My partner and I have decided to only have our siblings in the wedding party, which is great. However, I have a great friend that I would like to include in some sort of role of honor. Any ideas what this role could be? — MP

I would ask this friend what role s/he would like to play, and maybe give him/her a few ideas and suggested titles. Some of my favorite wedding titles include Bridal Bodyguard, Wedding Captain, and Wedding Henchmen, but there are a MILLION of them.

Basically, figure out what magical skill your friend has to contribute, and then build a special role for him/her around that skill. Are they a poet? Have ‘em open the ceremony with a reading! Are they an organizational fiend? Appoint them Lead Wedding Tyrant! Can they cook? Then clearly they’re the Feastmaster. Are they sort of unskilled but gorgeous and you really want them to be front and center at the wedding? Have them be the Illuminator, starting the ceremony off by lighting candles and incense. Designate them to hold your vows up while you read, acting as Wedding Notary.

There are as many great roles for someone in your wedding as their are amazing people in your life. Have fun picking a good title for them, and letting them run with their special skill! Just make sure you find some great way to acknowledge them, whether it’s in the ceremony, in the first toast of the night, or some other way to hold them up and tell the world just how much they mean to you.