Comments on: Marie-Eve's "fun, not perfect" Quebec wedding http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Fri, 25 May 2012 05:31:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Marie-Eve http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-19937 Marie-Eve Tue, 16 Sep 2008 00:11:36 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-19937 Oh, Jody, Im so sorry I didnt find your comment before! It's too late for helping you with your wording and I am sure you found a perfect way to say things... but must it be of any help to someone else, here is a translation of what was in our invitation (originaly in french) : "A diner will follow, for which a contribution of ...$ per person is requested (see joined menu); of course, that will make your presence our most precious gift" Hope this inspires some of you... Oh, Jody, Im so sorry I didnt find your comment before!

It's too late for helping you with your wording and I am sure you found a perfect way to say things… but must it be of any help to someone else, here is a translation of what was in our invitation (originaly in french) :

"A diner will follow, for which a contribution of …$ per person is requested (see joined menu); of course, that will make your presence our most precious gift"

Hope this inspires some of you…

]]> By: Jody http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-9663 Jody Sat, 03 May 2008 08:09:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-9663 Hi Marie-Eve, I was wondering if you could please tell me how you worded your invites asking the guests to pay for their meals. I am getting married in August & would like the guests to pay their own way, for all the reasons you stated above. I live in New Zealand & it is very common for guests to pay their own way at any sort of celebration. Hi Marie-Eve,
I was wondering if you could please tell me how you worded your invites asking the guests to pay for their meals. I am getting married in August & would like the guests to pay their own way, for all the reasons you stated above.
I live in New Zealand & it is very common for guests to pay their own way at any sort of celebration.
]]> By: Marie-Eve http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-2974 Marie-Eve Tue, 09 Oct 2007 14:17:16 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-2974 The whole "every guest paying for it’s own cover charge" thing is, indeed, a very progressive thing and I know for a fact a lot of people (especially in the USA)arent really attracted to that way of doing things. The whole idea is that, instead of asking for gifts, the couple ask the guests to pay for their dinner (or a part of it). It's a more and more common way of working the budget aspect of things out and all the wedding I have attended in the few last years were asking for a contribution to the reception. And noone thought it was such big of a deal... in fact, it simplifies a lot of things: no gift registry to manage, no ackward bills for guests that didnt show up... I guess this wouldnt work so well in a big and fancy wedding, but ours was a very small and private affair, with only people that we're more than happy to pay for the lovely dinner they ate with us. Our invitations stated the fact that guest were asked for money and it caused no problem at all: it was like an evening at the restaurant with a group of loved one more than like a traditionnal wedding reception. Does that help you understand? I can easily see this soundind like tactless and innapropriate for some of you, but you have to admit this IS offbeat. Working things that way and keeping our wedding small and unexpensive helped us avoid dealing with debts afterward and only that was a good point. In fact, we wouldnt have gotten married otherwise. (Please, excuse my pityful english and especially the way I f*ckep up all my verb tenses....!) The whole "every guest paying for it’s own cover charge" thing is, indeed, a very progressive thing and I know for a fact a lot of people (especially in the USA)arent really attracted to that way of doing things. The whole idea is that, instead of asking for gifts, the couple ask the guests to pay for their dinner (or a part of it). It's a more and more common way of working the budget aspect of things out and all the wedding I have attended in the few last years were asking for a contribution to the reception. And noone thought it was such big of a deal… in fact, it simplifies a lot of things: no gift registry to manage, no ackward bills for guests that didnt show up… I guess this wouldnt work so well in a big and fancy wedding, but ours was a very small and private affair, with only people that we're more than happy to pay for the lovely dinner they ate with us. Our invitations stated the fact that guest were asked for money and it caused no problem at all: it was like an evening at the restaurant with a group of loved one more than like a traditionnal wedding reception.

Does that help you understand? I can easily see this soundind like tactless and innapropriate for some of you, but you have to admit this IS offbeat. Working things that way and keeping our wedding small and unexpensive helped us avoid dealing with debts afterward and only that was a good point. In fact, we wouldnt have gotten married otherwise.

(Please, excuse my pityful english and especially the way I f*ckep up all my verb tenses….!)

]]> By: Lety http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-2964 Lety Mon, 08 Oct 2007 21:10:13 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-2964 yes. please explain why the guests paid for their own meals? ive never heard of that. is it a quebec thing? yes. please explain why the guests paid for their own meals? ive never heard of that. is it a quebec thing?
]]> By: Kristin http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-2953 Kristin Mon, 08 Oct 2007 02:18:31 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-2953 "The dinner was then served inside the Manoir, every guest paying for it’s own cover charge." What? I'm not sure I understand. They had to pay to be at the reception? Is this a normal thing in Canada? "The dinner was then served inside the Manoir, every guest paying for it’s own cover charge."
What? I'm not sure I understand. They had to pay to be at the reception? Is this a normal thing in Canada?
]]> By: christine http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-2925 christine Fri, 05 Oct 2007 21:38:25 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-2925 I walked in to "And I Love Her" and we walked out to "All You Need is Love"!!! It was perfect! I walked in to "And I Love Her" and we walked out to "All You Need is Love"!!! It was perfect!
]]> By: chris http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding/comment-page-1#comment-2912 chris Thu, 04 Oct 2007 19:53:49 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/10/marie-eves-fun-not-perfect-quebec-wedding#comment-2912 Great advice. Love, love, love the Polaroids idea. Great advice.

Love, love, love the Polaroids idea.

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