Comments on: Video Advice #2

By: Shina

Shina — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 00:23:45 +0000

I've been catching up and I just wanted to say that this is really good advice. Everyone who knows me knows I won't be changing my name, so I think I'll go with the first name intro, and just correct anyone (cough..his conservative youth pastor brother..cough) who says otherwise that I'm still Ms. Me. As for the flower girl thing, I'm so glad I had a boy. He's 5, and he'll e walking me down the aisle then going to sit with my mother and the best man will have the rings.

By: Carla

Carla — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 09:59:25 +0000

Agh, thanks for answering my question! (I get into random wedding-planning bouts every few weeks, get sick of it, forget about it, then start over by checking back on all my favorite sites when the wedding bug bites me again 3 weeks later.)

As far as announcing the couple, I had thought about "and now.. the newlyweds!" or "Carla and John!" or whatever, but it is important to me that everyone realize that I kept – ahem, both of us kept our last names. We just live in an area where it's assumed the woman will take the man's name, and I'd rather make it clear from the get go than have to correct people later.

That being said, I do agree with you that getting into reasons behind name taking is can be unpleasant and confrontational. So, I guess I'll just be Ms. Hansen, and if people don't pick up on that, fine. I just won't respond to Mrs. Smith. =)

Also, I never knew that Ms did NOT apply to a woman who didn't take her husband's name. I always thought it could be used by any woman at any point. So, nice to know! (Although at this point I wonder if I can break the rules and be Mrs. Hansen – just like I told my best friend and maid of honor that when I'm in her wedding – which she assures me I will be – that I shall still be referred to as a maid of honor.. not a matron of honor. blech, grandma-y.)

By: michelle

michelle — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 14:18:32 +0000

When it comes to flower girls the age makes a difference. The minimum age for a flower girl should be seven. Any younger and the child won't really understand what's going on. In my situation, my sister insists that my niece be a flower girl but she'll only be two when the wedding takes place! She would barely be able to pronounce my name let alone walk down the aisle.

As for the last name issue…again, a touchy situation. The best way to introduce yourselves, in my opinion, is by first names only. But, you must do what makes you comfortable.

By: Sam

Sam — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 05:26:27 +0000

As a student of Child Development can I just say that asking any 3 year old to do anything that involves solemnity or holding still for more than 2 minutes is asking for it. I think your best bet is putting her at the gift table! She can squeal about pretty wrapping and meet everyone. OR, just say "no kids in the ceremony." No one gets their feelings hurt and it doesn't seem like you're playing favorites.

By: Kung Foodie Kat

Kung Foodie Kat — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 08:34:50 +0000

the easy way out…no DJ or any bothersome traditional mic introductions!!! I'm the causal girl…beside I figure my guests already know who we are (LOL).

By: Susheela

Susheela — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 03:10:25 +0000

ah, makes sense — thanks for clearing that up

By: Me

Me — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 01:18:53 +0000

Susheela: Ms. is a neutral term, like Mr. It's used so that one doesn't know whether you're married or not (just like you don't know if a Mr. is married or not just by the title). Miss indicates that you're not married; Mrs. that you're married — but the latter kinda only works if you change your last name, I guess (that is, you can't be Mrs. MaidenName). Because I'm not changing my name, I'm going to be Ms. MyLastName before AND Ms. MyLastName afterward — just like my honey will be Mr. Honey before AND after.

By: Therese (Air's mom)

Therese (Air's mom) — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 21:38:24 +0000

I like the way Sassy 'stars' on this clip, laying on the couch wiggling, desparate for rubs! Great prop.

By: kelleyatbrideorama

kelleyatbrideorama — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 21:18:59 +0000

Use the casual first name intro, but before it, have your DJ say "And now, for the first time ever, here they are..as husband and wife… Dan and Kathy!" That way it doesnt sound SO casual and it gives you the feeling of …Wow! We are married!

By: Susheela

Susheela — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 19:55:14 +0000

I could be wrong, but aren't they Mr and Miss going in and Mr and Ms coming out?