yours. Stand still and look pristine for pictures if you want to. Play around and get dirty if you want to. It is up to you. Personally, having been married for more than 8 years, I would welcome some ideas for the dress that has been in my closet all this time. I love the idea of TTD, but I also love the idea of bridesagainstbreastcancer. I am seriously considering a TTD session with my husband to commemmorate our anniversary, and then cleaning the dress and donating it. It's the best of both worlds, and it works for me. Like Chris said, we are all going to agree to disagree. That's life - it's up to you. I read each and every comment here and I have to agree with Zan-do what is right for you. If you are an offbeat bride, there is a place for you. If you are a traditional bride, there is one for you also. The symbolism found in the clean, white dress indicating virginity is simply an aspect that comes from way back in history. It does not mean it has to be adhered to today in the same way. Whichever style of bride you are determines the symbolism of each aspect of your wedding, it is as individual as you are. Therefore, if you bought and paid for a garment, it is yours. Stand still and look pristine for pictures if you want to. Play around and get dirty if you want to. It is up to you. Personally, having been married for more than 8 years, I would welcome some ideas for the dress that has been in my closet all this time. I love the idea of TTD, but I also love the idea of bridesagainstbreastcancer. I am seriously considering a TTD session with my husband to commemmorate our anniversary, and then cleaning the dress and donating it. It's the best of both worlds, and it works for me. Like Chris said, we are all going to agree to disagree. That's life – it's up to you.
]]> By: ethicalweddings.com » Blog Archive » What to do with an already recycled dress? http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress/comment-page-2#comment-3148 ethicalweddings.com » Blog Archive » What to do with an already recycled dress? Fri, 19 Oct 2007 21:22:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/why-im-not-into-trash-the-dress#comment-3148 [...] was a recent discussion on one of my favorite wedding blogs regarding the wastefulness of the trendy “Trash the Dress” photos. I completely agree, [...] [...] was a recent discussion on one of my favorite wedding blogs regarding the wastefulness of the trendy "Trash the Dress" photos. I completely agree, [...]
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